Poll: Do/did your parents let you sleep in during the Summer?

[Jazoni89]

Wow...you guys make me feel old.

I've been on my own for two years, and my bedtimes haven't been restricted since I was 17.

 

[Sinclair Solutions]

Sort of. I'm working at my Dad's office three times a week and we spend the weekends together doing family stuff, so I only really get one day to myself.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

My mother never cared enough to wake me up when she didn't have to. I actually used to wake her up in middle school before I went to the bus stop.

We went to summer camp, so there really wasn't much sleeping in then either.

Also, 21 and no license? Seriously? I think I drove under a dozen times before I got my probationary license.

Yeah. My mom wouldn't even let me take the written test to get the permit until I had spent hours and hours studying the stupid driver's handbook, when everything on the test was stuff that, if you were born sometime in the modern era and had ever ridden in a car, you would understand. As a result, I didn't get my permit until the age of 16 -- a full year past the minimum age. My mother is paranoid about me driving, to the point that she refuses to even ride in the car when I'm driving. My dad is the one who has to take me driving, but he commutes to a city an hour's drive away and back every day during the week, which only leaves the weekends for me to practice -- weekends that we generally spend doing other things, and that's assuming I'm even in town, and not an hour away in a completely different direction at school.

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Edit: Although, my problems sound pretty petty compared to yours; I didn't mean to trivialize what you wrote with my reply.

 

[Vicarious Reality]

Someone fucked up at the work bureau so i guess i'm going without money and something constructive to do all fucking summer.
Back to drinking and staring at stickfigure animations!

 

[crazyfoxdemon]

They pretty much let me do whatever the hell I wanted to do back then. Although, given that in my youth, I was an extremely hyper insomniac that couldn't sit still for more then a few minutes, I never really had to worry about sleeping in..

Well.. At least until I stayed awake for 5 days straight and then passed out for 2 days straight.

 

[Craorach]

As soon as I hit the age I was legally allowed to work.. despite still being in school, the rule in my house was simple.

"Old enough to work, old enough to manage your own life."

My parents didn't wake me up unless I specificity asked them too, I was expected to ensure my uniform was clean and ready, get my own breakfast, dinner and lunch, and generally act like an adult since I was old enough to go to work like one.

 

[Dags90]

Edit: Although, my problems sound pretty petty compared to yours; I didn't mean to trivialize what you wrote with my reply.

She pays for everything, so it's whatever. Car, school, all of it.

My school had driver's ed as part of PE and they used the same test as the MVC, so if you passed that you were set. There were some questions that weren't intuitive, like all the questions on insurance. My brother failed the written test...three times...

As part of the "dozen times" I went driving, you had to spend at least 6 hours driving with a driving school, usually in three 2 hour sessions. I've still never pumped my own gas, yay NJ!

 

[Gaiseric]

As long as I took care of business, didn't trash the place, and didn't bother anyone else I could stay up as late as I wanted and sleep in as late as I wanted.

 

[Jessta]

dude I hear you, I have to wake up at 5 for work on most days so I like to go to bed early on the weekdays, my ma has a habit of staying up all night on the weekdays keeping me up till 2-3 am.
when the weekends roll around however, my two day grace period of 10 hour work days, I like I stay up all night and hang out with my friends into the wee hours of the morning and then sleep in. WELL she decides that weekends are the best time to do work on the house these days. So she always wakes me up at eight on these days and complains if I go to bed after 11. I pay for food and rent and I'm 17, I have a second place I could go to live if I were allowed to move out however, due to minor laws I have to have parental consent to move out...
I think its like a parental thing to just try and fuck with our sleep schedules or something, I mean seriously if there is ever a time one wants to sleep you can bet your ass they will want to wake you up...

 

[teebeeohh]

no, they just insisted i have breakfast and dinner with them if i am at home. They really don't care during which time i put my 5 to 12 hours of sleep.
also, i am 23 and don't have a valid drivers license but then again the two places i live in either have excellent public transportation or are so small i can walk everywhere.

 

[Condor219]

Yeah, but they're not exactly excited about my sleep schedule. I go to sleep at like 5 am almost every day, and wake up around 2 pm. My Circadian has basically given up.

 

[spartan231490]

It's almost 7 in the evening (7:40 at the actual time of posting) and I'm nursing a particularly bad case of sleep deprivation -- made worse by the fact that this is the period of the day I'm most alert, which is going to keep me from sleeping for several more hours, despite the sleep debt. Why? I stayed up 'til 7 AM last night, with the expectation that both of my parents would be going to work, and I would be able to sleep in until at least noon today. Well, my mother came down with a stomach bug, and decided to get my butt out of bed at 10 in the morning -- knowing full well that I had been up all night, since she caught me getting a snack at 6:50.

Now, I know what you're thinking -- I'm just some snotty teen complaining about his bed time. The problem is, I'm not; I'm a 21 year old college student home for Summer break, a college student, I might add, who is paying his own way through school, between scholarships, grants, and student loans -- heck, even my entertainment and non-dining hall food budget came from about $2000 I saved up from my last job, which I had to leave when I got my AA and moved on to university -- and my mother still gets me up every morning that we're both home. Now I'm a night owl and I always have been, and college finally gave my circadian rhythms a chance to normalize into what my body needed them to be -- this being a sleep schedule in which I go to bed between 2 and 4 AM, and wake up around noon.

Coming home though, my mother (my father isn't the one pushing this, although he does back her up if I stay in bed and ignore the calls to get up) immediately tried to get me on what she calls a "normal" schedule. I actually came home for the Summer late on a Saturday evening, and was set to unloading my stuff before 10 the next morning, even though my parents knew I had been up packing literally all night Friday, and the rental fee on the moving truck was such that we were going to pay for another full day regardless of when we finished unpacking it and got it back to the depot.

The sad thing is, this is how its been for as long as I can remember. While all my friends showed up with awesome stories about sleeping in 'til noon on weekends and during the Summer, my mother would wake me up at 10 if I was lucky, 9 if I was unlucky, and 8 if God just wanted someone to laugh at that morning. Her reasoning has always been that whatever hour she chose that day was a reasonable hour, and counted as sleeping in for anyone on a normal schedule -- and indeed, in high school, even 8 was more sleep than I got on a weekday, since I had to get up no later than 6 to catch the bus. But the thing is, more isn't always enough, especially for a teenager or early 20 something; we're just wired to be nocturnal.

Now, I know a lot of you are thinking "their house, their rules, get a job and move out if you don't like it," but I don't even have that option, because at 21 years of age, I still don't have a car or a driver's license. Oh, I have a permit, but my parents have been very, very slow to actually take me driving and get me ready to take the test. This is really bad when you consider we live in a state with no public transportation to speak of, and an area of the state which has even less than the rest of the state. The nearest bus stop is 2 miles from my house, and the buses only run once an hour -- assuming they run anywhere near on time, which is not a given -- so getting a job is almost completely out of the question. This is even scarier when you consider that I'm supposed to complete my final internship in the Spring, which is going to involve me being at a middle or high school completely not of my choosing every morning at either 7:00 or 8:00 AM -- necessitating transportation separate from my parents, who also have places to be around that time. (I'm okay with having to be up early for the internship because it's for school and, ultimately, work -- the problem is not being allowed to sleep in when there's no good reason for me to get up, not getting up period.) Because I couldn't secure a job for the Summer, I'm expected to do chores around the house, but because my sleep keeps getting interrupted, I don't do a very good job, and wind up taking crap for that, too.

The funny thing is, for the first full week that I was home, my mother was finishing up her second term at law school, and wasn't home until around 8 or 9 every night -- which is also roughly the time my dad got home from his job. This gave me an opportunity to clean the house at the period when I am most alert -- from about 7 PM to around midnight or 1 AM -- without disturbing anyone. As a result, the house was cleaner in that one week than it had been in the entire 9 months I had been off at college. However, it was not to last. Once mom finished school and started on her Summer internship, I was expected to have all chores done by the time she got home, which is usually around 5 in the afternoon. Rather than understanding that I work better in the evening, she expects me to get up in the morning and clean the house, which is the absolute worst time I could be doing anything.

I'm sorry about the rant, but I was just needed to vent, and Facebook was out since my Mom and sister are both on my friends list -- useful during the school year, not so great when you're home, separated from your friends (due to people living in various places when not on campus), and needing to vent about the people you're living with.


Now that I have the rant off my chest, I have to ask: do (or did, assuming you have moved out) your parents get you up early, even on weekends and during the Summer? Or did they let you sleep in like civilized beings? It's always seemed weird to me that my mother insists on getting me up early, despite the mountains of evidence that letting me sleep in and allowing me to do the work when I'm good and ready is the better option, for everyone involved.

Also, feel free to rant about anything you might be going through; if you managed to get through my wall of text, you deserve a chance to vent.

Admittedly, I didn't read your whole wall of text, so If I missed something I apologize, but wow that is a lot of text. That said, i would tell either of my parents to fuck themselves if they tried that shit on me. You're 21 fucking years old. Roll back over and fall asleep again. buy a lock for your bedroom door. Stay with friends. I would not let my parents dictate my schedule to me.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I had to go to summer school most of the years that I lived with my parents (yay for year-round school and failing classes/trying to make up credits I missed in foster care), but I hadn't had restricted bedtimes since I was probably 14. I stayed up until 4-5 am, got up at 8 for school, and slept when I got home.

Mom couldn't complain because she's an insomniac and she liked the company. And now that I'm older and on my own, I sleep when I choose (although my boyfriend tends to tell me to go to bed when he's at work and I have to work the next day).

 

[Treeinthewoods]

I spent my summer one of three ways until I moved out. I either went to northern Cali to raise sheep, Washington to raise wheat or to my grandma's house to work at the dairy farm up the road.

I never got to sleep in, I fucking hated summer and could never wait to go back to school so I was allowed to sleep until the sun was rising.

 

[Laser Priest]

My biological clock only allows me to get about six hours of sleep, and that's when I do sleep. I generally stay up later than everyone around me and I still wake up before they do.

 

[staika]

As long as it isn't too late into the day my parents don't really care how long I sleep. Besides I usually only sleep in till 9 but I never really sleep in longer than that.

 

[Ham_authority95]

I work, so I get up at 5:30 in the summer. I have fridays off.

It sucks, and I'd rather have another job that didn't require it. Everyone I know isn't up until noon or hasn't gone to sleep yet when I wake up. Going back to school will feel more "summer-like" than actual summer.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

My parents used to be strict about getting me to bed, but they kind of eased up about the subject as a whole. I can wake up whenever I feel like it (but I usually wake up around 7 or 8), and I go to sleep either at 11:00ish or 9:30ish, depending on what was going on the next morning. However, if they see me up at around 11:30 when they said 11:00, they don't get mad about it.

 

[AngryNerd]

Yes my parents do let me sleep in over the summer. Even though I'm normally the first one up.