Poll: How do I get back with my ex?

[zpaceinvader]

Having a hard time picturing someone who calls himself a military badass and also play warhammer 40k. With military hardass do you refer to your ruthless military victories in Warhammer 40k? Becouse i can totaly see how that would scare a woman away.

 

[aba1]

Listen to Luke, Frost, Phasmal and Satsuki. Specifically Luke.

I've never understood the idea of getting back together with somebody. That's like intentionally getting chlamydia twice, because you think things will be different the second time around.

there are a couple times I think it is ok to get back with a girl but generally I agree with ya if you broke up once there is a reason for it and it will just come up again


OT: Just saying but "military hardass" = "immature dumbass who thinks hes tough "

 

[viranimus]

Well the woman who got me shot said to me when we first started dating "Exes are exes for a reason"

Perhaps you would be better served expanding who you know and figuring out what you want/need out of a relationship instead o pining to retread roads you already know to be dead ends.

 

[Biosophilogical]

Ok, so me and this girl dated for about a month and broke up. Well, I've been hearing from her friends that she wishes she hadn't and I'd like to get back with her. However, I don't want another month long countdown to another shitstorm.

This is my theory as to why we broke up. When we started dating, I was acting all hardcore military (I'm in JROTC, so we got a reputation at my school) and she's a really goody goody girl, so I think she liked me for being all crazy. Well, I started acting all proper and a week later, we broke up. Does that sound like it might be right? My plan right now is to go back to being a military hardass around her again.

So why is 'military' associated with being an arse? I thought the point was to protect and serve, put yourself between the country/people you care about and those who are a threat to their safety. Just because the people around you don't share the same view (and treat you like an arse?) isn't a reason to play the part.

OT: She liked you because you were an arse? That's messed up. She liked you because you were confident, self-sufficient, independent, strong-willed and focused? That's not bad.

If it is the former, RUN! Run and never look back! If it is the latter, then maybe the problem wasn't that you weren't being a hard-arse, maybe it was that you were being submissive? You can be polite and kind without being a push-over, you just need to figure out if you can find the appropriate balance[footnote]Though it less of a balance than it is a new style derived from two different base-traits[/footnote].

 

[cowman2000]

TExt her a lot, non stop 24/7. If she blocks her number, spam her e-mail. Deletes her e-mail? Ok, go to her house and start a 99% rally on her front yard. Or use the pickup line "My Penis grants wishes, but only if you rub it hard enough"

 

[CarlsonAndPeeters]

You gotta be yourself; you can't be the person she wants you to be. I know that sounds like shit advice you read in a fortune cookie, but its true. Not because being yourself wins you girls--if a girl doesn't like you, it won't help at all. And that happens. But if you become someone else and win this girl over, you aren't going to be able to stand being around her because you're going to be playing some role that you think she wants to play, and you're going to resent her for it. And then it'll fall apart. Probably.

Be yourself. It may get you dumped, it may get you back with the girl of your dreams. But playing a game will never get you anywhere.