Poll: Best friends

[Alex The Rat]

This question becomes so much more complex in college. In high school I had about 4 really close friends, but none of us went to the same university so now I just have to enjoy it as much as I can when we can get back together. Even playing SCII with one of them is wonderful! At the same time, I have a much larger group of friends in college, which is necessary because often times most the people I know (including myself) are really just too busy to socialize. I almost feel like two people sometimes... I'd love to see how those two groups would mix, but that will never happen.

 

[chozo_hybrid]

I have two true best friends that have been there for me during the toughest times of my life, and I in turn am there for theirs.

One is my flatmate who I have been living with for around 3 years now and the other is a really good friend of mine that lives just a little out of town, and she is awesome.

 

[Samcanuck]

This question becomes so much more complex in college. In high school I had about 4 really close friends, but none of us went to the same university so now I just have to enjoy it as much as I can when we can get back together. Even playing SCII with one of them is wonderful! At the same time, I have a much larger group of friends in college, which is necessary because often times most the people I know (including myself) are really just too busy to socialize. I almost feel like two people sometimes... I'd love to see how those two groups would mix, but that will never happen.

Hard to say. Some groups allow old friends of yours to easily be allowed in, others will be cut down placing your friendships resolve to its limits. I have dealt with either situation with the same group of friends...groups are a strange wolf pack setting that will place you closer with some, futhur with others...and sometimes seemingly isolate you within the group. It takes wings to keep your head above the bullshit sometimes...especially when you become close with a group of friends. Atleast thats what I find.

 

[joinchoir]

Best friends from high school and college became more like brothers to me. Over time they have moved away and I don't get to see them much. When we do get together it is just like family all over again.

I try to provide a place to for people to gain a sense of belonging and friendship. I direct adult and children's choirs to give people that place to belong. Kids and adults are no different, we are all lonely and seek to fill that in many different ways. Being a part of Reddit may be where many of you are getting your family fix. I am new to this online community, but I really like the way it feels.

Consider checking out a local community choir, church choir or school choir if you are still in school. You belong in a choir.

 

[TheDustyBanana]

I had four best friends in middle school. Kept in touch with 3 throughout high school after I moved. After graduation I kept in touch with two regularly. Then just one regularly. Those are/were my BEST friends though. I'm not really a social person and definitely not good at maintaining friendships very well. So yeah.

 

[Truehare]

I have three very good friends in the town where I live, one of which has been my friend for almost 25 years. Besides that, I have some people that I can consider to be among my best friends but who live elsewhere and I see only on occasion.

And I think that is one of the things that define real friendship: people who you can be away from for a long time and when you get together, it's as if you never spent any time apart. I'm lucky to have more of that kind of friends than most people I know.

 

[SilverUchiha]

I have, maybe, two to four people I could consider giving them a "Best Friend" title. My idea of good friendship is just people who are there for ya and you see on a regular basis.

As for being a best friend, some qualifications include:

(a) Not being as annoying as the other friends I have
(b) Being helpful when I need it (and I return the favors in kind, of course)
(c) someone who I can trust without question (and I don't mean trust to be untrustworthy)
(d) they constantly ally with me in games like Risk or Diplomacy (whether I win or not)

 

[caselj01]

By definition, you can only have one BEST friend. People who say they have more than one best friend are just indecisive or dont want to offend their other friends by saying one is better than the others. The only way to NOT have a best friend is to have no friends at all. As for me, I'v had the same best friend since I was 7, and I'm 21 now, so we know each other pretty well.

 

[Beartrucci]

I have a large group of friends, but I also have a small group of best friends so which one do I vote for?

 

[capin Rob]

I don't like "Friends" they just screw you over.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I have several really close friends, but the two who are closest to me are my roommate and my boyfriend.

Friendship is a weird concept to me, because it's easy for me to be a likable person but harder for me to actually like people. My roomie is one of my best friends simply because she was tenacious in getting me to spend time with her. And my boyfriend... well, we can talk about anything, and do anything together with nary an awkward silence, so I think that makes our relationship pretty special.

 

[Yureina]

I used to have a small group of really good friends that would go around doing things together with no worries or problems arising. Now, I have nothing of the sort.

 

[DSK-]

I had one person I considerd my best friend through the majority of my life, but I was betrayed and as a result I wanted nothing to do with him. I have never really considered anyone else to a best friend because I don't get sufficiently 'close' or intimate with them (if you can understand that).

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I haven't really had much in the way of friends since school. Girlfriends sure(they count?), but no close knit group of friends. It took me long enough to get comfortable with my school friends, and I tend to go missing in group conversations, so in the adult world...I don't really make any kind of impression. I'm fine with it.

 

[KEGman321]

I used to have a good group of friends, and we'd hang out everyday at school, but over time we've split apart. Just recently, actually. Sad, but oh well. I haven't been happier than where I am right now, so I don't really think about it. I currently have just a few good friends.

 

[child of lileth]

I have one best friend right now, and a few other friends that I'm not anywhere near as close with. My best friend is that way to me, because we grew up together, and we've been friends for the majority of our lives. I just haven't been that close with any of my other friends, so that's why I don't think of them the same way.

 

[Shockolate]

I have 3 really close friends that I always hang out with, though I'm an Aquaintance to about 40+ other friends.

 

[ajofflight]

I only have one "best friend", that I've known since I was 5 years old. I think that qualifies him for some kind of title.

 

[Phoenix Arrow]

I have a best friend what I used to date who means the world to me. If something happened, I really don't know what I would do. I believe we're soulmates. Well I don't really, I don't believe in that. But I believe we were meant to find each other. We did meet in a seriously obscure way.

I have a second best friend who uses me something awful. I don't know what it is, but they tend to keep me at arms length. They used to have a thing for me and then started seeing someone else which they still had these feelings and that's how it started. I can only assume they still have these feelings and don't know what to do with them since they moved away and the relationship was doomed from the off. But it just feels like they don't care about me that much, all I have is their word and we do have an awesome time when we meet up.

Then I have a third best friend. I'd do anything for the first two, for him I'd do lots but I'd draw the line. He's the only close friend I have who I don't have some really fucked up relationship with.