Poll: Do I have to accept everyone?
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There's an entire south park episode about this. You have to tolerate everyone not accept them.
Tolerating someone.
Not making derogatory comments to them over their sexuality, lifestyle choices, skin colour etc. Basically don't be a dick.
Tolerating someone.
Not making derogatory comments to them over their sexuality, lifestyle choices, skin colour etc. Basically don't be a dick.
My gut instinct used to be to say "you have to tolerate them, but you don't have to do any more," but then I actually thought about what that would be like when I applied it. What would you say to someone who's racist? "I know you don't like black people, but you have to at least tolerate them." Or someone who's homophobic? "I know you think all gay people are sinners who are going to burn in the eternal fires of hell, but you have to at least tolerate them." And when I think about it that way, "tolerance" seems like an awfully weak criterion for human interaction. A society which "tolerates" people of other ethnicities isn't going to treat them fairly. A society which "tolerates" homosexuality can revoke rights far, far too easily.
I honestly think that from an ethical perspective, you do actually have a bit more of a duty than mere tolerance. You have to examine your prejudices, and ask if you have any rational reason to dislike someone. And if not, you should do your best not only to tolerate them, but to accept them. Obviously, we should probably not accept (or maybe even tolerate) the KKK or WBC. But you can't really ignore the fact that from a historical perspective, "tolerating" people who haven't done anything wrong is absolutely unfair to them from a social standpoint.
I honestly think that from an ethical perspective, you do actually have a bit more of a duty than mere tolerance. You have to examine your prejudices, and ask if you have any rational reason to dislike someone. And if not, you should do your best not only to tolerate them, but to accept them. Obviously, we should probably not accept (or maybe even tolerate) the KKK or WBC. But you can't really ignore the fact that from a historical perspective, "tolerating" people who haven't done anything wrong is absolutely unfair to them from a social standpoint.
Accepting others is not the same as agreeing with them. If people are still disagreeing with you, you have to work on the assumption that what they say is plausible to them for a reason. Other than trying to see where they are coming from, there is not much you can do.
People do and will have different views and values. Thing is, everyone will think that they are in the right and will ask for acceptance/tolerance, while never really considering the opposite. Sometimes they'll actually be right, but usually not. See, a lot of beliefs are verifiable, testable. And "be acceptive of everyone" is testably wrong. Should you accept racism? Or tolerate homophobia? Keep quite about national supremacism? Should we allow certain groups to commit crimes because their cultural roots allow and support hostilities to outsiders?
Need I go on?
Need I go on?
Short answer; no.
Long answer; no but, it is far better to at least respect them. If not accept them, then you could still acknowledge them as being just as important as you.
I actually talk about this quite alot with an aquaintance of mine regarding his less than polite views on women.
Long answer; no but, it is far better to at least respect them. If not accept them, then you could still acknowledge them as being just as important as you.
I actually talk about this quite alot with an aquaintance of mine regarding his less than polite views on women.
basically. I am not allowed to have any issues with any type of minority. Not social, political, ethical or philosophical. I must accept them and have no issue with their existence. It sounds rather impossible.gamer_parent said:
You don't have to accept everyone nor anyone has to accept you. All it comes down to what you are going to do about it. My general answer is: Nothing.
I don't like someones views? Well tough titties, ignore it and move on.
Someone goes out there way to find my views then debates about them? Well ill tell them where to go :/
I don't like someones views? Well tough titties, ignore it and move on.
Someone goes out there way to find my views then debates about them? Well ill tell them where to go :/
I wouldn't worry about arguing semantics with hippies. Probably one of the more pointless things you could do, really. If you really have a 'live and let live' philosophy, don't worry about what they say.
but in what context? Is this some kind of club setting? Does this mean you are obligated to be buddy buddy with say, the "don't ever shower and give lots of hugs naked" club? does this simply mean you are not allowed to object to them being around you?SinisterGehe said:
The reason why I say this is because at the end of the day, how often are you REALLY going to need to stand up and outright ostracize someone? I'm not saying they're right and that you SHOULD. I'm saying, you may very well be getting into a tiff with them over effectively nothing.
You have to accept that that's who they are and that you shouldn't think less of them for it. However, I'll be damned if I tell you to never argue with them. If they're wrong, don't accept that! Teach them the right way, just don't think bad of them if they disagree. Nothing wrong with healthy debate between friends.
are you telling me the OP should just be okay with people who listen to Avril Lavign?! Now that's just crazy talk.UberaDpmn said: