Poll: Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race?
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Literally not a problem for me, dont really know how it would be for long-term deals... Its the person not the package that forges a long-term relationships.
My probelms are dating people whom I would find morally incompatable, right-wingers, people of... lower than average intelligence, hell some of the averagely intelligent people can be pretty stupid too, stuff like that.
My probelms are dating people whom I would find morally incompatable, right-wingers, people of... lower than average intelligence, hell some of the averagely intelligent people can be pretty stupid too, stuff like that.
I do not care in the slightest about the ethnicity of someone I date. I am generally more concerned about what they are like as a person rather than what their ancestry is.
...I'm really not sure how to vote on this one. My own racial make-up is so thoroughly mixed that arguably the only way I even could date outside of my own race would be to specifically seek out asian or middle-eastern women. But then on the same token you could say that dating anyone that doesn't come from the extra special genetic mix in me would count as dating outside of my race so...
...so damn it, where's the "*shrug* I dunno" option?!
...so damn it, where's the "*shrug* I dunno" option?!
Again with the inability to vote.
I don't really have a preference either way. I guess that isn't really very different for me, is it?
But, just looking back...
I've dated a woman from Israel, an African-Canadian man, an African-American woman, a Chinese-American woman, and a Hispanic man.
So I've certainly dated outside my ethnic group. I wouldn't say I prefer it though. I've dated plenty of Caucasian Americans as well.
I don't really have a preference either way. I guess that isn't really very different for me, is it?
But, just looking back...
I've dated a woman from Israel, an African-Canadian man, an African-American woman, a Chinese-American woman, and a Hispanic man.
So I've certainly dated outside my ethnic group. I wouldn't say I prefer it though. I've dated plenty of Caucasian Americans as well.
I'm Biracial. I virtually have to date outside my ethnicity, which I define as biracial. I am not chinese. I am not caucasian. I am chinese-caucasian. That is what I am, and frankly, I don't care much about it. My ethnicity is not something I mention or bring up or care much about, because it doesn't matter to me.
As for dating inside or outside, I don't care. I only care about personal and cultural compatibility.
As for dating inside or outside, I don't care. I only care about personal and cultural compatibility.
I would love to make a list. Of people who say that while they don't mind people from other races, and will even form friendships of people with other races... but will not date outside their race.
Only because I'd like to compare their names to those who respond to the threads about other ethnicities saying they wish there was something else to play than just white male. I want to see how many say 'Race shouldn't be a big deal' there, and then say 'Only in my race' here.
Also, I can not vote because the 'It doesn't matter to me' option isn't available.
Only because I'd like to compare their names to those who respond to the threads about other ethnicities saying they wish there was something else to play than just white male. I want to see how many say 'Race shouldn't be a big deal' there, and then say 'Only in my race' here.
Also, I can not vote because the 'It doesn't matter to me' option isn't available.
Sexual preference don't make you raciest and I'd like to point out that the poll isn't "Do you prefer to date inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race as a white person" Look back and read not only are there people posting that don't date outside their ethnicity/race, but some say they won't ever even consider dating inside their ethnicity/race, what does that tell you? FYI they're not white.ObsidianJones said:
I wouldn't rule out dating someone from another ethnicity but generally I don't find them as attractive. Of course there are exceptions.
inside, and as male. not against it, i don't particularly care either way, but it is mainly an availability issue. there simply aren't a huge number of non-white people where i live, and then they'd have to be decent looking, and then have a decent personality, and i'd also have to be single...
i'm not saying it's impossible, it is just statistically less likely and hence why i haven't tried it.
i'm not saying it's impossible, it is just statistically less likely and hence why i haven't tried it.
Most of the girls I've dated have been black or Asian, but the prettiest was definitely the one from Pakistan. Religion and family is a much larger barrier to overcome. So many people get attached to the idea of being with someone of their faith. I couldn't care less. I actually find such differences endearing.
Im a white guy and honestly, I feel a more interesting conversation is if we widened this to your regular friends. Your lying to me if race doesn't effect your choice in who you spend any of your time with (I also mean if you area just doesn't have any members of a specific race). My area is about 50% white, 35 to 40% Asian, and 10 to 15% other races. For me, its also mostly about interests and personality (It ends up being the former more then the latter more often then not for me) and for friendships its completely about those 2 things (If you look for attractiveness in a friend then your doing it wrong). It just happens that all of my friends currently (With about 1 or 2 exceptions if you count former friends) are white or Asian. Meanwhile some of my other friends (I use the term loosely in this case) who are more interested in sports then geek culture have about 50% of there friends (That i've seen at least) being black or Hispanic. Not saying that you are all like that, this is just what i've observed in my area, but its just how i've seen things. It also has to do with the fact that about 60 or 65% of the non Asian/white pepole I interact with regularly (Not to say that there are no white/Asians who this applies to as well, there are) ether ignore me (Mostly my fault actually, id rather spend more time with friends im already close with then waste it making new ones), annoy me and my friends regularly, or are mean to me and my friends regularly.
More on topic, yeah, I have to say I have preference towards my own race, with the exception of Asians (Still haven't figured out why) who have an even preference with me. I think of it in a way that if you put 2 girls in front of me, identical in every way except for there race, with one being white or Asian and the other a different race and gave me the choice between one of them, I would chose the one that was my own race.
More on topic, yeah, I have to say I have preference towards my own race, with the exception of Asians (Still haven't figured out why) who have an even preference with me. I think of it in a way that if you put 2 girls in front of me, identical in every way except for there race, with one being white or Asian and the other a different race and gave me the choice between one of them, I would chose the one that was my own race.
I don't give two shits about my, yours, or anyone's ethnicity, and neither should you. I was also lucky to have my genes clash together in such a way that it's completely impossible for others to successfully guess what my own ethnic makeup is, so at best, people can only make assumptions about me based on what they think it is, and I and my sibling also grew up as the black sheep of the family because of our mother seeing what the grass was like on the other side, and we never once were treated in such a way that our skin color was ever something we were made to think about. I've been truly fortunate to grow up where ethnicity and race where never forced on me as part of who I am or a way I was obligated to think, act, or indeed, pursue relationships based on.
I've actually been in a relationship of three years with someone whose racial makeup is quite different from mine - something I didn't even realize until your own focus on sanctioned racism gave me pause, by the way - and it's been a total non-factor except to make racist comments at one another for our mutual amusement. I never feel anything is off or doesn't fit with them, and the only issue I do have is that their family is, as is that ethnicity's wont, extremely gregarious and family-oriented, while I personally am much more solitary and dislike large groups of people, and the noise they tend to produce. Amusingly, though, even my better half has become more appreciative of a quiet, intimate setting after their time with me, and occasionally finds themselves irritated and exhausted by their family's bustle, and eager to come home to the stability and peace my lifestyle has introduced to their own.
Variety is the spice of life, they say, and I'd rather enjoy our differences - some in more measured doses than others, admittedly - than focus on petty and superficial things such as skin color and race.
I've actually been in a relationship of three years with someone whose racial makeup is quite different from mine - something I didn't even realize until your own focus on sanctioned racism gave me pause, by the way - and it's been a total non-factor except to make racist comments at one another for our mutual amusement. I never feel anything is off or doesn't fit with them, and the only issue I do have is that their family is, as is that ethnicity's wont, extremely gregarious and family-oriented, while I personally am much more solitary and dislike large groups of people, and the noise they tend to produce. Amusingly, though, even my better half has become more appreciative of a quiet, intimate setting after their time with me, and occasionally finds themselves irritated and exhausted by their family's bustle, and eager to come home to the stability and peace my lifestyle has introduced to their own.
Variety is the spice of life, they say, and I'd rather enjoy our differences - some in more measured doses than others, admittedly - than focus on petty and superficial things such as skin color and race.
chadachada123 said:
This basically sums me up here. A nice, buxom Scottish girl beats out basically any other white girl every day of the week. But I've certainly got a soft spot for your Eastern Mediterranean, Persian ladies too.
But if we're all totally honest with ourselves, it has less to do with what categories we would group a person into and more to do with how attractive the particular person is. There are plenty of perfectly plain Scottish women and a fair few really gorgeous women of any arbitrarily decided grouping of humans. And I know plenty of people who married and grew old with spouses who are absolutely nothing like their ideal partner; so I think the whole argument is basically moot in the end.
I'm a ginger, we're a little more concerned with just keeping our genetic mutation alive. It doesn't matter whether it's pure, just that the recessive gene becomes sufficiently common somewhere down the line that we resurface to rule your pathetic planet.Lyri said:
Purity is overrated anyways.
If you'd like to point out where I said the word racist, I'll continue this line of conversation.disgruntledgamer said: