Poll: Do you want children?
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At the moment, no. I'm still fairly young and I first want to finish my education and have a decent job to be able to support a family but later on I do plan to get children.
Life seems kind of pointless otherwise to me. I don't want to live only for me and I want to leave something in this world that will still be there even when I'm dead.
Life seems kind of pointless otherwise to me. I don't want to live only for me and I want to leave something in this world that will still be there even when I'm dead.
While there are many reasons I have chosen not to have children, the most topical is the danger of overpopulating the planet and straining its resources beyond its ability to sustain life.
We live in a closed system, and we are systematically destroying the ecosystem.
We live in a closed system, and we are systematically destroying the ecosystem.
No. Having children is selfish and unnecessary. If I ever end up with money to spare I'd rather donate to charities focussing on educating and improving medical care for children in less fortunate situations. I wouldn't mind adopting either. Seeing as there are plenty already in existence, I see no reason to churn out a shitcake of my own while someone else's is starving.
I already have a 2 year old daughter that I love to bits. Yes, parenthood is hard work and sometimes I want to be left alone for a little while, but the bad is far outweighed by the good and nothing beats the feeling when they give you a hug or laugh as you play with them.
I would definately recommend it to those of you who are on the fence about being parents yourselves. To those of you who don't want children, that's your decision but I think you will be missing out on a lot of joy.
Would my wife and I have another child? Possibly, but in a couple of years and when we have got settled in a house (we live in a 2 bed flat right now, and that is cramped enough with one child!). I would like my daughter to have a little brother or sister to play with and look after.
I would definately recommend it to those of you who are on the fence about being parents yourselves. To those of you who don't want children, that's your decision but I think you will be missing out on a lot of joy.
Would my wife and I have another child? Possibly, but in a couple of years and when we have got settled in a house (we live in a 2 bed flat right now, and that is cramped enough with one child!). I would like my daughter to have a little brother or sister to play with and look after.
One boy and one girl. Keepin' it simple (and hopefully not twins!). I fear that one (or both) might inherit my hell spawn tendencies from when I was a child, so I'm hoping that I would only have to deal with it at most two times in my life.
i want be be a father so that i can be the most mean old bastard this world has ever seen. "ohh dad did you just buy a new super gaming computer for us? horray we love you" to which i will reply, "for you?"
I would say yes, though for that to happen I would have to find a woman who I could stand being with for more than a few months.
One day yes I would like to have kids. Preferably 2, a boy and a girl, but I'll be happy with whatever I get.
I used to be completely against having kids (the pain of childbirth mainly put me off) but now I'm in a long term relationship I've sort of changed my mind. The idea of creating and raising something that loves you unconditionally, relies on you, depends on you, well I think I could definitly get in on that. I could also get a dog for the same kind of thing but well, I would like both.
Won't be having them for a few years yet however. Not with a boyfriend still in uni and me only in part time work. Plus we're only 21. I'll wait until we're a bit more stable before we even think about that.
I used to be completely against having kids (the pain of childbirth mainly put me off) but now I'm in a long term relationship I've sort of changed my mind. The idea of creating and raising something that loves you unconditionally, relies on you, depends on you, well I think I could definitly get in on that. I could also get a dog for the same kind of thing but well, I would like both.
Won't be having them for a few years yet however. Not with a boyfriend still in uni and me only in part time work. Plus we're only 21. I'll wait until we're a bit more stable before we even think about that.
Ten years ago I would have screamed "NO!", but now I think about it sometimes.
I'm still not sure I want children, but my biological clock has started telling me I do...
It's a big responsibility, and I'm not ready for it yet, even though I have a boyfriend I can see myself spending the rest of my life with.
If I have children it won't happen until I know in my heart that it's time.
I'm still not sure I want children, but my biological clock has started telling me I do...
It's a big responsibility, and I'm not ready for it yet, even though I have a boyfriend I can see myself spending the rest of my life with.
If I have children it won't happen until I know in my heart that it's time.
... been there... if you don't mind me asking, how did you get over it? 'Cos I still don't think I am...DRes82 said:
Then, there's the other side of the coin where you genuinely believe that you will be so poor a parent that the way you treat your child is more in the hope that you are doing right by them, than in believing it...intheweeds said:
OT: I... really... don't... know... When I was twenty, I was young and stupid enough to think that maybe having a child might make me/then gf happy. When she got pregnant, we were OK for a while, and we felt like a child might 'complete' us, cliche as it sounds. Fast forward eight months, she had an almost complete and utter mental breakdown and I barely managed to keep myself from following her. Perhaps I wanted that child too much, but I feel that if I were to have a son or daughter, even if he/she was adopted, I'd be excessively protective, stifling their desire to be out of my own fears of losing them regardless of how likely or unlikely it would be.
So, yes, I do want a child, but not as I am now.
I've never gotten over it, and neither has my wife. It brought us closer together, having to deal with it. The fact that we're still together after the strain it put on both of us is a testament to that. I think being able to have our own kids at some point would be amazing, but there will always be an emotional scar. It really is quite the awful experience.SckizoBoy said: