Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[khaimera]

I call bullshit on this. Not on you being happy without a relationship, thats fine, but when you say that you would not be the right guy for any girl.

Based on my interactions with you I think you have qualities that many girls I know would love to find in a guy. You are nice, polite, funny, smart, and compassionate. Where I'm from these qualities are very uncommon. What else is there for a girl to want. Plus, I've seen you flirt on here, so I knwo you can do that. Granted, I don't really know you IRL but on here you seem like a perfectly normal guy.

And all that goes completely out the window in real life, where, to paraphrase my previous girlfriends, I'm manipulative, stuttering, short-tempered, bitter, anti-social, rude, pretentious and depressing to be around.

There's a reason why I prefer the internet, I'm far nicer on it.

Interesting. I could see some of the shyness, but the antisocial part is hard for me to fathom. I wonder if your time here has resulted in a change in personality off of the internet.

I think my time here has helped me to mellow out and to become more serious when talking to people I dont know instead of making immature jokes, and not really giving a damn. For example, the nice things I just said about you I would have never said to anyone online in the past. Also I try to keep my posts here as close to how I would talk in real life, that has helped me strengthen my sense of self.

 

[AgentDarkmoon]

Thank you for your replies, though I am not sure, if you understood what I was asking. I am sitting in my apartement all day, not quite happy but more or less ok with myself, and always have to read how much better people with girlfriends are supposed to be, kind of like nerds are inferiour to 'real' people (even Yahtzee uses this kind of worldview). I am just curious, wether the effort to go out and make an ass of yourself to get laid(or loved) is sooo much better than being alone.

PS: sorry, i forgot to add the NO option. Hangover.

You don't have to 'go out and make an ass of yourself'- simply playing videogames is what brought my boyfriend and I together. If you're ok with yourself now, then stay doing what you're doing? The right girl for you may walk along into your life without you putting out any effort, and I can guarantee that she won't make you jump through hoops or be a bitchy nag. If you are curious about relationships, go out and get a girl and try it? I warn you that you might not get what you expect (plus, remember that the girl is a person just like you- has similar wants, desires, and flaws, and deserves just as much respect as you do).

It all boils down to you- only you know what you want and are willing to do, so if you want to see if you get happier with a girl then go out and get a girl, if you want to try love then look around and be very patient, and if all you want is sex I'm sure you have a club nearby you can visit.

 

[zakski]

And all that goes completely out the window in real life, where, to paraphrase my previous girlfriends, I'm manipulative, stuttering, short-tempered, bitter, anti-social, rude, pretentious and depressing to be around.

There's a reason why I prefer the internet, I'm far nicer on it.

wait, whaaat? this is news, to the pms Naaow

Also my girl, Amanda Rocks

 

[Uncreation]

Eh, i don't know. I don't think I'M worth it for any girl, on the other hand.

 

[KarumaK]

What the TC is doing sounds like the way I operate. Go with it, it works fine and you're probably happy more often than all the people you know.

 

[Washini]

Me the whole "right one" thing is a product of youth's naivety and a huge need to be approved by someone. Why do I say that? Cause every friend I've ever had, said that during their first successful somewhat-lasting relationship. You shouldn't think about that kinda stuff before you've reached the age where you yearn to make a family, and is in a relationship with a girl who you could imagine yourself living with the next couple of years.

Relationships aren't that big a deal, you meet someone who either admires you or share interests, you both find each other somewhat sexually attractive, relationship ensues.

And that whole nag' thing ? Just be a GUY and don't praise a girl of her beauty until she allows you to stick it in her, do it the admirable way damn it! Find a girl of same or lower value as yourself, not a girl who knows she's too good for you before the relationships even start.

The sex is great thou, but of course will be that much better if your in a long relationship, and you care for each other. But yeah, it's a tad overrated.

My answer: You won't loose any part of yourself if you find a girl of your equal, there will be no "big" drama, no nagging. You have to dive into dating with the mind-set that "I'll try this girl, if she doesn't do right, I'll try the next - REPEAT"

Good luck OP

 

[Ildecia]

wheres the straight-up "no" answer?

please give simple answers and THEN some more... interesting answers

 

[Snowalker]

I talk to girls, I get compliments from girls, hell, I hang out with girls. Every single time I ask a girl out, she goes and finds some random ass dude and says she like him better. Pisses me off, I think someone started a Rumor that I'm gay, and I'm not, so this getting fucking annoying. So, in short, I don't know what the fuck to tell you.

 

[zakski]

oth in Dublin, I used to go up and see them. When I was about 14, and then again at 16.

Oh ok well for the second one i guess i had LC syndrome, and for the first who knows I was pretty wrapped up in stuff back then

 

[Kingemoney]

I think relationships are worth the effort. But I'm not looking specifically for sex. What I want to find is a girl with whom I have a strong MENTAL connection with.

Someone with whom I can share any of the crazy ideas I get from time to time.

Sex is just a bonus.

 

[Kraj]

SirDeadly pretty much just ended the thread.

Thread Complete, thank you sir.

 

[Chrissyluky]

The main reason I am so reserved when it comes to dating is the headgames and the fact that I won't get along with most guys emotionally. I'm not interested in eye candy I want an intelligent person who shares my interests. And that isn't easy to find.

 

[eatenbyagrue]

That's the thing about girlfriends: its a crapshoot.

Some girls are like force multipliers: you don't put in much effort, but the reward is awesome. Others are barely worth it. But that's what makes it fun to find out I guess.

 

[Zero-Vash]

It all depends on the girl I guess. I have dated some serious bitches and that was waaay more of a hassle than its should have been. But there are those out there taht can be thoroughly enjoyable to be with.

 

[Snowalker]

In regards to the "love= best friends+sex", a good way for the whole thing to develop is to be friends first, then the love and sex bit will happen if it's meant to.

I've often wondered if a lot of relationships have failed because people have fallen in love... with someone they wouldn't be friends with? Two different things after all.

I guess the ideal is to have a friend who's willing to hang out and play games with you, and then happy to make love after. Or before. Depends when Raid starts :3

And TY for the welcome, Hafnium

I think you're forgetting though, even though its better for both parties, and hellishly easier for men to date best friends. Girls want no part of it. They see best friends as off-limits, and they don't seem to realize, that if a friend asks you out, you either try to make it work, or the friendship is over anyhow. Thats just how things work.

 

[RaikuFA]

I talk to girls, I get compliments from girls, hell, I hang out with girls. Every single time I ask a girl out, she goes and finds some random ass dude and says she like him better. Pisses me off, I think someone started a Rumor that I'm gay, and I'm not, so this getting fucking annoying. So, in short, I don't know what the fuck to tell you.

im the same way

except replace gay with rapist

 

[zehydra]

Knowing that someone loves you you'll find is extremely rewarding... until they stop, that is.