Poll: Any Romantics out there?

[Clov3r]

ALAS! I'm single. All that romanticism wasted. :<

 

[insectoid]

I'm definitely a romantic.

 

[Dramatic Flare]

*checks pants, feels testicles" Nope, guess Im not a romantic.

See, this, in a nutshell, is what is wrong with modern dating.

I don't give a fuck about fucking. What I care about is being the everything for someone, and knowing that they can mean everything to me. I want to listen to her problems, and just hold her til she feels better. God I'm alone....

Nope, I know exactly how you feel.
But women are to blame as much as men, so says applied psychology. Gah. I could rant on this and turn out a text wall. Easily.

 

[Clov3r]

I'm too cold to be a romantic.

When girls in school become interested in me, it's usually because they've noticed that I try to keep things fair. And I don't lie.

But then if we actually do get together, it becomes a problem, because I won't always take her side in arguments if she's wrong. And I'll willfully argue against her, which is apparently not cool in society today. And chances are she's Christian, because this is Oklahoma, and I'm definitely an atheist. Also, "Would you say I'm hot?" "I'd say you're pretty average." "I hate you!"

What the hell ever happened to telling the truth, no matter what it is. Are people today just too weak for reality or something? What's so wrong with 'average' anyway? Most people are average, that's why it's called average. No matter who you are, the odds of you being 'average' far surpass the odds of you being above or below average.

The problem is that she wants to be the prettiest girl in the world in your eyes. Thats the whole point of why she asks you that - she is not asking "Comparing the individual features, do I match the modern standard of beauty better than other girls?". She is asking "Are your feelings for me strong enough that I look beautiful to you?".

yeah pretty much.

 

[Dramatic Flare]

I'm too cold to be a romantic.

When girls in school become interested in me, it's usually because they've noticed that I try to keep things fair. And I don't lie.

But then if we actually do get together, it becomes a problem, because I won't always take her side in arguments if she's wrong. And I'll willfully argue against her, which is apparently not cool in society today. And chances are she's Christian, because this is Oklahoma, and I'm definitely an atheist. Also, "Would you say I'm hot?" "I'd say you're pretty average." "I hate you!"

What the hell ever happened to telling the truth, no matter what it is. Are people today just too weak for reality or something? What's so wrong with 'average' anyway? Most people are average, that's why it's called average. No matter who you are, the odds of you being 'average' far surpass the odds of you being above or below average.

The problem is that she wants to be the prettiest girl in the world in your eyes. Thats the whole point of why she asks you that - she is not asking "Comparing the individual features, do I match the modern standard of beauty better than other girls?". She is asking "Are your feelings for me strong enough that I look beautiful to you?".

I agree and disagree. She wants to be the prettiest world in the other's eyes, but I think he did the right thing. Otherwise he's just telling her she's beautiful to make her feel good and while this is all well and good if the intentions are correct, if he's doing it to get in her pants or just because she wants to hear it then there's no real purpose. Honesty is still the best choice.

 

[dalek sec]

I think I understand what Indigo is talking about here but for me, I'm not the most open of people and mostly I keep my problems to myself. So yeah it does me leave me with the problem of helping someone else out with their crisis and sounding like either I don't care or sounding like an uncaring machine about this sort of stuff, any chance anyone could explain to me why things like this seem to be really important?

 

[jockslap]

I think I understand what Indigo is talking about here but for me, I'm not the most open of people and mostly I keep my problems to myself. So yeah it does me leave me with the problem of helping someone else out with their crisis and not sounding like either I don't care or sounding like an uncaring machine about this sort of stuff, any chance anyone could explain to me why things like this seem to be really important?

simple, its a conspiracy. Women are specifically built by the powers that be to confuse the shit out of men, its just a fact. They claim not to understand us...but its a lie, they know everything about us and can read us like a book, and they enjoy asking men questions like "do you think i look fat?" just to watch them squirm. Have you ever wondered why all the print on womens' T-shirts is always on the breasts? It's simply because they wanna mess with our heads, u wanna read it but the challenge if figuring out how to read it without getting caught, because you know she doesnt think your actually READING.

 

[jockslap]

I'm too cold to be a romantic.

When girls in school become interested in me, it's usually because they've noticed that I try to keep things fair. And I don't lie.

But then if we actually do get together, it becomes a problem, because I won't always take her side in arguments if she's wrong. And I'll willfully argue against her, which is apparently not cool in society today. And chances are she's Christian, because this is Oklahoma, and I'm definitely an atheist. Also, "Would you say I'm hot?" "I'd say you're pretty average." "I hate you!"

What the hell ever happened to telling the truth, no matter what it is. Are people today just too weak for reality or something? What's so wrong with 'average' anyway? Most people are average, that's why it's called average. No matter who you are, the odds of you being 'average' far surpass the odds of you being above or below average.

The problem is that she wants to be the prettiest girl in the world in your eyes. Thats the whole point of why she asks you that - she is not asking "Comparing the individual features, do I match the modern standard of beauty better than other girls?". She is asking "Are your feelings for me strong enough that I look beautiful to you?".

I agree and disagree. She wants to be the prettiest world in the other's eyes, but I think he did the right thing. Otherwise he's just telling her she's beautiful to make her feel good and while this is all well and good if the intentions are correct, if he's doing it to get in her pants or just because she wants to hear it then there's no real purpose. Honesty is still the best choice.

Yes, and I do respect his honesty, but - and this is really the major thing - if he was in said relationship he really should have felt it. And he should also relize she has every right to be pissed off.

Perhaps the correct answer would be "You're certainly the most beautiful girl in my life!" and then you should be able to avoid lying while still making her feel pretty...tactful solutuion eh?

 

[Clov3r]

simple, its a conspiracy. Women are specifically built by the powers that be to confuse the shit out of men, its just a fact. They claim not to understand us...but its a lie, they know everything about us and can read us like a book, and they enjoy asking men questions like "do you think i look fat?" just to watch them squirm. Have you ever wondered why all the print on womens' T-shirts is always on the breasts? It's simply because they wanna mess with our heads, u wanna read it but the challenge if figuring out how to read it without getting caught, because you know she doesnt think your actually READING.

*shakes head* That's quite a generalization and a negative one at that.
Way to show me (a woman ) how mature you are :]

 

[Yassen]

Well I try to be romantic but I always do something 'cute' instead which isn't what I was aiming for.

Thing is, I don't plan, I just make stuff up on the spot. I don't have some pre-set charm or tactic. I just follow my instincts.... although I know how to control my other natural instincts which I find most girls appreciate.

 

[Lord Krunk]

I'm a romantic!

To quote Rincewind; "Just because I'm bad at it doesn't change the fact that I am one".

Yeah, I checked "hopeless". None of my relationships work out, and I'm yet to find out why.

 

[Dramatic Flare]

I'm too cold to be a romantic.

When girls in school become interested in me, it's usually because they've noticed that I try to keep things fair. And I don't lie.

But then if we actually do get together, it becomes a problem, because I won't always take her side in arguments if she's wrong. And I'll willfully argue against her, which is apparently not cool in society today. And chances are she's Christian, because this is Oklahoma, and I'm definitely an atheist. Also, "Would you say I'm hot?" "I'd say you're pretty average." "I hate you!"

What the hell ever happened to telling the truth, no matter what it is. Are people today just too weak for reality or something? What's so wrong with 'average' anyway? Most people are average, that's why it's called average. No matter who you are, the odds of you being 'average' far surpass the odds of you being above or below average.

The problem is that she wants to be the prettiest girl in the world in your eyes. Thats the whole point of why she asks you that - she is not asking "Comparing the individual features, do I match the modern standard of beauty better than other girls?". She is asking "Are your feelings for me strong enough that I look beautiful to you?".

I agree and disagree. She wants to be the prettiest world in the other's eyes, but I think he did the right thing. Otherwise he's just telling her she's beautiful to make her feel good and while this is all well and good if the intentions are correct, if he's doing it to get in her pants or just because she wants to hear it then there's no real purpose. Honesty is still the best choice.

Yes, and I do respect his honesty, but - and this is really the major thing - if he was in said relationship he really should have felt it. And he should also relize she has every right to be pissed off.

Perhaps the correct answer would be "You're certainly the most beautiful girl in my life!" and then you should be able to avoid lying while still making her feel pretty...tactful solutuion eh?

Indigo: Depends on the person. Some people date because they really feel that the person in question is a person they would spend the rest of their life with. Some people date because they want a regular source of sex. The problems do not arise so much from these varying viewpoints, as much as when they collide. If a girl wants to be told she's pretty and needs that reassurance, she should date someone who would do it. I.E you and me. If the person she's dating is cold, tends to be brutally honest and calculating rather than emotional, she should expect no more from him. Ice doesn't melt just because you like it.

EDIT: I agree he should have sen it coming however.

Jockslap: makes sense to me.

 

[Dramatic Flare]

simple, its a conspiracy. Women are specifically built by the powers that be to confuse the shit out of men, its just a fact. They claim not to understand us...but its a lie, they know everything about us and can read us like a book, and they enjoy asking men questions like "do you think i look fat?" just to watch them squirm. Have you ever wondered why all the print on womens' T-shirts is always on the breasts? It's simply because they wanna mess with our heads, u wanna read it but the challenge if figuring out how to read it without getting caught, because you know she doesnt think your actually READING.

*shakes head* That's quite a generalization and a negative one at that.
Way to show me (a woman ) how mature you are :]

He's correct, actually. The question "Does this make me look fat" is not an honest question, but instead a test. Yet women ask it all the time.
Saying yes would have obvious results, while saying no makes the woman think you are lying. This is simply the most common example of such a test, while billions of more subtle ones are used on men as well. I can link you to some psychology articles on the issue if you wish.

 

[The Stabilo Boss]

simple, its a conspiracy. Women are specifically built by the powers that be to confuse the shit out of men, its just a fact. They claim not to understand us...but its a lie, they know everything about us and can read us like a book, and they enjoy asking men questions like "do you think i look fat?" just to watch them squirm. Have you ever wondered why all the print on womens' T-shirts is always on the breasts? It's simply because they wanna mess with our heads, u wanna read it but the challenge if figuring out how to read it without getting caught, because you know she doesnt think your actually READING.

*shakes head* That's quite a generalization and a negative one at that.
Way to show me (a woman ) how mature you are :]

Well, he's not completely wrong. I have met girls who try to find stuff to get upset and sulk about. Whether thats because they like the attention, or it's a power game, or they're just bitchy, I have no clue. I know the women who do this are probably a minority, but christ, they give all women a bad name >_>

 

[Clov3r]

If I didn't have a killer migraine, I'd probably be better off at giving you all answers. But right now my mind is drawing a blank.

Some girls like honesty, others just want to feel appreciated. Telling a girl she isn't hot will probably upset her. But like someone said before, saying something like "baby, you're so beautiful. I can't tell you enough" is always win. That's what my exbf used to say all the time and it really made me feel special.