Poll: Do you want to get married?

[tholomew92]

At the moment, no. But in 10-20 years who knows? Same about kids really. I'm still 18 so I still have at least 3-4 years left of studying. If I might meet the right girl then why not?

 

[Vivace-Vivian]

For years and years I didn`t want to. In my personal opinion it is still a metaphorical chain. However, after meeting a woman willing to do it under circumstances I am comfortable with, yes, I would.

 

[Xanian]

I never thought I'd want to get married, then I met the love of my life and all that changed.

However, I'm gay so I can't.

:etpet:: Soon...my dear...soon we will make it happen...and then everyone will be equal.

OT: Naw...it's easier to keep my finances and taxes separate from his. I'm not very romantic. Six years going strong...why mess with a good thing? Not having kids...so...yeah...why?

 

[Gudrests]

Yep.

step 1: Get girlfriend... I'll figure the rest out after that.

LOL thats pretty much my plan as well

same here...altho im kinda going out...*looks at clock* in 10 mins to get one...sooooo.yeahhh Kind of hard to think of getting married...most people say im Bipolar...I don't think so. I just will change my mind quickley if a circumstance changes....I mean near instantly...I don't need to look at everything as a whole because I do anyhow...if that makes sense

 

[karloss01]

I'm not really bothered for marriage, i don't see the appeal of it. if you love each other enough why would you need to get married, being married doesn't really change much and makes it harder to get out of an relationship if it all goes wrong.

 

[sdafdfhrye3245]

I would like to get married but it will probably never happen

 

[CrashBang]

Whenever I get a new gf I start imagining whether I have a future with her. My last two relationships both lasted over a year and, both times, I saw myself eventually getting married so, yeah, I very much want to get married. Just gotta find the right girl...

 

[Tetranitrophenol]

175 people dont have pubic hair yet

 

[veloper]

Only if I'm ever stupid enough to get kids, for the sake of those kids.
There's no reason to limit my own freedom unless I fuck up.

 

[Valksy]

It would have been nice. But I'm 37 years old now and I very much doubt that it will ever happen.

These days? If I cared enough for anyone to be that close to them, I would have cared enough to not let them get involved.

 

[ajemas]

Nah, I wouldn't want to. The thought of spending the rest of my life in close proximity to someone else seems like a nightmare to me, not to mention the obligation to keep them happy and interested. I'm fine staying out of any kind of intimate relationship for the rest of my life.

 

[thecoreyhlltt]

I plan on marrying my gf once we're both done with college. I think her dad might learn to like me by then, and not give us grief about it. XD

hope you have better luck with her dad than i did with my ex's (but still the love of my life) dad.

but me personally? i can't wait to get married and have a coulpe 2 3 kids... i love kids...
so hit me up escapist ladies ;A

 

[binvjoh]

I wouldn't mind, though it doesn't hold much symbolic value to me.

 

[ssgt splatter]

Hell no.

I don't want a ball and chain strapped to my leg. A one-night-stand is good enough for me.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Only for the aspect. You know, things like my will, insurance and so forth. I detest the idea of spending several grand on a ceremony, and letting religion into a relationship is disgusting.
Sign a sheet of paper and go on a sex-filled holiday sounds about right. No cake.

 

[Flack]

No. I don't like the idea of marriage at all. Don't see why you can not just be happy with a relationship as it is, and feel the need to get a piece of paper as if to "prove it".

 

[K4ndY]

Been together with my bf for nearly 9 years, and still as much in love with him as the first day I saw him. We have a house and a car together, and we do our taxes jointly. We've felt pressured by both family and friends about marriage, but I had made it clear from the very beginning that it wasn't something that I wanted. I don't feel like we've been missing out, especially since I hate the whole "look at me" ceremony involved with marriage.

Things might change in the near future though as we plan on trying for a kid at the end of this year. If I do decide to get married, it would be for the sake of our kids, and it would most likely be a very, very small civil marriage (since most of my extended family are religious, I'm probably never gonna hear the end of it for not getting married in a Church...)

 

[spartandude]

I'm not too fussed tbh. On one hand i dont need a peace of paper from the government to say im officially in love with someone, if im in love with them then thats what counts. however if my future boyfriend or girlfriend wanted to get married then i wont have a problem with that.

 

[sumanoskae]

I get that, but if it's not about the paper, then why bother with the paper. What else separates weddings from, say, a(Considerably less expensive) party you throw with your friends or family to celebrate you and your significant other making a decision about commitment or children?.

What about marriage makes it so emotionality significant as to make up for the potential divorce hassle when the two of you get tired of each other because your relationship has nowhere else to go, or you become attracted to someone else?

I think you've got it backwards, what people want is the big elaborate party showing their love to the world and the piece of paper comes with that.

Marriage (and the paper that comes with it) existed long before expensive weddings involving expensive food, drink, clothing, etc. The problem with the idea of having a "decision about commitment" parties is that if they were adopted by a significant number of people they would wind up being as expensive and elaborate as weddings anyway, you can't invite 100 people to a party about one of the most significant decisions in your life and feed them crackers and cheese whiz.

Plus I think you'll find that simply living with someone for long enough will create divorce hassles. Legal ownership of certain assets becomes blurred and similar legal routes are open to sue each other endlessly thanks to that. A lot of divorces wind up about children too, that's probably the worst part, and those lawsuits can happen regardless of whether you're married. Plus I don't think many people think about it when they get married, considering it's a bond for life thing going on.

So if both options create problems anyway, how is marriage preferable?.

And then we would reject that tradition as well, that's just the cycle of life, it will go on regardless of what we do.

I just think, for me, personally, there would be less of a divorce hassle if we could just say "It's over". I'm pretty private with my stuff, so that wouldn't be an issue