Poll: Do you forgive and move on or dwell?

[Bamba]

Well......basically, lets say someone insulted you or did something bad to you such as laughing at you in front of people or doing something that generally pisses you off. Would you forgive the person that did it or hold a grudge/dwell?

Personally, I'd forgive the person if they apologized. I think apology really changes everything and makes me realize how sorry they are for what they've done to me.

So guys. What about you eh guys? Would you forgive people or hold a grudge/dwell? Feel free to share stories too.

 

[Xarathox]

Depends on the person and what exactly they had done. If it's severe enough, I'll usually remove them from my life if at all possible. Physical pain may or may not be involved.

 

[Able Seacat]

Depends on what they did, something small like you mention in the OP, I would forget about pretty quick. But if it was something bigger with the people close to me, I do unfortunately tend to sulk which is very stupid and petty of me.

 

[The Wykydtron]

I think i'm incapable of holding a proper grudge against somebody. I just can't get that worked up over things like that easily.

I once had a friend who was generally unpleasant and actually stole stuff from me and I just couldn't get that worked up over it. Well him deciding to go to Sixth Form and every other one of my group of friends going to a new college after school effectively removed him from our lives anyway.

I can get really annoyed by random crap strangers say or do though. That's pretty weird.

And as much fun as an Internet Vendetta against someone who slighted you on a website sounds, I would rather watch one than be a part of one. Hell i've had arguments with... Some of you. Can't really remember who but hey but i'm too nice to continue with it.

 

[Random Argument Man]

I got a shock today. The girl that I hooked on since last october is starting to date one of my friends...A guy that I've told many times that I was hooked on her. Now, I'm in a pissy mood.

I think it's mostly because she showed me that she wasn't interested and I thought I was over her. Then there was that ******* small idea in the back of my head that I wasn't over her lately. Just to seal the deal on my bad luck, she's dating the douchiest of all my friend.

It will probably take a bit of time to get used to the idea. Their "relationship" is doomed anyway. He's moving out to the western canada. From what I've been told, she doesn't like to "get serious".

 

[Andy Shandy]

I hunt them down and murder anyone who wrongs me in their sleep.

Because I may as well mess with the mass Escapist profiling that is seemingly going on with all of your threads.

I heartily await the "How do you poop?" thread or whatever is next.

 

[Euryalus]

Well I get pissed kind of easily, so if I held grudges based on perceived wrongs done to me I would hate most of the people I know. XD

So in general, I move on immediately.

 

[RadioactiveMicrobe]

I almost always forgive.

Unless I was used. Then it will always be a bitter hatred.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

EX: I'm sorry Johnny. It's been 2 wonderful years. You will always be the best boyfriend I ever had. I just don't feel I'm up to the commitment anymore. But I will always love you, and I hope you find the person you're looking for.

ME: I hope you die looking.

 

[game-lover]

I am pretty sure I am a dweller.

So I gather I'm the option three.

 

[IGetNoSlack]

I've never forgiven myself for some things that I've done.

Other people I forgive pretty quickly.

 

[Sansha]

I get my revenge, and then forgive and move on, and that includes upon myself. I have trouble letting things go without retribution but my best friend is helping me better myself, and just forget about stuff.

EX: I'm sorry Johnny. It's been 2 wonderful years. You will always be the best boyfriend I ever had. I just don't feel I'm up to the commitment anymore. But I will always love you, and I hope you find the person you're looking for.

ME: I hope you die looking.

Fucking outstanding, sir.

 

[DeltaEdge]

I'll usually forgive people for their wrong-doings against me, or at least try not to continuously feel angered by them, even if they don't apologize to me.

More than not preferring to hold a grudge, I find it physically difficult to be able to do so for more than a day. I can't even sleep when I am angry, and I literally have to let go of whatever anger I am feeling if I want to be able to sleep at all. So they way it works with me is, the lesser angers, I can forget about them, and then remember them, allowing me to continue to be mildly angry for as long as I deem acceptable, but for seriously intense anger, I have to let go of it, or lessen it to the former kind of anger, which is really more annoyance than anger, if I want to be able to sleep like a normal human being.

 

[JoeThree]

Did anyone else notice the lack of "I don't forgive" or "I forgive, but never forget, and make sure that if they make the same mistake twice, to hold it doubly against them" options? Just me? Shit.

 

[Fijiman]

While I can get pissed off fairly quickly, give me enough time to cool off and I could probably forgive you of just about anything.

 

[Abomination]

I never forgive, I always remember... but I don't dwell.

I just mentally chalk up the number of things someone has done to wrong me and keep a mental tally. Eventually if the enjoyment I get from associating with them is outweighed by the severity and frequency of negative events I just cut contact and/or rebuff them at every turn.

 

[JemothSkarii]

EX: I'm sorry Johnny. It's been 2 wonderful years. You will always be the best boyfriend I ever had. I just don't feel I'm up to the commitment anymore. But I will always love you, and I hope you find the person you're looking for.

ME: I hope you die looking.

I might love you, and I'm straight so I'm torn.

OT: I was a very forgiving person, until my ex cheated on me with my best friend. I now have a one chance policy; if you've been good to me in the past, I'll forgive a lot of things. Break my trust again, and I'll hate you so much that even The Hulk would be scared. I was used a lot when I was younger, so I'm not letting it happen again.

*mumbles* She even pulled the 'I still wanna be friends' card.

 

[Voulan]

If it's a petty thing, or completely unrelated to me personally, I usually get over it fairly quickly. If I've been deliberately used or hurt, then I tend to hold onto my hatred for a long time, at least until they apologize.

I've only ever had one moment like that with someone, but they've made it clear they want and think nothing of me at all, and since I see them occasionally from a distance, my anger is still definitely there. It's like I could sing "Somebody That I Used to Know" and it would make sense. I could rant for ages about how badly they treated me, and how they are the worst friend anyone could ever have.

So yeah, I can definitely hold grudges.

 

[Sansha]

EX: I'm sorry Johnny. It's been 2 wonderful years. You will always be the best boyfriend I ever had. I just don't feel I'm up to the commitment anymore. But I will always love you, and I hope you find the person you're looking for.

ME: I hope you die looking.

*mumbles* She even pulled the 'I still wanna be friends' card.

The last time a girl said that to me, I replied "Well I don't. So fuck off."