Corey Schaff said:
As would I. Or just people in general. Being called a pedophile isn't fun.
Yeah, not really the same thing. I am not so much concerned about being called a pedophile, I am concerned about how that false accusation is being used to deny me legal rights and social privileges (informal rights). If it was just name slinging it wouldn't be so bad.
Well that's never gonna happen, society tells everybody how they're supposed to dress. Damned if I'm going to spend $100 on a single shirt, though. I dress "inappropriately" all the time, people are always like "aren't you cold?" <_<, or "your shoes are untied", or "your shirt's inside out". Like I don't know that...I mean, sometimes I don't, but I try not to be concerned either way, I wear 6XL t-shirts with MLP Cutiemarks on them.
Ah, see, that is not what I am talking about. People criticize you for being untidy or unusual. Trans people can experience anything from verbal abuse, threats, being kicked out of a store, having the cops called and being arrested because people assume you are a prostitute, and even physical violence.
You don't hear about people being beaten to death for having their shoes untied or arrested and incarcerated for wearing a t-shirt on a cold day. It isn't even remotely the same thing.
Can't argue with that. A current platitude would be "Don't Lump me in with Trump"[/quote]
I wouldn't lump you in with people like him. He is a hate monger and weaponizes prejudice in order to benefit himself. There are few things more terrifying than the existence of people like trump, and one of them is that people support him. It's like being there when Joe McCarthy gave his first speeches about communism.
You seem neutral, maybe a tad ignorant (in the literal, non prejudiced sense that you just do not yet have information) on the issue. You seem tolerant. But the absence of malice is nothing to be proud of. You live in a bigoted society, that means you can end up hurting people entirely inadvertently. And you seem unwilling to take even the most basic precaution against doing so, placing your whim of curiosity at a position of greater importance than allowing trans people to feel and be secure.
Well, I wouldn't call it interrogation, or even public <.< I'd probably be like "psst, um, pardon me, I was just wondering..."
I'm certainly not going to dress up like batman and question you while you're hanging upside down from a roof, that'd be interrogation <.<
You make that joke, but shit happens. Interrogate is the right word for what happens to trans people. When someone wants to know our gender they generally are not kind or courteous. Physical and verbal intimidation are usually the major component, and they tend to be very public about it. It is not a pleasant experience. It is all the worse because we know that this is the most common precursor to a hate crime against us. I have been lucky enough that I have never experienced worse than intimidation, but worse happens all the time.
We live in a hostile world. That may be something you can't understand. We don't assume the worst of people because we are grumpy and cantankerous. We assume the worst because that is what we have to do to keep ourselves safe. We don't have the luxuries you have in this area.
And as for just being kind and courteous when you do ask, that isn't going to be enough most of the time. Language that is innocent in it's literal meaning can and is used as a tool of intimidation. Whatever precautions you take we are not going to know your intentions immediately, and we also know that it could quickly escalate however nice you seem. We don't know you. So we have to assume it could go bad for us and plan and act accordingly.
I am not going to say you cannot ask trans people about their gender, I am saying generally you should not. Satisfying your minor curiosity is likely going to cost that person a significant emotional toll, and that is the best case scenario. There is always the chance you out them and cause additional difficulties.