Poll: Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race?

[Kekkonen1]

I dont care about ethnicity at all, but what I do think might actually make a long-term relationship MUCH easier is sharing a common cultural background. If you both grew up in the same country, or at least the same part of the world culturally. For example a Brit and a German may atleast have quite alot common as Europeans while an Asian would be completely different.

Being able to talk about the same things experienced since childhood and sharing the same kind of understanding about different topics really do help, at least from my experience. That being said, if you love the person enough and are compatible enough none of this matters, I just think it makes it easier.

 

[Thatguyky]

There should be a "it doesn't matter" option. I have no preference. I'm one of those cheesy, "it's on the inside that matters" kinda guys. Sooooo ethnicity/skin color isn't a factor for me.

 

[Risingblade]

I honestly don't care. I've dated hispanic girls, italian girls, asians, white skin, dark skin so it really doesn't matter to me.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

as a sort of "russian roulette" gun to my head moment, yeah i'd probably date inside my ethnicity/race. (probably 2/3rds of my girlfriends have been as such to reflect that)

but that wouldn't somehow stop me from dating another race/ethnicity, obviously on some level i have to find them physically attractive, otherwise nothing will fruit beyond friendship (sorry to say, them the facts down there).

the only "race" (and i use that roughly) i haven't full on dated is a 100% black girl, and that is because i just haven't found one that was compatible. otherwise i've dabbled in a bit of this and that in mixes, not that it was intentional by any means, and they all were very nice girls for the most part.

(one trend i noticed was, my 3 mexican girlfriends all loved to bite..alot. sweet jesus it'd cross the line sometimes.)

 

[Mortons4ck]

Blacks can straighten their hair, I ask you, can non-black have an Afro(not rhetorical)?

I had a glorious blonde 'fro in my younger days, my friend.

 

[Strazdas]

Sort of a mixed bag.
Basic info: White male, 23
Likes: White, Asian (all types, i know there is japanese, thai, ect ect)
Dislikes: Black, latinos, indian, arab

Now this is merely about sexual attraction, i got no problem being friend with a black person or anything.

 

[Campaigner]

The OP has a different view on what race is compared to me. I go with race being biological.


I'm racially aware and have read literature that explains the differences and achievements of the different races, thus I cannot date or have a relationship with a non-white (I'm an ethnic Swede). It's also natural to be with your own kind.

 

[Amazigh]

Ethnicity has absolutely zero impact on whether I'd date someone or not. Personality is the most important thing to me by far. I can understand why someone would rather date within their own ethnicity, but personally it doesn't bother me at all dating outside it, in truth I actually quite like the idea (although again, personality is 100% of the deal, not ethnicity).

I've mostly dated white girls, although that'll be because I seem to get introduced to far more white girls than anything, rather than preference. I've dated a black girl, a hispanic girl and an asian girl and ethnicity was never an issue, not even a tiny bit. Despite vastly different backgrounds and to an extent culture, I never really felt particularly alienated by it, it was just another subject of conversation and one that I found genuinely pretty interesting to discuss/learn from. Perhaps it's a silly notion, but it felt like our differences made us closer, because it made our similarities more blatant and the eagerness to learn and empathise with the other always won out. The hispanic girl especially had the most differences, being from a different country (or several in her case), a different lifestyle and upbringing, but I've never ever been so close to somebody as I was with her, even before love struck.

My family is pretty against the idea of dating outside of your ethnicity and while I have to respect their opinions, I can't respect the snarkiness and unpleasantry that seems to go hand-in-hand with that.

If I absolutely had to choose to date inside or outside, I'd go with outside, differences can be just as much of a boon in a relationship as similarities, in my opinion.

 

[waj9876]

Why isn't there a "It doesn't matter." option?

I've already admitted to myself, after a long time of overcoming social norms and expectations, that I'm attracted to not any gender in particular, male, female, both, male-to-female, female-to-male, it's all good to me, this wasn't too hard to admit to myself.

 

[trollnystan]

I didn't vote because I've never dated. [insert tired old foreveralone.jpg here]

When it comes to the "ideal mate" in my head (in terms of looks alone) it depends from fantasy to fantasy it seems. Sometimes he's white - or rather north/west/south European white[footnote]Sorry eastern Euros; regardless of how goodlooking you are I've meet too many eastern Euros that have repelled me personality-wise that I can't fantasise about you =( I'm not talking about those that are for example born or have assimilated themselves into Swedish culture - my Polish-born BIL is one of the nicest men I know - I'm talking about guys I've met who are culturally fully eastern European. This probably means I'll fall in love with a Russian and have to eat my words, lol.[/footnote] - sometimes black, occasionally black African, Hispanic, Arabic, East-Asian... It changes. Most often he's admittedly white but it's like 42% versus the 40% of the time he's black.

So make of that what you will. *shrug*

HOWEVER... Personality will always trump looks for me.

 

[A.A.K]

I could never date a Turk or Syrian.
Too afraid they might be a cousin or something

and I love the culture - when I'm not involved in it. I do my best to avoid my family unless very specific people are involved. I couldn't stand potentially being forced to explore and get involved back into the fucking' thing due to a partner.

So I generally looked for eastern-euro women...or 'north'-asia (Korea/China/Japan).
I was always drawn to the 'look' of those two, particularly Serbian/Russian women; and I found every asian woman I ever met was the complete opposite of my character, and it was agonising to be around her....So I dated one. She happens to be Filo and she won't let me leave. ahaha

I do love her though, so I'll suffer away.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Honestly I don't care I've gone inside and outside my race and the differences are slight. My only real complaint and I don't know how to say it without being racist so fuck it. I don't like black peoples hair. Its thick, gnarled, and makes it hard to snuggle up to someone when your being suffocated by their hair. Perhaps there is some secret that I don't know about, but it was pretty difficult to spoon with my X GF because of it.

Other than that, never really had any problems.

Let me say that I am black and am black (to be transparent). I think our hair is (the sh!t) the best kind of hair in the world. There are so many things that we can do with it braids, cornrows, Afros etc. Blacks can straighten their hair, I ask you, can non-black have an Afro(not rhetorical)?

lol I do admit I would love to do something (anything) with my hair, but I was born with the jew fro.

 

[disgruntledgamer]

The OP has a different view on what race is compared to me. I go with race being biological.

No it is and I do, it's just technically humans are not genetically diverse enough to be categorized into sub-races.

Why isn't there a "It doesn't matter." option?

Because than everyone would just pick that option as a default without even thinking about it, and the poll would became almost pointless.

 

[Cedric Rolle III]

Blacks can straighten their hair, I ask you, can non-black have an Afro(not rhetorical)?

I had a glorious blonde 'fro in my younger days, my friend.

Really XD? Do you have a picture of this is have to see . Pretty Please, you learn something new every day.

 

[Cedric Rolle III]

The OP has a different view on what race is compared to me. I go with race being biological.

No it is and I do, it's just technically humans are not genetically diverse enough to be categorized into sub-races.

Why isn't there a "It doesn't matter." option?

Because than everyone would just pick that option as a default without even thinking about it, and the poll would became almost pointless.

Honestly I don't care I've gone inside and outside my race and the differences are slight. My only real complaint and I don't know how to say it without being racist so fuck it. I don't like black peoples hair. Its thick, gnarled, and makes it hard to snuggle up to someone when your being suffocated by their hair. Perhaps there is some secret that I don't know about, but it was pretty difficult to spoon with my X GF because of it.

Other than that, never really had any problems.

Let me say that I am black and am black (to be transparent). I think our hair is (the sh!t) the best kind of hair in the world. There are so many things that we can do with it braids, cornrows, Afros etc. Blacks can straighten their hair, I ask you, can non-black have an Afro(not rhetorical)?

lol I do admit I would love to do something (anything) with my hair, but I was born with the Jew fro.

Grow your hair longer and get your hair braided, locked or twisted. And if your feeling frisky get beads put in your hair.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I don't consider it. If I like someone I like them :/

Yeah but what do you prefer? Everyone has a preference, just a matter of a certain degrees.

I'm probably more attracted to white men


I grew up in a very diverse area - right by a university, so, actually, there were more kids of different races put together than there were white kids in my area in the 80's, so skin colour isn't an issue for me in the slightest.

Kind of a contradiction there.

I've thought about it and I don't think I can say. :/ Maybe it's more of a guy thing?

 

[dfphetteplace]

I don't really care. If I liked someone, I would date/marry if it went that far, regardless of all else. If I get along with them, then I see no issue with it. I am white, and my wife is white, but that is just the way it worked out. I see nothing wrong with dating someone different than myself.

 

[godofslack]

My preference is race isn't race specific, I prefer high contrast in features, and no race is automatically the best at that.