Poll: Best Break Up
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I think you may be me....Jojo1378 said:
OT: I don't think there really is a good way. If both people managed to lose interest at exactly the same time, that would be pretty convenient.
I would say going face-to-face with your soon to be ex-lover and be direct with them about how you feel and that you want to break up, but do not hurt them. Make sure your voice has an autotune effect and you got an R&B beat in the background.
Some of the stories here are pretty bad, definitely worse than anything I've ever dealt with but OP, a simple Facebook status change is nothing, be glad she didn't fuck someone you thought was your best friend almost every day for a week before ending it with you.
On the other hand it can go the other way too. My first girlfriend an I are still good friends years after our very short, rather intense relationship ended. It hurt for about week or so but we both got over it and started talking again and at one point were considering giving it another try but it never really went that way.
On the other hand it can go the other way too. My first girlfriend an I are still good friends years after our very short, rather intense relationship ended. It hurt for about week or so but we both got over it and started talking again and at one point were considering giving it another try but it never really went that way.
It's quite possible that as close as you can get to a "good" break-up is that yourself or the other party goes to the other side of the Earth until you're ready to deal with them so she doesn't keep showing up like a bad penny and you don't both get uncomfortable with your common friends and so on. And if you think about your ex-, you only have your own fool self to blame. Not to mention dealing with witnessing any future relationships.
Ouch, thats gotta suck. I managed to abscond with my stuff, the TV, and the dog to my own apartment before she could lay claim to any of it. On the downside, the company we both worked for got wind of our issues and fired me and kept her.lilmisspotatoes said:
I've had the luck to always be the dumper rather than the dumpee which still doesn't mean it doesn't suck but generally speaking I've not had any particularly bad break-ups.
Some of these stories do make me pause to wonder if I was right in my conviction that soap opera storylines are ridiculous.
Some of these stories do make me pause to wonder if I was right in my conviction that soap opera storylines are ridiculous.
Well, its not that bad. Quite frankly my ex did the exact same thing, I didn't have facebook and then one day I thought "meh why not, just for her" well, that would arose some suspicion cause when she added me she was reported as "single" and knowing her for years, she isn't the type of girl that just "forgets" to update those types of things. We still talk, although she'll never admit why she broke up with me, I know she has a guilty conscious about it.. Honestly, it's been nearly 3 years, she needs to stop thinking I care.
HOWEVER, OT: I have had worse. Worst break up of the 3 I've had. My ex before the last I just told you about, we got into a bit of a fight one night and she went to a friends house. A friend I didn't know she had. So when this guy comes on MSN under her name and starts cussin me out, I'm not thinking this is really real. She then gets on and then breaks up with me, I completely get the wrong idea. My first gf cheated on me, so naturally I'm a little paranoid. I quickly put this senario in my head: She's at HIS house, I don't even know who HE is, or even heard ay mention of HIM, and she breaks up with me suddenly.
Whelp. That turned out to be the completely wrong idea. The "HE" in question was gay... Really gay... So two days after I accused her of cheating on me, I find this out, and I've never felt like such an asshole in my life. After I explained myself, she did understand my side and we both apologized for not making it easy on either of us, but it was better not to talk to each other anymore.
HOWEVER, OT: I have had worse. Worst break up of the 3 I've had. My ex before the last I just told you about, we got into a bit of a fight one night and she went to a friends house. A friend I didn't know she had. So when this guy comes on MSN under her name and starts cussin me out, I'm not thinking this is really real. She then gets on and then breaks up with me, I completely get the wrong idea. My first gf cheated on me, so naturally I'm a little paranoid. I quickly put this senario in my head: She's at HIS house, I don't even know who HE is, or even heard ay mention of HIM, and she breaks up with me suddenly.
Whelp. That turned out to be the completely wrong idea. The "HE" in question was gay... Really gay... So two days after I accused her of cheating on me, I find this out, and I've never felt like such an asshole in my life. After I explained myself, she did understand my side and we both apologized for not making it easy on either of us, but it was better not to talk to each other anymore.
Facebook status change - that's harsh.Jojo1378 said:
I've broken up with girls lately because they wanted to have children, something I definitely will never do with anybody. In those cases it's agreed that we still like each other and that we'll stay friendly and it's actually worked out really well. In one case I even managed to get "one for the road" after the breakup... now there's a good breakup...
I've been through the one where you never get an explanation... that one hurts. Especially when you're a freshman in high school.
I have had friends that have been left for someone that was basically waiting for them to break off the relationship. Though I've never pushed it, I assumed her boyfriend had already been seeing/sleeping with this girl (current girlfriend) before breaking up with her... which blows.
*I also once slept with a girl, starting out an actual relationship, when lo-and-behold, her boyfriend walked in the next morning while we were in bed.... its kind of a deal breaker when you try to date someone and actively lie about not being in a relationship.
I really felt bad for that guy...
I never want to walk in on my girlfriend/wife etc with another person...
Unless it was some kind of kinky swapping night with another couple... which Im pretty sure I could be convinced into
I have had friends that have been left for someone that was basically waiting for them to break off the relationship. Though I've never pushed it, I assumed her boyfriend had already been seeing/sleeping with this girl (current girlfriend) before breaking up with her... which blows.
*I also once slept with a girl, starting out an actual relationship, when lo-and-behold, her boyfriend walked in the next morning while we were in bed.... its kind of a deal breaker when you try to date someone and actively lie about not being in a relationship.
I really felt bad for that guy...
I never want to walk in on my girlfriend/wife etc with another person...
Unless it was some kind of kinky swapping night with another couple... which Im pretty sure I could be convinced into
This is precisely why I say, "God bless the man who invented the pre-nup agreement." Yes, you have those women who instantly take offense to the mention of a pre-nup however my stance is so long as the agreement is fair based upon present financial standing, all is good. If the relationship works, it is a document you will never again see in your life, if not, your ass is covered.lilmisspotatoes said:
While hypocritical, I imagine he believed it was a sense of revenge on your part, and perhaps subconsciously it was. Personally I never fathom why couples attempt to salvage a relationship after one partner has cheated. It is nigh inevitable to end in a break up, bar an exceptionally rare occasion. Was he my boyfriend, I would have cut my losses once having caught him cheating, of course, to each their own.Stasisesque said:
