Poll: Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race?

[Cedric Rolle III]

Honestly I don't care I've gone inside and outside my race and the differences are slight. My only real complaint and I don't know how to say it without being racist so fuck it. I don't like black peoples hair. Its thick, gnarled, and makes it hard to snuggle up to someone when your being suffocated by their hair. Perhaps there is some secret that I don't know about, but it was pretty difficult to spoon with my X GF because of it.

Other than that, never really had any problems.

Let me say that I am black and am black (to be transparent). I think our hair is (the sh!t) the best kind of hair in the world. There are so many things that we can do with it braids, cornrows, Afros etc. Blacks can straighten their hair, I ask you, can non-black have an Afro(not rhetorical)?

 

[hermes]

Outside...

Where I live, population is pretty homogeneous, so anyone from a different ethnicity would be considered quite exotic.

 

[gazumped]

It might sound petty, but if you were to construct an ideal mate most people wouldn't be flipping a coin when choosing skin colour.

Even with your 'ideal mate' scenario, I'm not sure which option to go on with your poll. As a white women my preference is mixed race people - half white half anything-else - I guess because I like dark hair, dark eyes and not-too-pale skin but I also like the Caucasian facial structure. So I think it kind of counts as inside and outside my ethnicity/race at the same time.

Having said that, my current boyfriend's white with blue eyes and light hair and that's not a problem for me at all. When I first showed my mum a picture of him she went "He's... um... he's very... white, isn't he?"
I laughed, I guess she's not used to me being into white guys.

 

[mgirl]

There should probably be an option for 'don't care either way'. I don't have an idea of an 'ideal mate', I just am attracted to someone, and if they have a good personality, then I would be interested in dating them. I don't think I can afford to be that picky either, as a gay individual, coming across someone that you are both attracted to and you have a compatible personality with is reduced as it is, never mind settling on preferences for ethnicity.

For the record though, I have only dated people of my own ethnicity, but I have been knocked back by people of other ethnicities, if that counts for anything.

Captcha: black and white

 

[game-lover]

Yeah but I assumed most of the girls were of the ethnicity doesn't matter portion.

Yeah but I assumed most of the girls were of the ethnicity doesn't matter portion.

Yep, cant vote, don't care either way.
I can't `picture my perfect person` because there is no such person, there are a certain amount of people that I wouldnt like and some I would like and ethnicity doesn't really come into it.
Doesn't matter what ethnicity they are, as long as they are a massive nerd.

Oh please ladies don't act so high and mighty. Women can be just as petty, superficial, and inconsiderate as men, and in some cases more so.

The person doesn't have to be perfect just the ethnic/race you mostly fantasize about.

Reign it in, will you? We weren't acting high and mighty. In fact, if you'd read my earlier post, you'll see I went through a lengthy phase where I wasn't attracted to my own race for a very long time. FYI: I'm black. And personally, I still consider black men the least attractive to me even though some such as Shemar Moore are fine.

We just said when it comes to our ideal mate, we don't have a special preference. And we stand by that. It's nothing to do with considering ourselves better in some way or whatever. I only said what I did to give a probable explanation for why no women were voting.

Are you so cynical that you have to assume we're implying something we're not? Did you get on everyone else's cases when they said they didn't give a shit one way or the other either?

 

[UltraXan]

While I don't have preferences in terms of ethnicity, as a Caucasian male, my past crushes/GFs have been Asian or partially Asian, though I think it's purely coincidence. I will say that I probably wouldn't date a black girl, though. Not that I have anything against them, they just doesn't appeal to me.

 

[Woodsey]

Makes no odds to me. I've only ever been with white girls but then I've never lived in a diverse area until now (moved to London 6 weeks ago).

 

[clipse15]

Wow is this mostly like an American thing? I'm from Toronto and the majority of people in their 20's are dating or have dated someone outside of their race. I'm Black and my fiancee is Vietnamese but I have dated Black girls, white girls and other Asian girls and i'm not in the minority for that. It just seems strange that people knowingly restrict themselves to seeing people of their own race

 

[Sunrider]

I really couldn't care less what ethnicity / race / whatever they are, as long as I find them attractive.
I'm not attracted to all ethnicities, however, but I've dated several white girls, one..uh... "mixed black / white" (forgive my lacking vocabulary, no idea what word to use in English) and one asian girl. I didn't vote, because there is no option along the lines of "I have no preference".
White male by the way, in case you're wondering.

 

[Waaghpowa]

I'm a Canadian born Chinese male who lives in a town where the majority of the population is white/Italian. Even if I cared about dating within my own race/ethnicity, I don't have many options.

 

[Fenra]

I had the strangest accusation of racism over this once, but guess I should tell the story...

Was in the pub with a few mates chatting away and the topic came up of people you find attractive, as the conversation rolled on I mentioned having a weak spot for black girls, even more than white girls, something about their skin I find makes them so beautiful... and yes I do realize how creepy that sounds, its hard to put it any way without it sounding creepy.

Anyway as I told this to my friends this black guy wandered over to our table and starting going off on one. Calling me a racist, to stick to my own race, that I'm a bigot and the only reason I'm attracted to black girls is some lingering racist sentiment and wanting to "dominate" another race like my ancestors apparent did during the slavery era.

Confused the hell out of me, how on earth does finding black women attractive as a white man and wanting, if the opportunity arose, to be in a consensual relationship make me racist just because I'm white, still baffles me to this day!

Still I guess that answers your question too, I have nothing against dating outside of my own ethnicity/race, would prefer it in my case given my preferences. Love is love and people are attracted to who they are attracted to.

 

[clippen05]

Err, I didn't vote, but I will say I have preferences... I hope that doesn't make me a racist... :\

 

[Absimilliard]

Option 5: Utterly irrelevant...

 

[disgruntledgamer]

If someone thought a black guy was the hottest guy in the world, that doesn't mean they prefer dating inside/outside their race.

Sure it does, like I said if you want to make it more complicated think of a bunch of guys and take the highest common denominator.

Wow is this mostly like an American thing?

I'm from Ontario so no.

Outside.

I wouldn't even consider entering into a relationship with a black woman.

And the trend continues..... poor black girls.

 

[disgruntledgamer]

Reign it in, will you? We weren't acting high and mighty.

You were implying that girls weren't voting because they have no preference, but guys were. Which gave the impression that you were suggesting girls were above all that.

I'm black. And personally, I still consider black men the least attractive to me even though some such as Shemar Moore are fine.

Shemar Moore is half white.

 

[FootloosePhoenix]

My boyfriend is a gloriously blonde-haired, blue-eyed Irish/German man and I am also (mostly) white. Does that answer this particular heavily stigmatized question?

Geez, I re-wrote my response three times because I was afraid of sounding racist. Not sure if there's something wrong with me here, society or both.

 

[O maestre]

im the kind of guy that will do anything with a heart beat at least once... however despite of my man-whporing ways i must admit i have a penchant for far-oriental women, probably due to cultural admiration, unfortunately they are not very prevalent where i live.

so it goes without saying that my dating history primarily has involved lovely white women, sure its not exotic but vanilla is good. in regards to stable relationships my girlfriend and my ex's have also lacked sufficient pigmentation to be considered "outlandish".

beauty has many variations in my perception, in fact the few times i have had the opportunity to be with non caucasian women my interest was even greater. however if i were to discriminate on physical appearance it would be in regards to breasts.... yes i am rather fond of large mammary glands, so much so that i am something of a breast-man. Even though i wont lie, when a round thing on an ity bity waist comes at my face... i do indeed get sprung.

basically i dont care what colour the woman has, green, blue or red as long as she is "fine" and comes in peace i am game

 

[Johnny Impact]

If I were to design "the perfect woman" she would be white like me. Just my natural preference.

That being said, I'd consider any female in my age bracket whose personality struck sparks of compatibility when rubbed against mine. Melanin concentration is something we don't choose for ourselves, it's a dumb thing to get hung up on. We're all red on the inside.