Poll: Do you think you would be a better parent than your own parents?

[game-lover]

I just realized that I've spent the majority of my childhood after I hit puberty babysitting. Lots and lots of babysitting.

Pretty sure I've had just about all my full of children. I don't want anymore. And I'm inclined to say I wouldn't be a good parent because I don't wanna take care of anyone now. I'd end up neglectful if not physically than emotionally. I'm certain of this.

That's why I chose the second to last option. Because I will truly never have children. I will get fucking sterilized if I have to.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

It's highly unlikely. I couldn't have asked for better parents than mine, sure they made mistakes, but who doesn't? Parenting isn't an exact science as my sister is currently finding out first hand.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I think I would be but I'm afraid I won't be so I'm not willing to take the risk. I have a lot of trouble investing in anything emotionally (courtesy of my parents) so I'm kind of concerned I won't love my children.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

My parents were okay but they were more like roommates than parents lol. They always treated us like equals. It was a bit weird. My dad had something wrong with him where he would go full werewolf and turn into a bastard on a night but after he died of cancer the docs told us he had some form of epilepsy that was never diagnosed.

My mum currently works her ass off looking after my niece and nephew and ferrying everyone to hospital/work. She has been really patient with me and let me stay in her house while I get better. Hoping to pay her back well when I get back into work.

I don't think I'd make a good parent but I'm a good auntie so I think I'll settle for that

 

[suitepee7]

my parents were pretty awesome truth be told, so i doubt i'll be as good as them. however i hopefully won't be too much worse when the time comes

 

[ThePenguinKnight]

I know for an absolute fact that I'd be a better parent than either of mine. However, that doesn't mean I'd be a particularly good parent either.

 

[BaronUberstein]

Likely never going to have kids. I have a boyfriend atm, and my current long term plans don't really work well with having/adopting kids.

If I WAS a parent, I'd try to raise my kids the same way my dad raised me, on classic James Bond films and character building moments like riding bikes into thorny hedges.

 

[malestrithe]

I would certainly be a better parent than my dad, that's for sure. He thought 2 days a week was plenty of time for a visit.

Also, possibly my mom. She did not raise me. My grandparents did.

 

[Palmerama]

I don't think I could be a better father than my dad is! When my mum died he had to raise me and my brother and work his arse off 10 hours a day! Im 25 now & im still asking my dad for advice on life, and help on things! I know if I needed him he'd do his damndest to help me! He owns a tanning salon to which the prevous owner ran it into the ground & my dad's built it up into a success! Im dead proud of him & I know that if I ever become a parent i'll still be going to him for help and parenting tips! He does it for my brother now whos recently become a dad (though now my brothers given him a grandchild I can back off and not have to contribute to the genepool yet)!

Basically no I won't be because he it will be from what he did which would make me a good parent!

 

[Kennetic]

My parents are the reason I've gotten as far as I have in life. I owe them everything. And you why? I was disciplined properly. You never saw my ass screaming in a restaurant, pissing off everyone. I got taken outside and punished. Later in life my parents encouraged me along whatever goal I chose to pursue. If I become a fraction of what my parents were for me, then my kids will be successful.

 

[trollnystan]

I would probably be better than my father, but still bad enough that I don't think I should have kids. I love kids - I babysit a lot and stuff - but I'm always thankful when I have to give them back after a couple of hours. 24/7 parenting for 18+ years? I'd pity my progeny so bad. Much too selfish really to be a good parent.

Not to mention I'd need a sexual partner for that.

 

[bullet_sandw1ch]

yes. my dad is a lazy bastard who dosent get off the couch after he gets home from work, and my mom has issues with complaining. i love em, and they're otherwise good people, but i feel i can learn from them and do better.

 

[Nickolai77]

I think a lot of it depends on what the mother's like- a factor that i can't consider yet.

As compared to my own farther though- hopefully i'll be better. His strong suit is that he's strongly motivated and has a good job because of it meaning i live quite comfortably. The downside is that i only see him once every two weeks as a result of the job he has. I would personally aim for the happy medium between family life and work life- he's focuses too much on the latter.

 

[JoesshittyOs]

Depends really. My parents had to raise 3 kids, while my dad had a pretty hectic job but still managed to keep his head together. They let me live in their nice house, they pay for my college and gas money (Seeing how I was practically illegally fired from a job), and feed me.

I'd definitely do a few things differently, but I'm really only prepared to have maybe one kid in my lifetime. Of course it'd be easier for me.

 

[The Funslinger]

scrubbing their skin off with a brillo pad

I, um...

You're gonna have to explain that one to me. Seriously that is... what?

OT: Well, I know what I think my parents did right, and what they did wrong, so ideally I could be a better parent.

One thing is I was the youngest child, and at that point, they weren't/aren't trying as hard. Kinda delegated a lot of stuff (particularly skill teaching) to my older sisters. Which is a duty they shirked utterly.

All I know is I think once I get past the 'you hurt my ears for no reason, you little hell spawn!' stage, I could get down to stuff I can't wait to do. Gonna teach my kid all kinds of cool shit.

Ideally I'd like a son, just because I think I could do better with a guy.

Even though I'll love her and put in as much effort, I'm apprehensive about a daughter. I don't want to accidentally raise a banal slut bimbo. The disappointment in myself would be horrible...

One thing though is I will make sure my kid knows how to handle bullies.

My parents failed me utterly in that department by opting for the politically correct approach and drilling into me that I must never fight back.

 

[mental_looney]

My mum is a wonderful parent loves me and my brother lots and supports us in what we do.
I however at this stage hope to never have kids, pregnancy is not for me in the slightest and I know you get the baby at the end and that makes it worth it but really I don't want to look after a baby and being the woman it will be mostly my responsibility at the start and I am not a warm and caring person, I have no patience. I'm 26 at the moment so things may change as I get older but at the moment it's just not something for me looking after myself and the boyfriend is hard enough for me.

 

[spartan231490]

I think I'll probably end up being about as good a parent as my parents were. Pretty damn good.

 

[EeveeElectro]

-Le Snip-

I better not drag the forums down even more with my depressing stories XD

And you can't take all the blame if your daughter is a stupid loose bimbo. I think most of it is about who they around with at school, I think friends influence more than parents most of the time.

I'm turning my niece slowly over to the geek side. Her dad got her into Doctor Who and I just went from there. She can't fight it, I can imagine my kids will be geeks too.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

Neg, I had the best parents ever, I could never be better than them.
Yeah yeah, bias, I know, but they gave me a proper upbringing, I know right from wrong and damn well stick to a good set of morals and manners, unlike too many people who live in the area.
Plus, I'll never have children, so that too.
But my nephews and neice seem to love me, so I must be doing something right while trying to teach them moral standards.