NiceGurl_14 said:
BonsaiK said:
NiceGurl_14 said:
I'd leave the Sex, Games are too much a part of my life. My boyfriend wouldn't like it much but he can deal with it.
Ouch. I'm glad we're not going out.
Well, It's different for girls. We can go for long periods without it or without wanting it, even though it varies from girl to girl. Besides, It's easier in a relationship without sex, see if your really compatible with each other.
It's definitely not different for girls in general, it's just different for some people as opposed to others. I know a lot of girls who can't go without sex and start freaking out and climbing the walls if they're in a relationship and they don't get any, much like I do. I also know some guys who are very kinda "meh" about sex and probably would actually forego it for a year of gaming. Also consider that it might not be you though, it might be him. If your boyfriend is that low-committment a proposition that you could go a year without sexual contact and it's wouldn't even bother you, then it's a real possibility that he's just not the one for you. I've met plenty of girls who were kinda "meh" about sex until they met a particular guy and then they transformed virtually overnight into insatiable vixens...
It's easier in a relationship without sex because a relationship without sexual contact is really just a very close friendship as it doesn't require the same levels of committment or compatibility that a relationship with intimacy requires. Of course, just because something's easier doesn't mean it's better, sometimes something difficult is worth taking the time to do well (which is why people enjoy playing games on the hardest difficulty - sure you can go on "easy" and beat the game quickly but where's the fun in that...). You don't want to spend years gradually falling in love with someone and then finally have sex only to discover that he's deeply into some fetish or sexual practice that you have absolutely no time for, or (even worse) that he's extremely selfish and only cares about his own needs. If you're keen on someone, always best to get familiar with their sexual quirks as soon as possible, and also get familiar with how things play out in the bedroom once you've been at it for a while and the novelty wears off. Some people can keep the passion alive, some can't. These things are worth knowing about before you get too attached, both emotionally and legally...