Poll: Do I have to accept everyone?

[Ryengu]

If someone's actively doing something that bothers you, I'd say it's okay to ask them to stop, but thinking less of them just because they do something different than you is more questionable. That said, I don't think minorities should have some sort of immunity to any and all criticisms, even ones that have no connection to their status as a minority, simply because they're met with actual ignorant bigotry some of the time. Judge people by their individual actions, not their demographic's general image and if something they consciously do bothers you, politely ask them to stop. It's like hanging up on a telemarketer, you can't hold the fact that they do what they do against them, but you can still say "Sorry, not interested" and hang up the phone. When they keep pushing the issue after you say you're not interested however, that's something you can get bugged about without worrying about being intolerant.

 

[Caligulove]

You don't have to accept everyone, in the sense that no one is actively making you or choosing what you do and the decisions you make. The way I see it is that on a basic level, you don't have to accept or agree with everyone, you just need to get along with them and work with them if need be. We as humans should be able to be better at picking and choosing our fights, or when in comes to acting on what 'offends' us.

Everyone just needs to cooperate with one another. If you can't keep personal preferences aside when dealing with other people (again, you dont have to socialize with everyone, you do whatever the hell you want in your social circles) then yea, I think you would have a problem.

 

[Di'kut]

No, you only have to accept minorities. Because otherwise you're a racist, homophobe or whatever.

 

[Killertje]

If people tell you what to do but cant explain why, they are idiots and you should ignore what they say. With that said, if you ask someone why he thinks a certain way or believes something you dont understand, and they cant explain it, just back off. They probably havent thought about it that carefully and are just used to believing whatever it is you dont understand. Never thought about the how and why of it because they were brought up with their beliefs without ever thinking about them critically. You cant expect them to suddenly know exactly why they believe what they believe just because you asked them. Just accept that they dont have a clue about it, but they dont know any better. Maybe just asking about it will open their eyes, but stuff like that takes time. Most people love believing what they believe, so for you to challenge them with logic and reason is hard on them, because they dont know how to defend their precious beliefs because they have never REALLY thought about it.

 

[Gaiseric]

No. I don't either.

I tolerate/accept(not all) a lot of groups. Some not as much as others.

 

[varulfic]

To clarify my question a bit.
I tolerate and treat everyone equally (Due to my phisophical view of "You are human, he is human, she is human and I am human, we are all human and we are equal". But people been having issue with my view of just tolerating people. According to the "hippie group" it is not enough, according to them I must accept everyone.

That'll do, pig, that'll do. You have no obligation, neither moral or legal, to like everyone.

 

[Bon_Clay]

My gut instinct used to be to say "you have to tolerate them, but you don't have to do any more," but then I actually thought about what that would be like when I applied it. What would you say to someone who's racist? "I know you don't like black people, but you have to at least tolerate them." Or someone who's homophobic? "I know you think all gay people are sinners who are going to burn in the eternal fires of hell, but you have to at least tolerate them." And when I think about it that way, "tolerance" seems like an awfully weak criterion for human interaction. A society which "tolerates" people of other ethnicities isn't going to treat them fairly. A society which "tolerates" homosexuality can revoke rights far, far too easily.

I honestly think that from an ethical perspective, you do actually have a bit more of a duty than mere tolerance. You have to examine your prejudices, and ask if you have any rational reason to dislike someone. And if not, you should do your best not only to tolerate them, but to accept them. Obviously, we should probably not accept (or maybe even tolerate) the KKK or WBC. But you can't really ignore the fact that from a historical perspective, "tolerating" people who haven't done anything wrong is absolutely unfair to them from a social standpoint.

I guess it can seem like a bit of a weak word, but from the average person I think all you can really ask for is tolerance. You don't have to like or agree with people, but if you are tolerant of them you at least can't be going out of your way to do bad things to them.

As a collective and society, especially in terms of the government, you have to tolerate and protect people from injustice. No matter what people's personal ideas are, everyone should have equal rights and opportunities. If someone supports taking them away it should be a futile position as there should be fundamental laws in place protecting basic human rights that no picket group or popular vote can break.

 

[EvilPicnic]

Depends what you mean by 'acceptance'. Well, I think tolerance is certainly mandatory, but being further open to others views is a very admirable trait.

It completely depends on the situation that you are asking about; you're not very clear (hence my wishy-washy answer)

 

[SinisterGehe]

what exactly are they asking you to do?

basically. I am not allowed to have any issues with any type of minority. Not social, political, ethical or philosophical. I must accept them and have no issue with their existence. It sounds rather impossible.

but in what context? Is this some kind of club setting? Does this mean you are obligated to be buddy buddy with say, the "don't ever shower and give lots of hugs naked" club? does this simply mean you are not allowed to object to them being around you?

The reason why I say this is because at the end of the day, how often are you REALLY going to need to stand up and outright ostracize someone? I'm not saying they're right and that you SHOULD. I'm saying, you may very well be getting into a tiff with them over effectively nothing.

It more in a social environment setting. I do not want to be excluded from my school community just and because I do not accept every single variety of people in there. It sounds really primitive seeing that we are (for the most part) adults here. I would understand this kind of behavior from primary schoolers but not from people who are adults. "You either like us or we hate you"

 

[Darius Brogan]

Of course you don't have to accept them.

NOBODY can accept EVERYBODY, it's a fact of life. Would you accept a Serial Murderer or a Child Molester for being what they are? Regardless of upbringing or facts of life, they are something that is impossible to accept by anyone but those like them.

I'm not saying 'Accept nobody', but accept only those who accept you as well.
Being told to accept something 'because you have to' is narrow-minded, juvenile thinking that will lead nobody, anywhere.

My personal opinion: "Accept what you can and ignore everything else until it makes itself known. Make your decision then."

You should never have to look for kinds of people to accept, just so you can say 'I accept them'. When they find you, make a decision, until then, it's nobodies business but your own. That's why it's called 'Your Opinion'.

 

[Keava]

To tolerate simply means to not interfere with other's doings as long as they don't directly affect you. At no point in definition of tolerance it is said that you have to love and hug everyone, just that you don't go around doing something against the given group/individual.

 

[DarthFennec]

In my opinion, one should tolerate everyone equally, regardless of race, sex, orientation, etc. When it comes to acceptance, it's a different story. I think it's perfectly reasonable to judge people and choose whether or not to accept them, based on their lifestyle choices and personalities and actions. Just as long as you don't try to attack them or push them into accepting your views. I guess, you don't need to accept them as people, just accept that they have the freedom to have views that are different from yours. So yeah, that's my take.

 

[GLo Jones]

There is no reason you should accept anyone different from yourself.

Just don't expect acceptance from them, either.

 

[gamer_parent]

what exactly are they asking you to do?

basically. I am not allowed to have any issues with any type of minority. Not social, political, ethical or philosophical. I must accept them and have no issue with their existence. It sounds rather impossible.

but in what context? Is this some kind of club setting? Does this mean you are obligated to be buddy buddy with say, the "don't ever shower and give lots of hugs naked" club? does this simply mean you are not allowed to object to them being around you?

The reason why I say this is because at the end of the day, how often are you REALLY going to need to stand up and outright ostracize someone? I'm not saying they're right and that you SHOULD. I'm saying, you may very well be getting into a tiff with them over effectively nothing.

It more in a social environment setting. I do not want to be excluded from my school community just and because I do not accept every single variety of people in there. It sounds really primitive seeing that we are (for the most part) adults here. I would understand this kind of behavior from primary schoolers but not from people who are adults. "You either like us or we hate you"

Well, if it's THAT vague, then really, I think you have nothing to worry about. It's not like they're asking you to allow convicted pedophiles into a school yard playground or something. You really don't know what this will mean. Chances are, if someone who shows up really *IS* that much of an issue for you, it might be an issue for other people as well, and THEN we'll see what kind of tone they take up.

I say just let it go and live your life man. If someone really objectionable comes along, make a fuss then. It's not like they're making you sign a contract or anything.

 

[Laser Priest]

You don't have to accept everyone. Some people are worth respecting, others are not. Judging anyone based on one aspect that's out of their control is the problem.

 

[Extragorey]

Yes, you have to accept everyone. You don't have to like them - but you have to at least understand your own dislike.

 

[sinterklaas]

Respect and tolerance for other people's views. You don't have to accept them.

 

[loodmoney]

what exactly are they asking you to do?

basically. I am not allowed to have any issues with any type of minority. Not social, political, ethical or philosophical. I must accept them and have no issue with their existence. It sounds rather impossible.

but in what context? Is this some kind of club setting? Does this mean you are obligated to be buddy buddy with say, the "don't ever shower and give lots of hugs naked" club? does this simply mean you are not allowed to object to them being around you?

The reason why I say this is because at the end of the day, how often are you REALLY going to need to stand up and outright ostracize someone? I'm not saying they're right and that you SHOULD. I'm saying, you may very well be getting into a tiff with them over effectively nothing.

It more in a social environment setting. I do not want to be excluded from my school community just and because I do not accept every single variety of people in there. It sounds really primitive seeing that we are (for the most part) adults here. I would understand this kind of behavior from primary schoolers but not from people who are adults. "You either like us or we hate you"

It would be rather helpful if you gave an example of a type of action that would count as "accepting", according to either you or them.

For instance, you say "I must accept them and have no issue with their existence". If you not accepting them is a matter of you saying that you do take issue with their existence (saying 'all X people should all be sterilised', would be one way to take issue with the existence of X people, for example), then I would say yes, they are right and you should accept everyone. If "accepting" someone meant that you had to buy them an ice-cream every time they asked for one, then I would say no, they are wrong and you do not have to accept everyone.

Until you can clear this up, everything posted on this thread is basically pointless.

 

[Denamic]

Of course not.
It's a commonly accepted practice to tell dickbags to fuck off.