Poll: Crying and Gender

[Songbird-O]

Depending on the situation, you can get a gut feeling about whether it is right to interfere or not.

I would help a crying man or woman if I felt like it was safe for me to do so at the time. Likewise, interfering in a problem that doesn't concern you can make things worse for everyone.

I can't stand seeing people upset. I have helped a lot of crying men and women. But not all of them. It depends on the situation.

 

[ClunkiestTurtle]

I think when a guy cries they just really want to be left alone unless you are someone who really knows them well so i would probably just leave a guy crying alone as its likely by interfering you would just make things worse unless he was hurt or something where by i would obviously do something.

But a woman crying is probably less likely to worry about who is comforting them and seeing them in a state so i would be more likely go up and see what was wrong with a woman crying then a man especially if shes hot.....

 

[Elle-Jai]

The only good reason I can think of not to cry is if I'm trying to stay strong and be a safe haven for someone even more miserable.

Spoiler: Kinda reminds me of a Rob Thomas song.

Assuming I know the person and they are the same age as me I'd help them whether they're a guy or girl. The girl would wanna talk about it so I'd be listen-man while the guy would wanna get drunk or go to a strip bar, both of which are more fun than listen-man.

Hey, I'm just as fond of getting drunk if I'm upset. That way I can either a) get drunk enough to pretend I'm not upset, or b) finally tell what's ACTUALLY upsetting me. And strip-clubs... HELL YEAH!!

 

[Plurralbles]

most likely teh guy is actually suffering through something that actually is worth crying about.

 

[Plurralbles]

No I wouldn't. I would do the same thing, regardless of gender. The parts you have don;'t define who you are in my eyes. Shoot, it could be a panda and I'd probably still try to hug it.

wait.. wouldn't the first thing you'd want to hug be a panda? They're so huggable!



*goes and hugs one and gets bitten*

 

[Slayer_2]

I would probably avoid him. I'm pretty sure most men don't want to be seen crying, where as some girls don't care.

 

[HotFezz8]

wow! 50/50 split that honestly amazes me!

im english, so to see someone crying in the streets would be really really weird. if it were a mate of mine i would (honestly) slap him in the face before telling him to pull it together.

 

[Pillypill]

well, i've voted no but perhaps if it were to actually happen (presuming i didn't know the man) then i might well just walk away.

 

[Valksy]

Being a female who hangs out a lot with other women I can safely say that having a bloody good cry is a good thing. I consider it like a pressure release valve that stops your head from exploding and the proper response is hugging (in the circles I travel, any excuse for a good hug is fine).

When my beloved Tabbycat died last year I was in a crying place but my depression medication made it hard to actually cry normally and I apparently ended up yelling in pain rather than crying. Most uncomfortable and distressing all round.

I have to say that when I see an adult male crying I do get very nervous and uncomfortable as I tend to associate it with bereavement or grief of some sort. I suppose that is a social construct in that blokes aren't supposed to cry that when you see it it is ten times as impactful and intense.

 

[SuccessAndBiscuts]

Its the whole male/female mindset thing again.

If a man tells you his problems he wants your help fixing them, if a woman tells you her problems she wants to have a rant, shut up and listen DONT try and help her (obviously anyway) Its how we work.

Men arn't any less emotional than women we are just wired to think things through differently. Im reminded of a quotation (but ive got no idea where I heard it) "When it comes to sexual relationships for the most part men think. "We have sex, that proves I love her." women think "We love each other so we have sex."

Women paint men as being shallow and emotionless because they don't understand how we think.

Men paint woman as being over-emotional and irrational because we don't understand how they think.

Its to do with the ability to compartmentalise your life, something which comes much more naturally to men.

This summs it up neatly.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GuMZ73mT5zM&feature=fvw

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

I'd be a lot more concerned if it was a guy, so I'd be all the more eager to help him. I'm a soft-ass like that.

 

[Woodsey]

Guys crying makes me highly uncomfortable.

I just don't think we should do it in front of other people!

 

[rokkolpo]

i wouldn't help a crying guy.
in fact i'd avoid him.

 

[Yureina]

If a guy was crying in public... chances are whatever is going on would be really bad. The kinds of things that I would not want to be involved with. With that said, i'd probably see what was up after about a minute if someone else had not done so already. But... I have never seen a grown man cry in public before, so... who knows?