Poll: Are manners an important thing to you?
- Thread starter Kaboose the Moose
- Start date
Recommended Videos
See, what you did was try and find a specific case to judge weather politeness was warranted. i.e- when you asked: "Yeah, but how annoying is it when they ask you about your day? It's ruder to ask that question than not to answer it if you have no interest in the answer. It is all that pretending bullshit that makes people lose their manners in the first place.SikOseph said:
Imagine answering 'Pretty bad. My girlfriend has just broken up with me, saying that we'd grown apart, and I found out today that she was actually cheating on me for three months.' Yeah. Exactly. -- My question was about general manners and nothing to do with huggers and people awaiting long responses.
You yourself admitted that people were becoming more pervasive and I wanted to see how many of the Escapists shared that view by asking them if manners and being courteous was an important part of their social experience. I want to make it clear I am not asking "are you courteous when [x] happens" I am asking a general question which only needs a general answer.
Also, even if you do not care for the particular question or person who asked the question you have a choice in your subsequent responses. You could chose a rude response or a polite response. The choices you make would indeed reflect upon you.
I know you did!. If you read my second post you'll see how I was providing an alternative to your specific statement, which for all intents and purposes ,is how most people responded in such a situation. They lie, to remain polite.SikOseph said:
While manners themselves are superfluous gestures, the effort required to extend courtesy and use manners is (I feel) a decent gauge of how much a person thinks of you. If someone can't even lift a pinky to show me some courtesy, then I know they don't care about me and I return the favor.
It costs nothing to be polite to people - it takes no special effort.
In reference to the comment about going to the supermarket, I hate it when YOU greet the cashier with a smile and they just look as though they'd rather eat their own face than smile back.
I think I'm polite to the point of being a bit spineless; if someone does something that deserves a response, I usually don't say anything.
I live in Sunderland though, so it's either shut up or get stabbed. Your choice.
I like old fashioned politeness; you know, English gentleman politeness. Asking if someone can "call on" you, or "court" you. That's so sweet! lol.
Great topic! Very thought-provoking!
In reference to the comment about going to the supermarket, I hate it when YOU greet the cashier with a smile and they just look as though they'd rather eat their own face than smile back.
I think I'm polite to the point of being a bit spineless; if someone does something that deserves a response, I usually don't say anything.
I live in Sunderland though, so it's either shut up or get stabbed. Your choice.
I like old fashioned politeness; you know, English gentleman politeness. Asking if someone can "call on" you, or "court" you. That's so sweet! lol.
Great topic! Very thought-provoking!
Manners are an oddly constructed social ritual that in some cases mirrors some sort of outdated precaution or habit that often have no place in the modern world. I do believe in politeness and courtesy but "manners" are something I consider useless, something that always drives my Fiancee, who comes from a very British family, up the wall.
Yes I use manners even if I don't want to the jump out of my mouth, I just hate it when others don't use them, if I stop to open the door for them like the gentlemen I am I don't expect to be glared at. Manners can get you far and the cost nothing to use them. I was always taught manners as a child... my mother and father beat good manners into me.
I went to a Catholic school who were really big on manners, so they're quite important to me. I open doors for people, always apologise if I walk into someone and try to let other people go first - this is what happens when you're forced to stand behind your desks until your teacher sits down for five or so years.
The people where I live at the minute are actually fairly rude (to me at least), so I've kind of given up on expecting people to say please or thank you.
The people where I live at the minute are actually fairly rude (to me at least), so I've kind of given up on expecting people to say please or thank you.
I was brought up being taught that manners are one of the greatest tools you can use, and it's very true! The amount of times I've got myself out of a bad situation or come out better than intended just through my manners.
I'd do my best to be polite and courteous, and I still think that being a gentleman is the least you can do. I'll never get why people consider holding the door open for others to be old-fashioned or silly.
