Poll: Do you get along with your parents?

[IceStar100]

Never really knew dad tell I was 25. He's more of an on again off again friend.

Mom I lived on my own for the longist time. I turned 18 on sep 29 and and october 1 had my own place. Sep 30 I slept in my car. She later 20 asked me to come home. She was so lonly and I figured why not. She was unhappy and had been since I left. Since not married and no real reason not to. We get along fine fight more like room mates thou. It's funny in it's own way.

 

[smithy_2045]

I get along ok with my dad, but I generally try and avoid spending time with him. Mum died 10 years ago, so yeah...

 

[Baron_BJ]

Your options aren't very comprehensive. For example:
My parents still live together and love eachother. I love my mother dearly and consider my father an unbelievable fucking ****.

 

[Smiley Face]

I get along with my parents. I've got a younger-by-a-few-years brother, and I'm the sort-of-black sheep who bends all the rules so by the time he can do something, it's okay.

I've always been a good kid, more or less, just because I am. Sometimes my parents want me to not play video games so much, or sleep earlier, or whatever, and we have a polite disagreement over it, which is fine by me, because I Love Arguing and usually win. But we don't do that often, and there's never been any serious fights.

With that said, I get the feeling that I'm not as close with them as other children are with their parents - I've never felt I can rely on them for emotional support, because they have a tendency to mock things and to try and interfere in stuff that isn't there business (and do it badly), so I'm never really open with them, they're never really open with me - they hid their separation for two years after it was official, but I'd seen it coming for 5... So I get along with them, but it's not close. That said, I'm incredibly fond of my rather large and close extended family, so when I think of family, it's the whole collective, not


As to the OT, I think having a sibling gives you more options when dealing with your parents. Because it's important early on to be fair to both siblings, the idea of negotiating fairness eventually worms its way into the parent-child relationship, and puts them on a more equal footing. With the different dynamic, you can shift blame around, look elsewhere for support, have someone to have tensions with OTHER than your parents. Like you said, the two children means that each one can spend some time being unscrutinized, I imagine that it relieves tensions. A lot of the only children I know got away from home as fast as they could.

 

[Wintermoot]

I have a little sister and I get along with my parents.
my sister not so much.....

 

[Rusman]

For the most part I get along great with my parents. Some days I think; "I need to get out of this house" but house/flat rent is crazy expensive so I kind of rely on my parent right now.

 

[Erana]

My mother and I? Fairly well.
At times, I think she expects a little to much of me emotionally, but her parents... Well, she has no real basis for what is normal and healthy. She's had to be aware of everything all the time, so she'll get frustrated with me sometimes when I can't reciprocate her superhuman perception.
Like not taking things personally when she's crabby over something at work or her knee hurting or something.

She really does expect a lot out of my sister and I, but when you get two kids through college by 18, you're doing something right.

My father?
I don't think he'll ever change, and he isn't a positive influence in my life in his current state. Most of the time, its like he's already dead, but when he does interact with us... Well, he always finds ways to try to assert some kind of power. I'm just done with his games, and I don't speak with him any more.
I don't utterly despise him, which I think is more than he can really ask for.
But that isn't what he asks for, he sends me messages about how important forgiveness is. But never has he offered a sincere apology.

 

[silver wolf009]

Well, we have our scuffs, but for the most part, I get along with them really well. It's not like we hate each other or anything like that, we just sometimes don't see eye to eye is all.

 

[MetalMagpie]

I've always got on famously with my parents. My mum is my relationship counsellor, my dad is my careers advisor, and they're both great people to hang out with (we all share a similar sense of humour). They've given me loads of support throughout my life, and I've never felt under pressure from them.

I have no idea if this is connected to the fact that my younger sister has been a Difficult Child (capital letters important) from the age of two until the present day (aged twenty-two). So, in comparison, my parents have no complaints about anything I do!

 

[White_Lama]

Have a bigger brother (25) and a smaller sister (19), I am 22.

We all get along fine with ourselves and our parents.

 

[RanD00M]

I'm the youngest of three. My sister surpasses me by seven years and my brother does by seventeen years. They treat us all fairly equally, maybe me a little better being the only one that still lives at home.
They're the best parents I could hope for and I wouldn't change them for anything or anyone else. All things that I have to complain about them are made null by the fact they they're nitpicky.

As you might have read by the text you can guess that we do nothing but get along well. We laugh together, and I can talk to them about anything.

I love my parents and that's final.

 

[FamoFunk]

Can't really answer your poll tbh, not enough options.

We get along OK, more so with my Mum than Dad, but have more in common with my Dad. Me and my Dad never used to see eye-to-eye, but it soon changed after I had a baby as he massively dotes on her.

I have two older siblings, and I'm the only Girl, but I think my relationship with our parents was the most strained.

 

[Necroid_Neko]

My aggressive mother blames me for her weight gain, safe to say we don't get along at all.
And she takes it out on my dad, who takes it out on me...so I'm getting it from both barrels. Happy families ftw!

 

[Bubba Doongai]

I have an older sister and I, for the most part, get along with my parents. That requires a bit of qualification though.

I don't really love my family, my feelings towards them are equivalent to my feelings towards everyone else. So if I find one of them consistently annoying I can honestly say 'I just don't like them', rather than saying 'oh but I love them really'. That pretty much applies to my Dad. He's nice enough and quite generous but at the same time we share no interests, we can't sustain a conversation and I find almost all of his habits very annoying. It gets to the point where I'll go downstairs to make breakfast in the morning, he'll be in the kitchen and if he utters one word I'll instantly get very angry. I won't show it but I still feel it. So yeah, I just don't really like my dad.

My mum's really nice and considerate and I like almost everything about her. However, she tends to mother me too much when I crave independence and we argue about various things quite a lot. I've noticed lately that there have been quite a few times where she hasn't trusted me when I've given her no grounds to be distrustful. For instance, I'm supposed to have a driving lesson tomorrow but I've been ill for the past few days. If I'm even slightly ill I know I perform horribly and learn nothing, seeing as we can't progress. Unfortunately, if you cancel less than a week in advance my driving instructor charges you. My mum then keeps trying to tell me to do it anyway, refusing to believe that being ill affects my performance so much. That kind of thing pisses me off seeing as I'm the only one who can know how I feel.

Also, there are times when I express a point of view or my feelings towards something to be replied to with, 'That's not the way we raised you.' Not in an angry, 'Do things our way!' approach, more of a 'We're disappointed you didn't turn out like we wanted you to.' They'll ask me if I think they neglected me too much, since apparently they paid more attention to my sister (she needed it though).

Something I really like about my parents' approach though is that they're very laid back. I'm allowed to do almost anything I want but I don't abuse that freedom, I imagine if I did it might be revoked. I tend to take that kind of freedom for granted until I see how strict some of my friends' parents are.

 

[Phasmal]

I have two older sisters and one younger brother.

I couldn't really choose an option, I mean, I get on with my mum when we aren't in the same room. Well, the same country.

My parents divorced when I was eight, my dad sort of faded out of our lives after that, I saw him last year, and then four years before that, so I don't expect to see him again for several years, dont even know where he is.
I get on socially with my parents (mum, dad, step-dad), but I wouldn't say I think they are great parents. I get on better with them than my sisters do. But my parents are complicated people.

 

[Zen Toombs]

My parents did some dumb things, and also restricted and sheltered me far more than was healthy for me. But I know they meant the best with everything they did, and I love them for it.

 

[ZehMadScientist]

I have a younger brother, and I get along with my parents just fine.

My mom is probably the most fun person I know, as she takes over my speech patterns. Phrases like "No shit, Sherlock" and other memetic phrases are quite common. And hilarious. She does have a bad habit of constantly dissing me when my friends come over though. It makes introducing any future girlfriends I might eventually get unnecessarily harder. The person I love and trust the most.

My dad can range from overly serious to ridiculously silly. He has the ability to come up with the lamest puns at any given time and situation. Facepalm worthy ones. He does have some anger issues though, and is quite the heavy drinker, so the occasional fireworks fly around the house now and then (It was especially bad when he started to quit smoking). He can irritate me to no end in one situation (Usually regarding school), and be my best buddy at another time. It is pretty complicated, but I love him very much.

My little brother is about to enter junior high, and is a rather timid kid. Quite naive too. We get along ok, but I somehow think he is afraid of me.

In any case, there are a few problems, but relatively speaking, I get along with my family just fine.

 

[Elvis Starburst]

I get along with them great, same with my brothers. No real complaints at all really

 

[Zaverexus]

I have one younger brother and get along with my parents well.
I don't believe having siblings "takes the pressure off". Parents will always be parents, sometimes more intensely to multiple kids. In my experience the axe comes down just as hard on one of a few as one of one, there's just the roulette chance of it being another kid who makes a mistake.
My mom is very understanding and supportive. I know I can talk to her about most things and sometimes do. She can be overprotective much of the time but in many cases I am able to negotiate rules and she lets us talk it over. She never stays upset for long if I make a mistake.
My dad is more often at work than my mom, and is less strict on rules, but more severe is you screw up. Over time I became more like him: stubborn and opinionated, so I can often sympathize with him, but we also butt heads if we disagree.
I get along with and love both my parents, even though we may agree on less as I get older. I know I can talk to them and they will support me.