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KaiserKnight

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Mandalore_15 said:
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Sober Thal said:
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Sober Thal said:
To be 'taken aback' and have to question it, after learning a woman holds a job you assume only men have, is sexist.
Clearly you didn't read my post properly. Try again.
Clearly you've already made up your mind. Why even make the thread? You have some need to call a woman who is a landlord, a landlady. The fact that you say you were 'taken aback' makes you sound sexist in this instance.

EDIT: land·lord
Noun/ˈlan(d)ˌlôrd/
1. A person who rents land, a building, or an apartment to a tenant.
Urgh, the reason I was "taken aback" is that I had been going under the misapprehension that she was phoning a MAN only to find out his name was "Chloe". Seriously, it's not difficult to understand!
Because the point was made that you were sexist, and right now you are digging yourself in a hole. It really seems like you came here to prove a point that you weren't sexist, the plan is backfiring and you are getting quite annoyed with the fact that not many are agreeing with you and those disagreeing are proving you wrong. To prove this I just had four people read your main post and this little segment I just quoted. You are being ignorant. You had the misapprehension that a landlord MUST only be a man so when a female name was given then a gender that you thought not possible you reacted badly. Besides landlord, what ELSE did your neighbor say or do to prove it MIGHT have been a male? Ask for a manager, get a female, ask for a manager again, female says she is the manager, look dumbstruck. Same thing with landlord. Hell the bloody definition was given to you RIGHT THERE.
Right, I'm putting this to bed right now because you don't seem to be getting it and I can't be arsed running around in circles with you. It is not sexist to think that a landlord "must only be a man", because the term "lord" conveys maleness. It has nothing to do with men and women's ability to do the same job - it would only be sexist if I view a landlady as being somehow inferior, which I don't. Landlord and landladies are equally capable, the ONLY difference between the two is gender.

Would it be sexist if I was confused because someone was talking to me about a policeman and then told me her name was Sandra? No. What's the difference here? You can go on all you want about people having equal rights to be called a landlord, but if you don't know that it isn't sexist, and it isn't even true in the UK.

Your manager example is completely retarded - manager is a gender-neutral term.

As for reacting badly, read it again. I didn't correct her. It was a half-muttered comment to myself intended to clear up the confusion I was having, it wasn't directed at her and that was obvious from my body language. Due to medication I'm taking I often space out a bit, but it's obvious that's what I was doing. No-one in their right mind would have though I was being confrontational or trying to correct anyone.
Okay I must ask...WHERE are you from and how were you raised? Honestly. You mention Germany, UK, Canada and state you are Canadian but someone else here mentioned they are from Canada, I know a few Canadians and you are the only person to my knowledge that goes by Policeman/Women Landlord/lady. I have to say you are either full of yourself for knowing such trivial terms or are somewhat ignorant in that area honestly.
 

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How is it not? It's useful because it conveys information that tells you something about the person. That can be useful in a whole host of circumstances.

Besides, the very use of the word "landlord" conveys maleness. I now know if I want to go over and invite them for a drink to get to know them, I'm safer taking beer than wine.
It's not useful because the title is a professional one. I.e it's work related, and we've been having enough sexism and gender-discrimination in professional settings as it is, so I really can't see the relevance in having to know the gender of someone being refered to by their work-related title.

It's like saying that instead of a woman being called a "boss" she should be called a "bossette" just so you controlfreaks can peg them on beforehand.

Get with the times and accept the fact that a work-related enviroment should be genderblind.

Also, you do know that the title "Firewoman" isn't even a word right? So how would a pedantic person like you refer to a female fireman? See the difficulty in insisting on gender nominative titles in work-related context, when some professions simply don't have gender nominative titles?
Yeah, but you know what? Women aren't allowed to become "firemen" in my country, so frankly it's not an issue. If they were, however, I'm pretty sure they would be called "firewomen".

And you honestly can't see any circumstances whatsoever where knowing someone's gender beforehand is remotely useful or even just convenient? Like you're expecting to meet your landlord and when a woman opens the door you ask to see him, when really it's her?

Seriously dude, I'm starting to suspect you're the Escapist's resident troll...
I think you deserve the troll title

"How many women are firefighters?
In the U.S., around 6,200 women currently work as full-time, career firefighters and officers. Several hundred hold the rank of lieutenant or captain, and about 150 are district chiefs, battalion chiefs, division chiefs, or assistant chiefs. [All of these numbers increase every year; for the most recent available statistics and a state-by state breakdown of the numbers, see our Status Report]. While accurate figures on volunteer firefighters are difficult to obtain, it can be estimated that 35-40,000 women are in the volunteer fire service in the U.S.

Women are firefighters outside the U.S. as well. The most significant numbers are to be found in Great Britain, where more than 200 women are wholetime (career) firefighters and approximately 200 others serve in a retained (volunteer) capacity. Women firefighters can also be found in Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Japan, Germany, France, the Netherlands, South Africa, Ghana, Panama, Costa Rica, Trinidad and Tobago, Chile, and Brazil.

How many women firefighters have died in the line of duty? A total of 98 fire service women are known to have died in the line of duty, including 23 British firewomen killed by enemy action in World War II. See our honor roll for more information."

http://www.i-women.org/questions.php
http://blogs.reuters.com/great-debate-uk/2009/03/04/women-firefighters-are-no-longer-a-novelty-2/

"WOMEN FIREFIGHTERS, not firewomen"

Back to my question, WHERE are you from mate? You don't seem to know much about the UK being there.
 

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I just had a rather interesting encounter with my next-door neighbour. I was asking her if it was OK for me to get some building work done, as the house is terraced and it might inconvenience her. She said she had to call her landlord and ask if it was OK.

Well, she got back to me later on and said, at one point, "I called my landlord Chloe, and she said it's fine."

I was a little taken aback and, instinctively said, "Chloe? Oh, you mean your landlady," to which she replied "erm, that's a bit sexist don't you think?"

No. I don't think so.

Since when has it been "sexist" to use gender-nominative terms? The whole thing took be back to when Hollywood actresses campaigned to be called "actors" so they could feel "equal to the men." This is such rabid bullshit: the reason we have these distinctions is that they relay useful information, i.e. your gender. In the German language, every noun has a gender. You don't hear them going on about how it's sexist.

I will continue to call actresses actresses, landladies landladies, policewomen... well, you get the idea.

So Escapist, what's your opinion on the issue? Should we move towards gender neutral terms, or should overly sensitive women (and some men of course) just get over themselves?

EDIT - I posted this down below but I've moved it up here so everyone can see it straight off:

I wasn't really "correcting" her, as my statement wasn't really aimed at her. It was more just my inner-monologue coming out of my mouth involuntarily. It does that a lot!
How in the hell is that sexist? Not at all; particularly in this instance. For one thing, you can't have a female lord, can you? My landlord is a woman so I call her my landlady because... well, she's a lady, isn't she?

Anyroad, I quite like how you pointed out that, "The whole thing took be back to when Hollywood actresses campaigned to be called "actors" so they could feel "equal to the men."" which is something that we were discussing just this week actually about feminism. Now, there's nothing wrong to say, for example, "Headteacher", "Police officer" if one really must be politically correct if you can call it that, because those terms are all unisex. Well, that's how I see it. I also really liked your point of gender nouns in other languages. Some, like Finnish and Chinese, don't have any at all which is fair enough.

In short, if the term is unisex, then it's alright. However, like your own real life example, it is in no way at all sexist. She implied that her landowner was a man if you look at it one way. Now that I think about it, I would be quicker to call a female a landlord than a male a landlady, haha. Then again, that is the right term for her; landlady. All that happened to you was that you assumed she had a male landowner (landowner sounds a wee bit odd...), you realised and said to yourself, "Ah, she meant her landlady." because you thought she was a man at first. Erm. Does that make sense? I knew upon reading that line straight away that you were not, indeed, correcting her. :p I don't think it was sexist at all. To be fair, I probably would have done the exact same!


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KaiserKnight said:
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It is not sexist as it just clarifies whether or not you are talking about a man or woman.
Why did the gender need to be clarified though?
Well, I guess it's not essential but if you look on almost every language that isn't english, everything has a form for masculine and feminine, you could say it's just following roots.
 

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I think you're supposed to use the Male equivilent for everyone, although I don't think it's wrong to say the female one, but I think it's wrong to correct someone on it.
 

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brandon237 said:
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It acknowledges a difference in gender.

Sexist? Yeah.

A big deal? A huge social injustice? The sigil of doom for society? No.
You lost me, how is acknowledging something sexist???

If someone says: He is white, they are stating an observation.
If they say: I don't like him because he is white, they are being racist.

It is EXACTLY the same idea for sexism.

You say: he is male. Fine. Observation.
You say: I think he eats orphans (insert anything negative there) because he is male. Not Fine. Discrimination. Bold Assumption. Sexism.

So it is no big deal AND not sexist.
Although the OP handled the situation terribly.
For someone to be identified as a woman, there must be some grasp on the concept of men and women being different. The word "woman" applies to, well, women, but not to men.

This is inherently a discriminatory judgement. Doesn't matter if it's true, if it's negative, or if it's positive. It just has to, in some way or another, imply that men and women are different.

It may very well be true, especially in the biological sense, but it is sexist nonetheless.

For something or someone to not be sexist, it would have to ignore sex and gender entirely. For example, Calculus, Dominoes, Architectural Drafting, Breakfast Pizzas, and VY Canis Majorus.
 

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I don't think it's sexist. However, I just find it easier to use terms like "Waiter" and "Actor" for both genders of those respective professions, since it's just easier for me.
 

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YOU! you called a woman a woman?! how dare you!!

first of all, there *are* differences between the genders - that's why we can distinguish women from men in the first place.

secondly... ladies and gentlemen, how is clling a woman a woman and a man a man sexist (regarding the usual negative connotative meaning usually... meant)?

maybe we shouldn't address women and men as "miss/es" and "sir/mister" anymore, rather than "person"? person is much much more neutral, and not sexist as the dispicable aforementioned affronts to gender equality?
kids should be referred to as "not-fully-grown-up-and-or-matured-person" accordantly.
 

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if this carries on we wont be able to refer to people as him or her anymore.

"Who are you talking about?"
"erm, you know, what's their name, that... entirely equal human, over there...."
"?????"
"you know the one with the kind of.... boobs?"
gender narrows down who you?re referring to instantly to by about 50%
including gender in professional description doesn?t automatically mean you?re going "PHWOAAAAR" at the very concept of a policewoman.
and yeah, I said POLICEWOMAN.
they?re just like policemen, but they don?t have cocks & ballsacs(one less vulnerability there).
no discrimination at all.
biological truth.
The surest way to fuck it up is to say "lady policeman" which apparently people used to say, makes me imagine an Aphrodite in kevlar..
 

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Some people are just overly sensitive to issues that are not there to begin with. I miss when the uber-feminists had and wanted everyone to use their new word for woman that didn't have man in it.

It's just English people get over it.
 

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DarkRyter said:
brandon237 said:
DarkRyter said:
It acknowledges a difference in gender.

Sexist? Yeah.

A big deal? A huge social injustice? The sigil of doom for society? No.
You lost me, how is acknowledging something sexist???

If someone says: He is white, they are stating an observation.
If they say: I don't like him because he is white, they are being racist.

It is EXACTLY the same idea for sexism.

You say: he is male. Fine. Observation.
You say: I think he eats orphans (insert anything negative there) because he is male. Not Fine. Discrimination. Bold Assumption. Sexism.

So it is no big deal AND not sexist.
Although the OP handled the situation terribly.
For someone to be identified as a woman, there must be some grasp on the concept of men and women being different. The word "woman" applies to, well, women, but not to men.

This is inherently a discriminatory judgement. Doesn't matter if it's true, if it's negative, or if it's positive. It just has to, in some way or another, imply that men and women are different.

It may very well be true, especially in the biological sense, but it is sexist nonetheless.

For something or someone to not be sexist, it would have to ignore sex and gender entirely. For example, Calculus, Dominoes, Architectural Drafting, Breakfast Pizzas, and VY Canis Majorus.
Wikipedia begs to differ:
Discrimination is the prejudicial treatment of an individual based on their membership in a certain group or category. It involves the actual behaviours towards groups such as excluding or restricting members of one group from opportunities that are available to another group.
The bolded words should tell you everything :)
It is sexist if the actual treatment is different, the observation and acknowledging of something is in no way discrimination.

Sexism, also known as gender discrimination or sex discrimination, is the application of the belief or attitude that there are characteristics implicit to one's gender that indirectly affect one's abilities in unrelated areas. It is a form of discrimination or devaluation based on a person's sex, with such attitudes being based on beliefs in traditional stereotypes of gender roles.
That is wikipedia on sexism, should clear everything up with the bolded focus :)
 

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brandon237 said:
Wikipedia begs to differ:
Discrimination is the prejudicial treatment of an individual based on their membership in a certain group or category. It involves the actual behaviours towards groups such as excluding or restricting members of one group from opportunities that are available to another group.
The bolded words should tell you everything :)
It is sexist if the actual treatment is different, the observation and acknowledging of something is in no way discrimination.

Sexism, also known as gender discrimination or sex discrimination, is the application of the belief or attitude that there are characteristics implicit to one's gender that indirectly affect one's abilities in unrelated areas. It is a form of discrimination or devaluation based on a person's sex, with such attitudes being based on beliefs in traditional stereotypes of gender roles.
That is wikipedia on sexism, should clear everything up with the bolded focus :)
To call someone a woman for being a woman counts as prejudicial treatment. Acknowledgement of gender is a behavior that differs when applied towards different groups, male and female. You call a man a man, and you call a woman a woman. It is a discrimination based upon sex.

Sexual Discrimination, Sexism.
 

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6_Qubed said:
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I tend to use male terms in a gender-neutral capacity, which is a very fancy way of saying I call everyone "Dude."

My niece hates it.
iv always wanted to go around calling everyone girl.

hey girl xD
At the risk of sounding like some religious conservative intolerant (i.e. my mom) I'm pretty sure the gays beat you to that.
i didn't say i wanted to be the first one i just want to do it xD

and your post doesn't sound religious at all it seems like a simple observation.
 

Dags90

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Funny thing about 'Germany having sexes for every noun and no one complaining'. Italian has the same thing, and a lot of professions only had male genders, so they added female versions rather recently.

I think it reinforced specific heteronormative gender roles, especially terms like "male nurse", but I think that there aren't more female neurosurgeons and such to be bigger issues.
 

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Heh, she was probably just annoyed at you for correcting her (pro tip: this annoys people a lot...I do it too when I don't catch myself in time), even if it was just you using your outside voice by accident, and that seemed a more logical thing to get you for. Either that or she thought you seemed shocked that the owner was a woman.

I can think of a lot more people who'd say it's sexist to call a woman a landlord, implying a denial of the existence of women who rent property to tenants or that there are so few they aren't worth having their own title. It's like referring to all people as "Mankind". Hence "Police Officer", "Firefighter" (which actually makes a lot more sense than "Fireman" if you think about it) and "Postal Worker". Gender neutral terms are pretty much safe, so people generally use them in official capacities. The legal official term for landlord is probably gender neutral too.

Er, in short, specifying with "Landlady" is probably more modern and politically correct, since the most modern and politically correct option is to use a gender-neutral title and I don't know what that would be or if you could use it without sounding like a legal robot.
 

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It's not sexist, words like this help you describe somebodies profession and gender in one word. Although people making these words in the first place might be a bit sexist, considering you call a man actor an actor, and a woman actor an actress.

They're still handy words though, they're just there to shorten everything down.
 

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Satsuki666 said:
Your statement wasnt exactly sexist it was more you just being an asshole.

Mandalore_15 said:
I noticed you live in the UK. Do you really refer to them as police officers? In my neck of the woods they have always been differentiated as policemen and policewomen, so much that I was taught to call them that in infants school. I'm not saying you're wrong or anything, just that here, the term police officer is considered strange and somewhat of an Americanism.
I am Canadian and I believe the proper term we are supposed to use is police officer since it is a gender neutral term. Their profession is police officer not policeman or policewomen. I have never heard them called that though, its normally popo, cops, police, pigs, officer, etc.
Jeez, you're a little judgemental, aren't you? So you've never blurted out something you were thinking completely by accident?
 

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I don't see why it is sexist, nor do I see why it matters. It actually pisses me off when people do that. Landlord/landlady are both fine, but I want to kick you in the teeth if you say "landperson". The same thing is true for every other time you put "person" instead of whatever the male/female word for it is.
 

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No. Actually really pisses me off when everything is apparently "sexist" as a Female, I could give two Monkey fucks if I was called a 'Landlord' or whatever.