Poll: Do I have a point?

[effilctar]

Right, here's the story, and don't laugh. So I recently got out of a... weird relationship. Me and the girl did sleep together but she pretty much forced me. The whole relationship to her seemed to revolve around it, and I was too stupid to dump her so I eventually caved. She argues that there was consent but I reckon there was about as much consent as a pet gives consent for the owner to have them neutered, that being accepting it as an innevitability.

MY friends can see my point but no one else can. What do you think?

EDIT: Forgive me as I forgot to explain what I meant by "force". It wasn't physical force, it was more that I just didn't want to have sex, she nagged me constantly, if I said no she would nag worse, if I dumped her, she said she would do stuff to herself and people I know.

 

[Chester41585]

-nevermind-

I've had weird relationships. Just roll with it.

 

[SultanP]

I don't really know what you are getting at here, could you try to be a bit more specific as to what your point is?

 

[effilctar]

Wait, are you implying that you married this harpy?

No, just a girlfriend.

 

[Sassafrass]

You're complaining about having a nymphomaniac for a girlfriend?
Wow.

On the other hand, she might have been crazy and tried to get you to marry her.
So you may have had a lucky escape.

 

[Graves]

Eh, so you are out of the relationship and now you want confirmation about the fact she forced you to sexual stuff you didn't want to do?

 

[quiet_samurai]

So like did she physically force you? Or drug you? If not then it's your own damn fault, you could always tell her no. And seriously, one day you may come to regret dumping a girl that wants to fuck alot... trust me.

 

[dekkarax]

Forcing you to sleep with her is technically rape.

Yeah, I think you may have a point.

 

[You_have_a_name]

your complaining that you had sex? I don't understand

 

[A Weary Exile]

You're complaining about having a nymphomaniac for a girlfriend?
Wow.

I'm sticking with Squatch on this one. Complaining about too much sex? How about the less-fortunate of us who don't get to have sex hmm?

 

[Loop Stricken]

You got laid.
You're a frequent user of an internet forum.

Don't complain, be grateful.

 

[klakkat]

I don't know what else to say other than: dude. Grow a spine. I'm not going to comment on you not wanting sex; I'm sure you had a reason and I'm not going to push it. However, don't be a pushover; don't do things you don't want to do. You don't have to be an ass, but stand up for yourself; learn to tell people 'No' and then stick to your guns. If they can't handle that, fine, they aren't the person for you. There's enough people out there in the world to find friends/girlfriends without throwing away your standards.

If sticking to what you want requires you to be a dick sometimes, then do it man. It's often better to be a dick than a pushover (just... don't overdue it. There are enough of the over-the-top dicks in this world).

 

[The Rockerfly]

How could she possibly force you to have sex with her? It seems like you could have dumped her whenever so you wanted to do it as well
Also, your complaining?

 

[The_Healer]

Just ask yourself: Who is wearing the pants?
If the answer is you, you're lying to yourself.
Please, put some pants on.

 

[Insanum]

You have a point...But theres very little you can do.

 

[Azraellod]

Well, I have lowered my opinions of all those that think you had nothing to complain about.

I'm not really sure what to think though, you haven't really asked what I am supposed to think about. So I'll just say that I think you were right to break up with her.

 

[Threesan]

...she said she would do stuff to herself and people I know.

Nagging is a BS excuse. So, depends on what "stuff" is and if you believed she would carry through.

I would hope that these "spineless" and "complaining" responses are based on the assumption that "stuff" is irrelevant. But you were vague enough that I can't distinguish consensual-sex-with-regrets from rape-by-threat.

But I can say that your pet-fixing analogy is broken, without even needing to know about "stuff". "accepting it as an innevitability" is in my mind a mischaracterization of a pet's thoughts on the matter; Further, the pet has no legal right to decide on the matter, whereas you do.

 

[Amnestic]

Send the lass over my way. I'll be sure to break 'er in for ye. Gimme a week and I'll 'ave her tuned up nice and good. She'll purr like a kitten if you treat 'er right.

And as for your woman issues, I'd suggest you man up. It's quite simple: Would being in this relationship be better for you, both emotionally and practically, than not being in the relationship? If it is better, then you're a twit for dumping her. If it's not, then move along, grab some rebound sex and find yourself a new lass feed your bratwurst to.

Also "forced to have sex"? Really? Why do I get the image of some girl pushing a man onto bed and declaring "We're going to have sex now." and the man puts up a resistance for about half a second before agreeing and removing his boxers?