Poll: Are Internet Relationships Real Relationships?
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Oh of course, but there's a difference between 'falling' for someone's character, and falling for the player. Like any facade it's important to understand the nature of the thing and it's relevance to the person behind it.Spinwhiz said:Yup, I can agree. I actually my girlfriend through MySpace and became friends first. We've been together over 8 months and I can only see me in it for the long haulBUT, that was a social site. What about MMO's? People can get an idea in their head about what people look like, how they are in real life, etc. The people that get attached to their "lover's character" may be in for a real letdown if they ever actually meet.
I'm one of those types who think love transcends pretty much everything, so yes I think they are.
Bah I thought this would be about friends to that I would say sure why not, to love most definently not maybe you hear the very rare case but its easy to lie or be different on the internet. Im not a confident guy but over text i can happily tell others to piss off casualy, and pysical attraction is a big part of relationships otherwise sex could be very stale or nonexistent.
Well said and I totally agree.Labyrinth said:Oh of course, but there's a difference between 'falling' for someone's character, and falling for the player. Like any facade it's important to understand the nature of the thing and it's relevance to the person behind it.Spinwhiz said:Yup, I can agree. I actually my girlfriend through MySpace and became friends first. We've been together over 8 months and I can only see me in it for the long haul
I know plenty of couples who met on the internet and are happy with each other. Theres nothing wrong with meeting new people on the internet and calling that desperate is borderline offensive imo.
For "love" you need body chemistry, otherwise its just infatuation. Internet has already proven countless times thats its a great medium for arranging a meeting.
For "love" you need body chemistry, otherwise its just infatuation. Internet has already proven countless times thats its a great medium for arranging a meeting.
No I don't think that they are. I have seen more stupid things come of internet flings than anything remotely good. In truth you don't know a thing about the person that your talking to, they could be lieng thought their teeth at you the whole time. Besides its not a real relationship unless you actually talk face to face. But thats what I think.
Although never have and never will partake in one, I'm a firm believer that you should always follow your heart and love someone for what they are inside not in appearance, so in effect, if two people are honest and open with each other over the internet, yes I do believe they are entitled to call it a relationship.
Other: Here's some proof.
For me, personally, Online relationships don't work, but I'm an impatient person who doesn't understand how genuine closeness with another human being can be maintained through a computer monitor.
That being said, two friends of mine, met online, roughly 2-3 years ago, they've been together through the internet pretty much the majority of that time, him being from England, her being from Florida (or something) They'd had their issues and sometimkes some potential break-ups, but besids those set back, coupled with the fact that they could only see eachother about 2-3 times a year they managed to survive it all.
She recently moved over to our side of the pond and they're now supposedly living happily together in a bungalow up North while he's at Univesrity.
So can it work?
Yeah, if you can work at it without going crazy.
For me, personally, Online relationships don't work, but I'm an impatient person who doesn't understand how genuine closeness with another human being can be maintained through a computer monitor.
That being said, two friends of mine, met online, roughly 2-3 years ago, they've been together through the internet pretty much the majority of that time, him being from England, her being from Florida (or something) They'd had their issues and sometimkes some potential break-ups, but besids those set back, coupled with the fact that they could only see eachother about 2-3 times a year they managed to survive it all.
She recently moved over to our side of the pond and they're now supposedly living happily together in a bungalow up North while he's at Univesrity.
So can it work?
Yeah, if you can work at it without going crazy.
No internet relationships just seem a bit odd to me. You can't have a relationship with someone you can't go and do things with whether that be just lying in a field watching could, going to the cinemas or getting slightly more physical. So it can't be a proper relationship in my mind. Just in the same way that there's a big difference between internet freinds and real friends.
It depends on whether they meet up and are still as communicative with one another as they are online. If they are, then I think it is, It just depends on whether they can maintain it after they go back to their homes.
Otherwise, no, I think it's just a phase...
Otherwise, no, I think it's just a phase...
You guys should read up on the consequences of a lack of social interaction among people.
This is completely non sarcastic: The internet makes you geek. The lack of actual one on one in your face communication means you never learn to deal with assholes. You know who never learned to deal with assholes? The five geeks that always banded together and huddled around their new toy in high school. They usually hid behind an attempt at an air of intelligence. The only social interaction thy had coming from within their group.
The idea that a person like that needs only to clean up (physically wash) long enough for their acne to clear and start sporting a few culturally relevant (and funny) one liners is enough for them to earn some measure of popularity is true. They have returned to the fold and become a part of the group all is right again. The whole picking on the different thing is pretty much instinctual and a hold over from days when it was a biological imperative not to be to different.
Well back on topic. No a relationship online is not a real relationship, in the most basic sense because some 70% of a normal conversion is actually in tones and body language. Without those tones and body language everything the other person says goes through your emotional filter. If you are currently depressed what is supposed to be a witty comment can come across as insulting or rude. Which is why a bad typer gets crap when he forgets his caps lock was on and didn't realize until he posted.
Something you never see one of the geeks (mentioned above) doing properly is looking you in the eye as you talk to them, and not fiddling with their hands nervously when they try to interview with you for a job.
This is completely non sarcastic: The internet makes you geek. The lack of actual one on one in your face communication means you never learn to deal with assholes. You know who never learned to deal with assholes? The five geeks that always banded together and huddled around their new toy in high school. They usually hid behind an attempt at an air of intelligence. The only social interaction thy had coming from within their group.
The idea that a person like that needs only to clean up (physically wash) long enough for their acne to clear and start sporting a few culturally relevant (and funny) one liners is enough for them to earn some measure of popularity is true. They have returned to the fold and become a part of the group all is right again. The whole picking on the different thing is pretty much instinctual and a hold over from days when it was a biological imperative not to be to different.
Well back on topic. No a relationship online is not a real relationship, in the most basic sense because some 70% of a normal conversion is actually in tones and body language. Without those tones and body language everything the other person says goes through your emotional filter. If you are currently depressed what is supposed to be a witty comment can come across as insulting or rude. Which is why a bad typer gets crap when he forgets his caps lock was on and didn't realize until he posted.
Something you never see one of the geeks (mentioned above) doing properly is looking you in the eye as you talk to them, and not fiddling with their hands nervously when they try to interview with you for a job.
Depends. There've been successful marriages from what started as online relationships in games. It's all a matter of the people involved really.