Eh I don't feel getting spanked as a kid helped me much so I find it unnecessary
*spanks*Jfswift said:
Poll: Do you think spanking is wrong?
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If a child is too young to listen to reason how else are you going to punish them? Time outs only work if the child understands what it is they are doing there. Pain needs no higher level rationalization to understand.
Now, that does not mean do it all the time. Once a child is developed enough to have cognitive reasoning, the non-violent solutions are better.
Now, that does not mean do it all the time. Once a child is developed enough to have cognitive reasoning, the non-violent solutions are better.
I think I may be a bit biased here because I hate kids so fucking much, but yeah. spank em. spank their little brains out. they still wont learn a thing but damn is it cathartic.
(ok, it does a help a little, after enough spankings MAYBE basic animal instinct will in fact teach them to avoid that action, classical conditioning and all that, but mostly, parents have the right to spank the hell out of kids if their kids PISS THEM THE HELL OFF)
(ok, it does a help a little, after enough spankings MAYBE basic animal instinct will in fact teach them to avoid that action, classical conditioning and all that, but mostly, parents have the right to spank the hell out of kids if their kids PISS THEM THE HELL OFF)
I got spanked as a kid, funny thing, I lived, I'm not even emotionally scarred. In reality, parental authroity is decreasing at an alarming rate. i love when i tell kids who are grounded, "just sneak out" and they reply with "I can't I'll be grounded for even longer" I believe that you should obey your parents when u live in thier house, but if you don't what are they going to do, if ur grounded, it's not like they can keep you from leaving. You could walk out the front door and flip them off on the way out, and all they can do is call the cops, and how hard is it to avoid cops, really? same with time-out. what are you going to do if ur child refuses to sit quietly, lock them in their room with all thier toys? good punishment right there.
There are instances where spanking is unnecessary. To me, it should be used only when talking to your child does nothing. If there are other ways that don't involve hitting your child, use them first.
Hard decision. I'm personally against it from my limited experience. I was never spanked as a child and I'm the most well adjusted member of my family (and possibly the only one with no criminal record). My dad recieved even worse than a spanking and he's got a criminal record and the maturity of a teenager. Still not entirely against it, but I do think a light smack to the back of the head works just as well. Worst I ever got.
Of course not. I get spanked all the time (granted, it's not by my parents) and I turned out just fine.
Seriously, I talked to my mom about this, and this is what she told me. it should not be like a beatdown, but more like once or twice at a time, to make the little kid think that you're serious, and don't do it consantly (once should be good). It worked for me. Now, it's also important that they are not too old (the age is not the same with every kid but my age was in the single digits). And, for the love of god, don't use it as a first resort, like a "get out of jail free" card.
Try doing other methods of discipline, like token economy, that always works, trust me (Again, start doing it while there young). Develop a point system. Every time they do something good give them a point, or sticker or something. Once they get enough points take them to Target or something, and buy them something. It's like an RPG, gradually increase the point intervals and gradually increase the value of the reward each time. Don't forget to start small, though. This will also take effort on your part. Keep an eye out to see if they're cheating or just pretending to be good. I know that's harder than it looks, but hey: parenting is hard. Keep in mind that this creative way of parenting should not stop at an early age. Like me, if you get old enough, parents stop giving a crap and resort to abuse, because they think that you can emotionally handle it; and it will be easier on their brains. It sucks, and I was cooperating soo good, too.
Parents beat their kids for the same reason why they initially give them video games, to shut them up. It sickens me. Spanking (or violence in general) is not only distructive, but lazy parenting. Some parents don't deserve to have kids.
Seriously, I talked to my mom about this, and this is what she told me. it should not be like a beatdown, but more like once or twice at a time, to make the little kid think that you're serious, and don't do it consantly (once should be good). It worked for me. Now, it's also important that they are not too old (the age is not the same with every kid but my age was in the single digits). And, for the love of god, don't use it as a first resort, like a "get out of jail free" card.
Try doing other methods of discipline, like token economy, that always works, trust me (Again, start doing it while there young). Develop a point system. Every time they do something good give them a point, or sticker or something. Once they get enough points take them to Target or something, and buy them something. It's like an RPG, gradually increase the point intervals and gradually increase the value of the reward each time. Don't forget to start small, though. This will also take effort on your part. Keep an eye out to see if they're cheating or just pretending to be good. I know that's harder than it looks, but hey: parenting is hard. Keep in mind that this creative way of parenting should not stop at an early age. Like me, if you get old enough, parents stop giving a crap and resort to abuse, because they think that you can emotionally handle it; and it will be easier on their brains. It sucks, and I was cooperating soo good, too.
Parents beat their kids for the same reason why they initially give them video games, to shut them up. It sickens me. Spanking (or violence in general) is not only distructive, but lazy parenting. Some parents don't deserve to have kids.
It's been shown that children who are spanked are more likely to be aggressive and are more likely to be bullies in school.Blueruler182 said:
Also it doesn't teach them to behave just to act appropriately when the parent is near. I find it ridiculus that doing the same thing to an adult acting the same way is called assault and doing it to a child is called "appropriate punishment".
Sometimes physically correcting their actions is one of the only ways the child will learn. I only speak for my area, but it's quite easy to tell the kids who were spanked from the kids who weren't, and the ones who weren't were most often the bullies.
However, I also believe, from my own personal experience, that telling your child you're disappointed in them works equally well. God I hated when my parents said that.
However, I also believe, from my own personal experience, that telling your child you're disappointed in them works equally well. God I hated when my parents said that.
No, of course not... Nothing says that you've been a bad boy/girl like a little spanking...
*fantasizes*
Oh wait... are you talking about spanking as in corporal punishment of children?
Still no, but for entirely different reasons.
*fantasizes*
Oh wait... are you talking about spanking as in corporal punishment of children?
Still no, but for entirely different reasons.
Be careful about studies. If you take statistics in college, like i did, it shows you that you can make almost any study say exactly what you want it to say. with a study, in my opinion, if you want an unbiased truth, look at who funded it, look at how it was conducted, and most important, look at the data, not the published results, and come to your own conclusions. also, make sure to look for studies with published results that have the opposite results (they always exist) and do the same with them.TheLaofKazi said:
I say from personal experience, that kids who were spanked in my area were not bullies. Ever. Notice I say spanked, not beaten, yes kids who get beaten often turn to bullying, but these are two dif things. also, a smack to the back of the head, or even a spanking is not a real smack, its more like the level of force gibbons uses on tony in NCIS, certainly not going to be called assault by anyone, harrassment maybe, but not assault.Lordpils said:
I'm not going to tell a parent how to raise their kid. As if that isn't hard enough already. They probably know their own kid way better than I do. Let's face it; some kids learn differently from others. One might react a lot better to being smacked as a punishment than another, where it might just set off worse tantrums or whatever.
I trust people to use their own judgement. I don't think every little thing should be handled through legislation. Law isn't always the answer to everything. (Huh. That probably tells you why I hated law school...)
I trust people to use their own judgement. I don't think every little thing should be handled through legislation. Law isn't always the answer to everything. (Huh. That probably tells you why I hated law school...)