Poll: Do you think spanking is wrong?

[Durxom]

This little topic came into discussion a little while ago, while being bored at work.

In some places now, spanking or hitting your child is outright banned and you can be arrest for such a thing(I think..don't hold me to this), while in generations past, it was a reasonable way for disciplining your kid. For some reason the view on this has changed, which leads to many little blurps on shows like Dr. Phil, with parents not know what to do with their children, or feeling they will emotionally scar them if they do so. So what I want to know is, what is your view on this whole affair?

While I'm only 19 and not a parent yet, I think if I do have kids, there will be some spanking/physical discipline if things get out of hand. Some of the kids I see today are so..loose, bratty, and walk all over their parents, while just a little bit of discipline and punishment would go a long way over time to stop some aggressive behavior. This may not be entirely true for all circumstances, but I still think it could be helpful in the long run, this is just my point of view though.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

I think sometimes yes it is necessary, however I would only do so as a last resort.

 

[Westaway]

I got spanked. I believe I turned out ok.

 

[Marter]

I don't believe it's "wrong", but I do believe there are better ways with dealing with a child.

When you spank them, you teach them to be fearful of the pain, and they won't misbehave because of that fear. They do not really learn why what they did is wrong though, and can end up being more of a problem later on.

If you sit them down and tell them why what they did is wrong, you not only show them more respect, (something they'll appreciate), you'll instil good values in them, and they won't misbehave because they know it's wrong.

 

[Phlakes]

Hell, it didn't work on me (my parents were lucky I wasn't a rebellious type, or they would've had a lot of trouble). And if it doesn't work, it shouldn't be done. Not to mention there are other, less violent ways to punish children.

 

[eggy32]

I've got no problem with it. I didn't like it when it happened to me but I suppose that's the point. It's a pretty strong deterrent. Works an awful lot better than just taking something the child likes away or putting them in the naughty corner.

I don't think it should be the only type of punishment though and a parent should always explain why they smacked the child so they understand that what they did was wrong as well as being punished.

 

[MisterShine]

I had the black smacked off my ass on several occasions, I turned out fine.

Trouble being, making sure you hit to teach a lesson and not just because you're angry. And, you know, not seriously hurting the kid.

 

[Ickorus]

Yes, I say this because my dad used to do it to my older brother when he was bad and he says he truly regrets doing it.

Im just gonna listen to the person with experience.

 

[lostzombies.com]

I got spanked on the ass a few times, i didn't misbehave in school or at home because I didnt want to get spanked again. A red mark which hurts for 10 seconds never has and never will hurt anyone.

If teachers could do it then western society wouldn't be quickly be taking a one way ride on the turd shoot

 

[Mr. Google]

I was spanked and i respect my parents (i dont like my dad but i respect him) either way spanking is good but obviously shouldnt be over done

 

[Baneat]

It never needs to be done, it's abuse of your physical strength over your child. How the fuck is that something to teach to children? that we solve things through violence? People can be reasoned with, and if your child doesn't respect you you don't fucking hit them, because clearly you haven't validated yourself to them to earn their respect.

 

[Some_Jackass]

Only if they ask for it.......ya know, like when the little shit breaks something expensive.....or like when my ex-girlfriend deliberatly asked me to spank her.

...Either way, it can sometimes be very justified.

But yeah, (at least in America) if we're allowed to execute, then giving a derseving child a red ass should be allowed-but even then, only as a last resort.

 

[Space Spoons]

I don't think spanking is especially wrong, per se, I just think it's likely to send the wrong message. When you spank a kid, you're not putting into their mind that what they did is wrong, you're putting into their mind that what they did results in pain. Maybe some people might view them as one and the same, but they really aren't, and I believe making that distinction makes all the difference. Firm boundaries, rules and, in the event of misbehavior, discussion and punishment within reason. Talk to your kid, make them understand, and then, take away the TV or the video games for a few days. That's what I believe in. That's how I was raised and I turned out okay, after all.

 

[Wait...What]

There is nothing wrong with Spanking

Oh.....i misunderstood the thread.

 

[child of lileth]

I got spankings, the belt (one of those 80's giant belt buckle ones), and 'other'. I say it needs to be done in some cases. If they are a kid like I was, it's the only way to get them to listen and understand discipline.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

When im doing it doggy style with a girl, spanking her a little is as "right" as it could possibly be.

But using it as punishment against children just because you are a useless parent who can't reach the kid with more civilized methods isn't right at all.

If you can't deal with a kid without hitting it, then you shouldn't get kids in the first place.

 

[Durxom]

I don't believe it's "wrong", but I do believe there are better ways with dealing with a child.

When you spank them, you teach them to be fearful of the pain, and they won't misbehave because of that fear. They do not really learn why what they did is wrong though, and can end up being more of a problem later on.

If you sit them down and tell them why what they did is wrong, you not only show them more respect, (something they'll appreciate), you'll instil good values in them, and they won't misbehave because they know it's wrong.

I suppose what you say is right, but also both sides aren't fail safes.

Sometimes physical discipline won't work, or they just won't phased over time, but also, if you try and talk to them and explain it, you might just have a kid who will just nod his head and agree and then run back off and do exactly what was wrong in the first place.

So while spanking and physical discipline might not be needed or work, verbal discipline might not work either. So ya...just letting my brain flow out their a bit...

 

[unoleian]

The two worst spankings I ever received in my life were for two very heinous acts.

One was getting caught shoplifting when I was eight. The other, was for purposefully setting a field on fire when I was nine. Neither activity has since been repeated. Er, thankfully.

I felt those stings for DAYS. And came to understand the sorrow it gave my family to do it.

Lessons learned. I'd like to think it was the proper response.

 

[Wait...What]

I don't believe it's "wrong", but I do believe there are better ways with dealing with a child.

When you spank them, you teach them to be fearful of the pain, and they won't misbehave because of that fear. They do not really learn why what they did is wrong though, and can end up being more of a problem later on.

If you sit them down and tell them why what they did is wrong, you not only show them more respect, (something they'll appreciate), you'll instil good values in them, and they won't misbehave because they know it's wrong.

I suppose what you say is right, but also both sides aren't fail safes.

Sometimes physical discipline won't work, or they just won't phased over time, but also, if you try and talk to them and explain it, you might just have a kid who will just nod his head and agree and then run back off and do exactly what was wrong in the first place.

So while spanking and physical discipline might not be needed or work, verbal discipline might not work either. So ya...just letting my brain flow out their a bit...

You need to punish children to help them distinguish between right and wrong. Although there are other ways of punishing children that spanking them, sometimes there is no other way to get through to them. I was spanked and i turned out fine