Poll: Are You In a Romantic Relationship?

[MorsePacific]

Yes, I am. I'm very happily in a relationship with a girl I counted as my best friend for the last two years. She's this adorable workaholic who was our high school's valedictorian, who can occasionally be really awkward in social situations and grew up being sheltered by really strict parents, who have luckily taken a liking to me. We came very close to dating at one point, at which she was dating someone else but was rapidly approaching the conclusion that he was no good for her, but it didn't pan out. She pulled away and we didn't talk very often for a while, but we eventually pulled it together. December of last year she broke up with the guy I previously said was no good for her and we called it official on February 17th.

It's only been four months and we hit a couple rough patches because of some stupid decisions we both made, but we're working through everything and we're very much in love. She's quite honestly the girl I can picture myself with in the future and I'm happy to say that she sees me as that guy. We're going off to the same university in the fall and since we're both studying similar majors she'll be dorming in the same building as me. A lot of people would have qualms with going into college already in a serious relationship, but I really want to make this last with her.

 

[Farseer Lolotea]

Got married last month. To a guy with whom I'd been involved for sufficiently long that people said "Took you long enough!" when they got their wedding invites, no less.

 

[Joshica Huracane]

Yes, I currently have a girlfriend, but its a long distance thing. I miss her alot, but it makes the time we do have together that much more amazing. Plus, none of the other women I know like video games and the culture surrounding it to quite the extent that she does. I'm pretty sure I have to love her. =D

 

[SckizoBoy]

Fairly sure I answered this question late last week...

Anyway, no... and I'm not really looking to be in a relationship either (OK, I am, but trying not to), seeing as there's still a lot I need to sort out with an ex-gf of mine. The relationship with whom severely distorted my view of what an 'ideal' relationship should be like.

Shall I pour my guts out?

...

 

[cream]

I have a friend with benefits, does that count? I work as a heating and ventilation contractor, so that's all I have time for.

 

[JoelOfFinland]

Yup, certainly! We've been dating for 13 months and it's been awesome Last summer she was working in France for 2 months and this summer I'm working in Sweden for 1,5 months so we have a little bit of experience in long distance dating as well

 

[Vangaurd227]

My gf broke up with Me last month.....its been tough but im filling the void in by helping out other people

 

[Cowabungaa]

Nope, but I would like to. I just want the companionship it brings, someone who not loves me despite of who I am, but because of who I am. Someone whom I can share my life with and be a part in hers, someone who 'gets' me.

Doubt that's going to happen any time soon though, and no not because I lack confidence in myself. I simply have no idea where to look for a girl for me.

Fairly sure I answered this question late last week...

Anyway, no... and I'm not really looking to be in a relationship either (OK, I am, but trying not to), seeing as there's still a lot I need to sort out with an ex-gf of mine. The relationship with whom severely distorted my view of what an 'ideal' relationship should be like.

Shall I pour my guts out?

...

Fire away my friend. It can help.

 

[StormShaun]

No, but I am intrested in a girl (For everyone who has heard in MANYof the forums I have commented in) I like my bestfriend's sister but she is a bit younger then me and does noes understand this kind of stuff yet (proberley soon, hopefully) and I am hopeing that she will like me as well so I am going to try to get her next year or so, also I have had two relationships so far one has ended with me breaking up with her because I knew she had cheated on me and the other one never really started, so im hopeing this will be better because we have similar intrests also we are both gamers.

*sigh* I would like this to happen, so wish me luck.

 

[Wyes]

Perhaps miraculously, I am. We've been 'dating' for about a month and a half now, though those apostrophes are there because we've both been snowed under with uni work until recently. We haven't been able to spend as much time together as I'd like, but things seem to be going pretty well. She's a little older (old enough to brag to friends about, not old enough to matter too much), but she makes me happy and I seem to make her happy.
Interestingly, one of the few girls I've been interested in who I wasn't interested in more or less straight away.
We're sort of a strange match;
I'm bit of a shut in, didn't have the best childhood ever (nor the worst), still enjoy going out but I hate parties and clubbing. Not particularly independent, or very practical. Only recently started getting adventurous with anything. Not a big family person though.
She's very outgoing, goes to parties all the time, had a good upbringing, has travelled around the world a bit (by herself, no less). Very close to her family.
My understanding is that she plays games, though doesn't really consider herself a gamer.
She's in some ways like a manic pixie dream girl [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ManicPixieDreamGirl], though maybe not so much manic.

 

[The_Decoy]

Been going out with a girl for a year and a bit, it's all been good Going to travel America with her next month, getting rather excited

so wish me luck.

Good luck!

 

[SckizoBoy]

Fire away my friend. It can help.

I will preface my response by saying that I am currently getting a psychotherapeutic consult (or three) from the plethora of medical professionals I know/see.

Spoiler: Read for a wall of depressing shit

I met the girl in question after the death of my first girlfriend, in what was my second round of psychiatry for depression, something I thought I was recovering well from thanks to my one and only wholesome relationship with a member of the opposite sex. Upon her death, I went into meltdown (her dying on Valentine's Day did not help either) despite her dying words.

Enter gf2, who is as emotionally frail as an umbrella is useless in a cyclone (i.e. very). I was in a shit state and we met at the psych... place that we got therapy at. Became friends (same appointment time so seeing each other week in week out while waiting and leaving lead to much happenings), then each other's confidantes for about six months before realising that we sort of clicked. However, I was still hung up over the death of my first girlfriend, and most of our early discussions (arguments is perhaps a misconstrued word in this context) were centred upon removing my feelings of responsibility of her death. So, she accompanied me to her grave every so often and managed to persuade me not to stop, but to visit and say something beyond 'I'm sorry'.

Things got better, but we were never happy. 'Content' was as good as it got, and this was how it was for five years. Then, when we were twenty-two, everything crashed around us. We were in going into the final year at uni, and since money wasn't really going to be a problem, I suggested we try having a child, since if we knew we loved each other and yet were not happy, perhaps a child would give us what was missing. She agreed, but eight months later, our daughter (who was to be named 'Irene') was stillborn. She had an almost complete breakdown and we stayed together to see her better, but there was little improvement as she got manic almost whenever I was in the same room. We broke up, both of us feeling at absolute rock bottom.

I got a rebound (which in retrospect is the worst thing I did to us), which lasted a couple months, and I broke it off when I realised how much of a jerk I was being. I found out how she was doing via her brother and things were steadily improving, for both of us, and we started talking to each other again, just not that often. Over the course of the last couple years, we've started becoming friends again, but it seems that this was a curse in disguise. She was never really over me (and vice versa) and in probably the mistake of the year, I let her live with me for a bit. A couple months in, and she's getting manic again. After an hour of calming her down one day, we agree to have her quit her job and go back to her parents' place. It was too soon for us to see each other (in any context).

Then, I realise that I'd never come to terms with the miscarriage three years ago, as a dream (see somewhere in the Advice Forum for that) fucked me up a couple weeks ago. Now, I need to see her again so that we can sit down and actually talk about it (was supposed to yesterday, but both parties cancelled during the week, so we're going to meet in early July). Because it only just hit me that even though we went absolutely crazy (in our different ways) when we lost our child, we never spoke about it.

For a first hurdle to recovery, that's a fucking high one...

 

[Jacob.pederson]

Married ten years

and yes, she plays Diablo.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Yep. My gf and I have been dating fora year and almost two months now.

She's a little younger than me (but legal, so get your head out of the gutter >.>), and we actually met online. I recently went on a trip to meet her family, and where her dad used to hate my guts, now he thinks that I'm alright, and actually made the joke to her that I was a keeper and that she should marry me. Her mom says that I've been adopted by the family, and even the grandmother, the head of the family, pretty much loved me from the moment she met me. It's good to have the approval of the family.

 

[thecatsme0w]

Me coming up on 2 years together this summer, engaged to be married (I proposed to him), sharing an apartment with a roomie and 2 cats (well the mama cat belongs to the roomie and her kitten is ours) And planning a wedding. We met playing WoW I truly am marrying my best friend and he feels the same way too.

 

[Gametek]

Obviusly yes. As I discover from here [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/9.294730-Ok-the-main-character-of-the-last-game-you-played-attacked-you-How-screwed-are-you], I'm married with scootaloo from MlPFiM.

It feel bad to be a pedoponist...

 

[Artina89]

The last time I was in a serious relationship was about 3 years ago. At the moment I am a proud bachelorette and I will probably remain as one as I want to work in other countries, and it would be easier to do if I remain unattached. If I do find a special guy to share the rest of my life with, it would be great, but at the moment it is not a priority.

 

[Lilani]

Yes I am Though it's funny--he lives in the city my university is in, but I live 100 miles from that college. We started going out about three weeks before the semester ended, and thus three weeks before I moved back home for the summer. But I just visited him this last Friday, so everything is still going great. Whenever the semester starts back up, we will be together once more~