Poll: Do you want children?
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I'm gonna follow my parents example and have one kid, then getting my cable cut, so to speak. I feel like the more you have, the less good you can really do them in the end, and the less of a life you yourself have left.
Both my mom and dad have enough time and money to still enjoy themselves even while they were raising me, and I had a good upbringing.
Both my mom and dad have enough time and money to still enjoy themselves even while they were raising me, and I had a good upbringing.
I'm similiar to you on that I'm incredibly patient, but I can get annoyed real fast, and screaming children go right through me, that and any other loud piercing noise.krazykidd said:
I do want to have kids, but only when I'm in my late twenties to early thirties, because that is when I'm old enough to actually be able to raise a child. I'm twenty now, so I have a few more years to ready myself.
Like many people here, I'm really bad with kids and at present have no plans on getting better with them.
My girlfriend is much the same but is a little bit better than me. She'll actually hold a baby in her arms, whereas I will not.
My girlfriend is much the same but is a little bit better than me. She'll actually hold a baby in her arms, whereas I will not.
No.
As a gay man, I would have to get children in a slightly roundabout way, which involves time, effort and money. Not to mention I don't want them in the first place.
Yeah, I think I'll just get a cute dog or something.
As a gay man, I would have to get children in a slightly roundabout way, which involves time, effort and money. Not to mention I don't want them in the first place.
Yeah, I think I'll just get a cute dog or something.
...And my own personal favourite of all time:
No, I have absolutely no desire to spawn children. I hate kids; they're obnoxious, insipid, recalcitrant, vociferous, impetuous, ungrateful, exasperating little shits. I can't stand them and have absolutely no intention of burdening myself with one of them.
No, I have absolutely no desire to spawn children. I hate kids; they're obnoxious, insipid, recalcitrant, vociferous, impetuous, ungrateful, exasperating little shits. I can't stand them and have absolutely no intention of burdening myself with one of them.
I don't really want kids.
Firstly...Once you have kids, your life changes irrevocably. You need to live for your kids. And that can be annoying, especially with toddlers/infants. Oh, and It's way too much work.
Secondly...Assuming I reach that point with my girlfriend...Yeah, no way. She's small and compact. I would be too worried that childbirth would cause her some really serious damage on the inside.
Firstly...Once you have kids, your life changes irrevocably. You need to live for your kids. And that can be annoying, especially with toddlers/infants. Oh, and It's way too much work.
Secondly...Assuming I reach that point with my girlfriend...Yeah, no way. She's small and compact. I would be too worried that childbirth would cause her some really serious damage on the inside.
Possibly. The only times I feel that I shouldn't have children is out of concern for the child, essentially. I'd love to raise a child, but don't believe I'd be a fit parent; that concern, perhaps, though, is a good starting point for improving oneself.
It's a bit of a philosophical limbo, really.
As a postscript, and on a more practical note, I certainly don't want children now, at the age of 23, without a job. Moreover, I'd have to find someone able to physically and emotionally stand me, first. There's a few steps missing before I can transition from 'young man' to 'young father'.
It's a bit of a philosophical limbo, really.
As a postscript, and on a more practical note, I certainly don't want children now, at the age of 23, without a job. Moreover, I'd have to find someone able to physically and emotionally stand me, first. There's a few steps missing before I can transition from 'young man' to 'young father'.
I'd like to have a child or 2 eventually.
Right now I can't stand children, but when I get into relationships the longer I'm in one the more I like children.
That and I'd be an awesome dad (Evidenced by how great I am looking after my nephew, neice and cousins that are a lot younger than me, true I don't live with them constantly only looking after them for up to 3 weeks at a time but my kid(s) would probably be slightly more special to me to make me get through the rougher times)
But alas I'd need to get a bit older (I have a busy time planned for the next 20ish years, so possibly may have to work hard, delay kids or have a partner who is understanding)
Right now I can't stand children, but when I get into relationships the longer I'm in one the more I like children.
That and I'd be an awesome dad (Evidenced by how great I am looking after my nephew, neice and cousins that are a lot younger than me, true I don't live with them constantly only looking after them for up to 3 weeks at a time but my kid(s) would probably be slightly more special to me to make me get through the rougher times)
But alas I'd need to get a bit older (I have a busy time planned for the next 20ish years, so possibly may have to work hard, delay kids or have a partner who is understanding)
short answer:yes
Long answer: YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
Why (after my girlfriend and I are married of cources)? Because I get along with kids very well (maybe because I have the spirit of an 11 year old). However, I do have limits. Mine is 3, preferably 2 sons and 1 daugther. And I will just raise them the same way my girlfriend and I were raised, on traditional Midwest values.
Long answer: YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
Why (after my girlfriend and I are married of cources)? Because I get along with kids very well (maybe because I have the spirit of an 11 year old). However, I do have limits. Mine is 3, preferably 2 sons and 1 daugther. And I will just raise them the same way my girlfriend and I were raised, on traditional Midwest values.
Nope
It's such a huge commitment which would mean I would have to stop enjoying myself for a good twenty years. My family has had some pretty shocking parenting and who's to say that I'll be any different no matter how hard I try?
Also I'm kinda fond of money. It's my life and I'm not just about to sign it away in one night for twenty odd years to raise some horrible brat who'll suffer from hereditary dementia later in life.
Besides there's too many people on the planet anyway, I'd much rather help lower the numbers rather than raise them...
It's such a huge commitment which would mean I would have to stop enjoying myself for a good twenty years. My family has had some pretty shocking parenting and who's to say that I'll be any different no matter how hard I try?
Also I'm kinda fond of money. It's my life and I'm not just about to sign it away in one night for twenty odd years to raise some horrible brat who'll suffer from hereditary dementia later in life.
Besides there's too many people on the planet anyway, I'd much rather help lower the numbers rather than raise them...
I would like kids someday despite my terrorizing fear that I'd be an absolutely horrible father. My girlfriend seems to think I'd be good, though.
Already have three that I love very much. So...yeah, I'd like to keep them. More? No thanks. But there's surgeries for that.
Thankfully the Furioso side of my family is large enough to allow me not having kids, which is probably for the best, because my father got the wrong end of the genes and passed those on to me, I am probably on a genetic dead end, so I wouldn't want a kid to share in all that
Pretty much this.Qizx said:
I've been told that I'm really good around kids. But I don't like them, babies are gross and messy. People tell me that I'll think differently about them if I had my own children, but I doubt it.
From what I've heard, giving birth is very, very painful. I have no desire to voluntarily put myself through that much pain and poop in front of a bunch of strangers just to have something I don't want.
I would like to at some point in my adult life but the way the economic is going I wouldn't want to bring a child into a hard future. Also with me being "forever alone" I would consider myself to be lucky if I ever had in a relationship that lead me into marriage.
Anyway the reason why I would want a child is that it's all about having more love in my life since I was told that having a child is a greatest thing in life or something like that (well to some people).
Anyway the reason why I would want a child is that it's all about having more love in my life since I was told that having a child is a greatest thing in life or something like that (well to some people).
Nope. If kids bring you joy, that's very nice, but I'd rather not be exposed to them. Never outside my own childhood have I even remotely liked a single child under the age of ten or humored the thought of having one. I avoid small children like the plague -- they're almost like really creepy pets whose safety is several times more relevant to society than mine, making them even dangerous to be around in case a situation occurs where my safety or freedom is weighed against a child's.
And before anyone thinks of saying that it'll be completely with kids of your own: I'm not only naturally almost sterile but also trans. My country's law is such that before your new official gender can be assigned, you have to be sterilised. Chance of me getting pregnant and my brain structurally and chemically altered as a result? Pretty close to nil.
And before anyone thinks of saying that it'll be completely with kids of your own: I'm not only naturally almost sterile but also trans. My country's law is such that before your new official gender can be assigned, you have to be sterilised. Chance of me getting pregnant and my brain structurally and chemically altered as a result? Pretty close to nil.
Yup, I want a daughter. I'm an only child and I've always wanted a little sister so that I can be the protective big brother but that never happened so I want a daughter so I can be the embarrassing dad who frightens the gentleman callers.
Her name will be Lyra.
Her name will be Lyra.