Simple question: do you remain in contact with your ex-boy/girlfriends?
Feel free to explain or elaborate about the option you pick
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Never. If we're not together its because I decided to stop it. Most of them are assholes anyway.
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Yes, I do... still friends with them...
The strange thing is that most of the people I know are still good friends with their exes as well. One sister's ex still calls her 'Munch', the other sister and her ex are often mistaken as still going out (even though she's engaged), and I still refer to my ex as 'Galatea'...
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Problem?
The strange thing is that most of the people I know are still good friends with their exes as well. One sister's ex still calls her 'Munch', the other sister and her ex are often mistaken as still going out (even though she's engaged), and I still refer to my ex as 'Galatea'...
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Problem?
Rarely.There's only one of my exes that I see with any regularity and that's because she lives fairly close to me and it was an amicable break-up for both of us.I'd stop and have a chat with her if I bump into her but that's about it
pretty much this, I don't go out of my way to talk to any of my exes, but if I see one I try to be civil at the very least. There is only one girl I run into every now and then (moving away helped avoid my others) but we both agreed we weren't working together so it's not that weird.MetalDooley said:
Pretty much my position. I tried, and it caused old habits to creep up again. It's best to simply move on with your life; needless drama is needless. What really infuriates me is when they are the ones rejecting you in harsh ways and then suggest maybe you could be friends... oh the bitter taste is still in my mouth about that one.SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
Well I've only ever had one proper girlfriend and I kinda have to see and speak to her due to school and sharing friends, plus we talk to eachother anyway but I'd rather not talk to her at all to be honest.
Close friends with almost all my exes. One of them is almost a sister to me.
I liked them enough to date them. That didn't go away just because we stopped fucking.
I liked them enough to date them. That didn't go away just because we stopped fucking.
I couldn't imagine any scenario when even meeting with someone I was once that involved with would result in either one of us coming from it happy!
Every time is different.
For instance, one girlfriend and I broke up due to distance. We just figured it would be easier if we made our peace and left it at that. And it was easier.
Another one broke up because...I don't really know. But it was awkward for a long time, mostly because I acted all pathetic. But then we talked it out later and things were good. We never would hang out on purpose, but we didn't avoid each other (same circle of friends, so it wasn't uncommon that we'd end up in the same places).
Another one and I broke up because she was a pathological liar and a crazy person. Seriously...she had another life on the side that neither I, her family, and none of her friends (at least not the ones I knew) knew about. She had serious issues (eating disorder, abuse in earlier life, and boyfriends who had cheated on her before), ones that would make you feel bad for her. But she wielded that like a weapon. And she lied to the point that you could not trust her a single bit. So we broke up very bitterly. Animosity is the word for this one.
Another...we hang out on occasion, but our relationship was extremely casual. We were like...concert/party buddies with benefits. It was awkward for a very short time after, but she's just too fun and we have too similar interests to not be friends.
For instance, one girlfriend and I broke up due to distance. We just figured it would be easier if we made our peace and left it at that. And it was easier.
Another one broke up because...I don't really know. But it was awkward for a long time, mostly because I acted all pathetic. But then we talked it out later and things were good. We never would hang out on purpose, but we didn't avoid each other (same circle of friends, so it wasn't uncommon that we'd end up in the same places).
Another one and I broke up because she was a pathological liar and a crazy person. Seriously...she had another life on the side that neither I, her family, and none of her friends (at least not the ones I knew) knew about. She had serious issues (eating disorder, abuse in earlier life, and boyfriends who had cheated on her before), ones that would make you feel bad for her. But she wielded that like a weapon. And she lied to the point that you could not trust her a single bit. So we broke up very bitterly. Animosity is the word for this one.
Another...we hang out on occasion, but our relationship was extremely casual. We were like...concert/party buddies with benefits. It was awkward for a very short time after, but she's just too fun and we have too similar interests to not be friends.
There is one I bump into in town every once in a while, we still stop and have a chat.
We didn't end on bad terms it was just one of those relationships that were not going anywhere.
We both moved on and are now married (to different people obviously).
We didn't end on bad terms it was just one of those relationships that were not going anywhere.
We both moved on and are now married (to different people obviously).
I have stayed in contact with most of them to greater and lesser extents. The only one I don't talk to is my first girlfriend who cheated on me 6 months into our relationship. And even then, I am not angry with her, now anyway. It's just that she lives in Spain now, so it seems pointless. But I am at least civil with the rest of my ex's. I dated a girl early last year, and still meet up with her twice a week to chat, and my ex boyfriend from before christmas is still one of my best friends. 
I suppose it all depends on how the relationship ends
I suppose it all depends on how the relationship ends
Huh. For me, it's the other way around: if I've been that close to someone, I'd like to know how they're doing, even though I know I'm not a big factor in their life anymore. While I don't really see them that much, I don't mind talking to them or even hanging out from time to time.SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
Of course, that's as long as they don't start making out with one of my best friends straight after we break up. Which has also happened. Gwuh. fukdatbitch
It depends on the circumstances of us breaking up. If I dumped them because they did something really mean, then I'll try to never see them again. If we just wanted a change or it wasn't working out, then I stay friends with them. Simples?
I've often tried, but rarely succeeded. It's worked in the short-term, but rarely the long-term.
The problem for me is that I get rose-tinted glasses when in a relationship and when they come off all the things that were mildly annoying before become downright irritating. For some of my relationships where I've been dumped for rather insulting reasons, such as:
- Not making enough money
- Too ugly
- I want to have a go with this person instead
- I already had a go with this person
and
- I can't stop cheating on you behind your back so this is probably best
It's rather hard to even like the girl afterwords. It's a shame too, since only two of my exes receive genuine resentment from me and the rest are sill lovely to this day, but I've moved around so often it's hard to keep in regular contact.
The problem for me is that I get rose-tinted glasses when in a relationship and when they come off all the things that were mildly annoying before become downright irritating. For some of my relationships where I've been dumped for rather insulting reasons, such as:
- Not making enough money
- Too ugly
- I want to have a go with this person instead
- I already had a go with this person
and
- I can't stop cheating on you behind your back so this is probably best
It's rather hard to even like the girl afterwords. It's a shame too, since only two of my exes receive genuine resentment from me and the rest are sill lovely to this day, but I've moved around so often it's hard to keep in regular contact.