RedEyesBlackGamer said:
badgersprite said:
Message passing doesn't seem lazy so much as it does incredibly immature. I mean, that's what you do on the playground when you're eight. "My friend likes you!"
I mean, it's not like there's anything wrong with a mutual friend trying to set two people up of their own accord, but outright telling someone else to do it is, well...pretty chickenshit. And it's not exactly subtle or charming, is it?
Well when you have a physical disability and half of the school is under the notion that you are mentally disabled, I see it as a decent option.
OP: Cowardly, not lazy.
Well, no offense intended, but isn't having someone else pass along a message that way going to make it look even more like you are mentally disabled and like you can't do things for yourself? If you sit with someone and talk to them normally, and ask them out yourself, you're way more likely to prove that misconception wrong and make a better impression on them than you are by being too socially awkward to talk to them.
I'm not just talking out my ass here, either. A lot of people thought I was weird and crazy in high school, and I was bullied to shit for it. I didn't get my friends to go and tell them I was normal and that they should be nice to me and hang out with me; I actually sat and talked with one of the girls who had previously hated me and bullied me, on the bus on the way home, and spoke to her as myself, and she finally got to see that I wasn't this crazy weird person people had said I was, and we became great friends after that, and all her friends who had previously treated me like some psycho actually started to get along with me.
Just something to consider. I know it can seem impossible at the time, but, really, there are things you can do that can and will change people's opinion of you.
