Poll: Do you think I did the right thing?
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You did the right thing. At least you won't have to live with the uncertainty in never knowing what could have been.
There's no harm in asking someone out if you feel it's right. Also as you can see that you are still friends, so even though they said no you can still be friends.
If you are both ok with each other after she said no, then no harm done!
Something like that can never be predicted as it entirely depends on how the other party reacts to your affection.
If she says no and you two have a laugh about it then fab, no harm done.
But if she despises you for it (which in your case she obviously doesn't so that's good) then you are in an awkward situation.
Something like that can never be predicted as it entirely depends on how the other party reacts to your affection.
If she says no and you two have a laugh about it then fab, no harm done.
But if she despises you for it (which in your case she obviously doesn't so that's good) then you are in an awkward situation.
IMHO it's always an awkward situation, even if they seem OK with it. Been there, done that, made stilted and awkward conversation with minimal eye contact for a few months after. It never really goes back to how it was before.TimeLord said:
its good that nothing came of it. but from now on you will be the guy who asked her out every time you talk. unless loads of people as her out, in which case she might not notice, which could be worse for your self estime
I really don't see how you could even consider it was the wrong thing to do. She's a good friend, you've built a relationship, your feelings grew stronger, and you asked her out. Perfectly reasonable and sensible and there's not really anything else to say or do.
Just continue being good friends with her and get back in the game. Who knows, maybe even showing interest in other girls will make her jealous and eventually fool for you. But don't do it because of that.
Just continue being good friends with her and get back in the game. Who knows, maybe even showing interest in other girls will make her jealous and eventually fool for you. But don't do it because of that.
You did the right thing. If you didn't, you'd wonder all the time if you did the wrong thing, which is worse. Now you can assure yourself that you took the leap, and nobody got harmed. Hopefully she can keep her promise of staying friends.
Thanks guys! It was actually the Escapist that made me ask her out, the thread about regrets. But she's seeing someone already, and she said that she thought it was good to act on a feeling. So oh well. Anyway that's made me feel a lot happier about the situation 