Poll: Are Going To Try to Stay Abstinent Until Marriage?

[ExodusinFlames]

A+ answer. Immediately when you finished with "worth it",I had a mental picture of ascribing purity a dollar value and then comparing that with how many hours it would buy at street price

I try.
Its just a subject I'm keen on. I like living, I'm sure most folks that are doing it now do too. And those that are dead, probably ... yeah you see where that one was going.
Anyways, I was condemned by lots of people, my current g/f included, about my sexual past. I was bad for having had alot of partners over the course of my life. That kept up for years (we've known each other since we were ten, a year before I became sexually active) then we started seeing each other, and then I made her forget how to use her legs the first time around. That shut her up. And as for the rest of my critics, well ... I have no snappy quip here. Damnit ... back to the drawing board.

 

[murphy7801]

Im an atheist so I had good time first when I was 17 and it was good just remember to use protection.

 

[thisismyonlypost]

No. That special feeling I want for my first time goes far deeper than the ritual of marriage, waaaay deeper.

I see what you did there.

Ooo you and your dirty little mind. No dear sir, I was completely serious. I see it as an almost spiritual connection with my partner, where we would completely 100% trust eachother and be totally comfortable to allow such an intimate thing to happen. Sex as a sign for a much deeper and stronger bond.
Marriage is a beautifull ritual, but to me it isn't comparable to what I wrote above.

It might pay to prepare yourself to find out that the deeply spiritual experience you've been dreaming of is actually just sex. Our friends around the table in "40 Year Old Virgin" put it best (if a little more vulgarly then is customary on the Escapist) when they said: You can't put the pussy on a pedestal.

When you marry someone, don't tell them that you think sex is more important then your marriage.

 

[Jinx_Dragon]

A curious thought...

To those who answer 'No' instead of 'that ship has sailed:' Are you admitting your still virgins?

 

[The Rockerfly]

A curious thought...

To those who answer 'No' instead of 'that ship has sailed:' Are you admitting your still virgins?

What about someone who's married and felt that other people shouldn't have sex until marriage?

 

[solidstatemind]

While this is an entertaining topic initially, it ends up being rather... flaccid. (like that?)

There is plenty of justification for both sides of the equation, so if you are an oversexed nymphomaniac (and yes, the term actually is gender-neutral, although most people immediately associate it with females) or a closet puritan (not that you'd admit it here), you are entirely correct in your opinion.

Why? The old "self-fulfilling prophecy" saw. Basically if you're not comfortable with having sex before marriage, and you do it anyway, you're going to feel a shit-ton of guilt and regret. If you're of a more sexual bent and you abstain until you're married, you're going to feel a whole lot of resentment and regret that you wasted so much time you could've been knocking boots.

So sit down, logically think about your values and beliefs (i.e.- leave your junk in the box, Justin: thinking with your hormones will doom you whether you're male or female), decide what suits your morals and goals, and then make a plan and follow it to accomplish those things. Find someone who you share those values with-- and be honest about it-- and you'll be far ahead of 90% of the couples prior to 1970.

The tragedy of the situation is, as ExodusInFlames mentioned albeit in a slightly different light, people make the decision based upon external influences, and end up unhappy. The truth? If you and your future wife are both abstinent, but you really are both emotionally and physically extremely attracted to one another, yeah on your wedding night it will only last 15 clumsy seconds, but that is going to be 15 seconds of the hottest, wettest, most fulfilling sex you will ever have, just because you both are so invested into it.

So don't give me the 'practice makes perfect' bullshit-- the first time is *always* going to be awkward, even if you've spent years wanking ov-- I mean reading the Kama Sutra. I still remember my first time, and yeah, it was awkward, but damn, if we weren't hot for one another. I won't brag, but I will say that my # of sexual partners > my age, and if there is one thing I've learned, it's that the only thing you should focus on is the attraction (and hopefully connection) with your prospective partner, because otherwise you're just a bit actor in an amateur porno.

 

[ExplosionProofTaco]

I don't understand the concept of Abstinence. I mean, if the world ended tomorrow (which could happen, you never know), you would miss out on sexytime. Then again, If you think about it, No-one dies a virgin, because when we die, We are all Fucked.

 

[razer17]

Ship has sailed.
however i would have sex before marriage, given that i don't plan on getting married anyway. sure i will have a long term relationship, but if i get married it will only be for tax benefits etc. (obviously i will love the person too).there is no point waiting till marriage

Well I spose it evens out. 14 seconds isn't long enough for much discomfort. Didn't think of that did ya? xD

Don't you think the start would be the most uncomfortable? then eventually she would get used to it, except that you have "arrived" far to early for that too happen.

 

[One last embrace]

It's a little bit too late for that

 

[Jinx_Dragon]

What about someone who's married and felt that other people shouldn't have sex until marriage?

Ah, a possibility... It says until but, yes, that doesn't rule out the people who did stay 'pure' until marriage and then did it like rabbits.

 

[Devil's Due]

Nope, I would never wait until marriage for something as natural as sex. Also, as a previous posted stated: Life's too short to wait until marriage.

 

[Gerazzi]

...
I will but only because I would rather not have any bastard children lying around.
It'd make me sad.

But yes the better reason is that I was raised in a strictly christian family so it was always played as if it was something really terrible. I will probably not be able to have sex until after marriage just because of this ingrained religious brainwashing of moral codes.

 

[bluepilot]

ha ha...far far far too late.

I think it is okay to have sex before marriage as long as you are responsible about it...just make sure you are safe (condoms and contraceptives) legal (over the age limit), and ready (do it with someone you feel comfotable with and do it because you want to, not because you feel you have to) .

Plus, regular checkups at the clinic for STDs and early stages of cancer are a must if you are sexually active.

However, I can respect someone`s descision to stay a virgin until marriage...that just did not work for me.

 

[Aries_Split]

have you guys EVER seen a romantic comedy?

we have sheltered folks.

 

[Nmil-ek]

Why do people keep thinking the first time is really special? If anything its really akward and uncomfortable since neither person know's what the fuck they are doing assuming your with an inexperianced partner that is.

More on topic Noooooooooooooooooooooooo and alittle late.

 

[Sebenko]

I can't get married, so the question is void.

But even if I could, it would be too late. Regrets? only who I did it with. Would still have done it with someone.

 

[RobCoxxy]

Only if she didn't. Otherwise, where's the fun in that?

F*ck Christianity, those killjoys. :L

 

[Diablini]

Nope. That's boring. Well, I'm at least going to try and have sex untill I'm married. But no girl is going to do that willingly with me. Guess I'm gonna visit the broadway.