Poll: Do you want children?

[krazykidd]

This question is for the people that don't have children. Do you want to have children later in your life? why or why not?

Me and my current Girlfriend, decided that we don't want any children. My girlfriend thinks she is too selfish to have kids. She is also impatient, and wouldn't be able to handle crying babies/toddlers.I personally can't stand kids, i am patient but easily annoyed, and children can get very annoying very fast.I also don't think i would make a very good father,because i didn't have a very good example from my parents during my childhood.

Your Turn

 

[Scipio1770]

what exactly is the difference between maybe and depends?

 

[Qizx]

Certainly not in the foreseeable future, and almost certainly not later on.
One simple reason: I don't really like kids. I can deal with them very well, and have been told I'm great with them, but I simply do NOT like them at all.

 

[Mr Thin]

I like the idea of being a good father, but I don't think the work and stress involved is worth it.

I also think I'll change my mind when I get older and stop being such a teenager.

 

[DRes82]

I would've been a father twice, if not for two miscarriages. I would love to have kids, but it might be that my wife and I have to adopt.

 

[Slenn]

Yes. Eventually, I'd like to get around having kids. But for that to happen, I'd have to be in a relationship first.
But besides that, I kinda want to have a kid because I feel like my life's journey will have come full circle by then. If it is a girl, that means I get a chance on redeeming myself from the conflict my sister and I had. And if it's a boy, that means I'll see how my dad was like when he raised me.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I'm going to say not at this time, maybe later on, but not now. To be honest I have to worry more about finding a girl who can tolerate me long enough to want to spend her life with me before I can worry about having kids.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I definitely don't want children, and if it wasn't for doctors telling me 'no', I'd've had my tubes tied already.

My family has a lot of hereditary problems (heart murmurs, PCOS, and bipolar disorder, to name a few). I would rather not pass my genes on and have a child be stuck with any of those conditions.

 

[Giest4life]

Sure, why not. I'm good with kids and if I find someone worth it, I won't mind watching my seed take life.

 

[Dimitriov]

Yes. Yes I do. But not any time soon. I wouldn't want to have kids until I was in my thirties.

I think I have some decent genes and values to pass on to the next generation, even if no one else agrees with me

Honestly though, biologically speaking, if you don't have progeny you have failed at life (note: biologically speaking).

 

[Jadak]

what exactly is the difference between maybe and depends?

Maybe is more open ended, as you simply haven't decided either way. Depends is similar, but is likely tied to a specific set of conditions that you already have in mind. Like "I only want kids if I get a stable job and am earning x amount of money", while maybe is just "maybe".

 

[WolfThomas]

Yes some day, either biological or adopted. First of course I'd need to be in a stable relationship have gotten where I want to be with my career and be peak physical health. I want my house to be in order methaporically.

Also as an odd thing, barring any unforseen emergency, I'd want to deliever my future children. I'm not talking just cutting the cord, I'd straight up catching the thing as it flies out. I've delivered four babies in my life and it's pretty exciting, but for it to be my child would be amazing.

 

[Ando85]

This question is for the people that don't have children. Do you want to have children later in your life? why or why not?

Me and my current Girlfriend, decided that we don't want any children. My girlfriend thinks she is too selfish to have kids. She is also impatient, and wouldn't be able to handle crying babies/toddlers.I personally can't stand kids, i am patient but easily annoyed, and children can get very annoying very fast.I also don't think i would make a very good father,because i didn't have a very good example from my parents during my childhood.

Your Turn

I'm similar to you in that regard. I find children to be very annoying. But, on the other hand I have encountered quiet and and well behaved children. Perhaps I would feel differently towards my own children rather than other people's children. Either way, I am 26 and I am no where near a point in my life where I am even considering marriage or children at this point. In 10 years I may be a totally different person as well so I will have to go with a maybe.

 

[rekabdarb]

Not sure. Those first 2-3 years would be hell, but if i could SOME HOW survive those i would be an awesome dad.

 

[spectrenihlus]

Yes but not at this moment.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

Nope. My girlfriend and I have a mutual hatred where children are concerned. Well, maybe not hatred since I have kid siblings and she has a toddling nephew but still, we figure that's more than enough children for us to deal with. Also, we're both pretty selfish. We'd rather spend any child-money on ourselves.

 

[Last Hugh Alive]

Definately not now, but I'm open to it. I'd have to have just about everything in my life sorted out and stable enough, and to make sure me and my partner are both ready for it. I wouldn't want her to fall pregnant out of nowhere, that would be a detriment to us and the child.

 

[tzimize]

This question is for the people that don't have children. Do you want to have children later in your life? why or why not?

Me and my current Girlfriend, decided that we don't want any children. My girlfriend thinks she is too selfish to have kids. She is also impatient, and wouldn't be able to handle crying babies/toddlers.I personally can't stand kids, i am patient but easily annoyed, and children can get very annoying very fast.I also don't think i would make a very good father,because i didn't have a very good example from my parents during my childhood.

Your Turn

Most likely not.

I plan to kill myself some time in the future, and kids would sort of get in the way of that.

I realize that sentence might need some explaining so here goes: I like being in control of my own destiny/life. When I am tired of living, or life seems worthless, I'd like to end it myself, instead of waiting for the inevitable end. I dont plan to kill myself any specific time, but it is the way I see myself dying (if I dont die in some kind of accident/heart attack).

I cant/shouldnt die this way if I have kids. If I live, I have responsibility for only me. And can kill myself if I want. If I have kids, they are my responsibility forever. And I dont have that freedom anymore.

Other than that, I love my current freedom of doing more or less what I want, when I want it. Why would I want to exchange that for more responsibility?

Kids are more than a responsibility, they are a lifestyle. And I'm not sure I want that particular lifestyle.

I'd rather be 50 and regret I didnt have kids, than be 40 and regret I DID have kids.

Long story short: I dont like responsibility, and I cant really see myself living long enough to be a good parent.

 

[Bat Vader]

I have no desire to ever become a father. I don't like children and I can't handle listening to a baby/child cry without getting very annoyed.