Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?

[Jacco]

Agreed. And not only emotionally, but socially. We (as single people) cannot join into some of the activities they do simply because we are single. I get left out of stuff all the time because I dont have a girlfriend.

I gotta ask. Are you friends with a bunch of swingers or something? I just can't see what in the blue hell your friends would be doing that would exclude you on the basis of your lack of a significant other.

Is it a case of them not inviting you based on your lack of a relationship or is it you simply not wanting to participate because you don't like being around couples? Because if you are excluding yourself and you are looking for a relationship you're really missing out. Couples can't help themselves when it comes to setting up their single friends with one another.

If you want a girlfriend hanging out with people in relationships is the way to go. As I said up above couples can't help themselves but to set up their single friends whether it be a sister, a friend, a cousin with a hair lip, or god knows what else.

nothing like that. I was talking about "couples" stuff. Last month during break, 3 of the four friends I have decided they would like to take a weekend into the mountains on a "couples retreat" thing. I didn't gather many details, but I got the impression it would not be appropriate for me to go as I was not a "couple". I was also left out of a sports game outing because there were and even number of tickets and the two people that had them (rightfully) put their significant other before me in choosing who to take/invite. It's those kinds of thing I meant.
Though one could argue that you get left out of something as simple as going to a movie by going with a couple as they will spend most of the movie together.
Also, it is difficult to hang out with a friend and their significant other as it's almost like you are intruding on their time together.

 

[greatcheezer2021]

im okay with being single again, but the worst part is the lack of poon back home since everyone is in school. and thats where all the poon went.

 

[Smiley Face]

I'm content. I hsve things I want to get out of my way, things about myself that I want to improve before I get into a relationship, because if I didn't, I'd mess it up. If and when that's sorted and I meet the right girl, I'll go for it. Unless I chicken out, or they beat me to the punch, but hey.

So as to your happy not being single thing, given the choice between being single and not single right now, I'd choose not, because the circumstances aren't right. I know some other folks in similar situations, bad breakups and whatnot, who would probably choose the same. Might we eventually resolve that? Yes.

If you mean 'is it possible to always want to be single', the answer is a more limited yes, it just takes a certain kind of personality, who doesn't want or need companionship. Anything's possible

 

[floppylobster]

I was so happy being single it took me about 12 years to get used to having a relationship.

 

[mParadox]

Question. Is your avatar Death the Kid?

Answer: No, it's not Death the Kid. It's Sebastian Michaelis.

No no, not the author of Demonology. The demon butler, himself. <.<

 

[Poetic Nova]

I would like to have a gf but the things that did happen makes it hard for me to fall in love again :/

 

[chaosyoshimage]

I am miserable beyond words also I have no friends...

 

[Deadyawn]

I'm kinda lonely but...well meeting people is such a gigantic pain in the ass.
I doubt I'll get in a relationship anytime soon but honestly I'm ok with that. This is easier for now.

 

[Vault101]

I dont like the OP's thing where he is essentially saying that single people arnt really happy

I AM

I like to be able to do my own thing and not worry about somone else, I mean mostof the stuff i Like to do is solitary, also romantic crap pisses me off to no end (what is it with holding hands? its stuoid and awkward and makes you look stupid in public)

though there are times I wish I could make that kind of conection with somone..but I wonder if thats what I really want, its not somthing Im worred or freaking out over, I'm fine right now

[sub] though this sex drive thing is getting hard to ignore [/sub]

 

[silasbufu]

Is the last poll option a very well hidden sex joke regarding being single or not? >.>

Anyway, I'm happily taken

 

[Gerishnakov]

I was in a relationship for almost 5 years with a girl I met while in sixth form (late high school for Americans?). We broke up around this time last year, and once I'd gotten over the initial sadness of the relationship ending there was a period where I think I was happy, for a while.

It's telling however, that slowly but surely I've become more and more unhappy being single. I'm not a ladies man, and I genuinely don't think one night stands or casual relationships are for me. I also don't have a lot friends. I think what I look for in life is a companion, who I can really connect with. Without someone like that I just feel like my life is missing something.

 

[Torrasque]

Single?

What's that?

>Been in a relationship with the same girl since he was 15. Is now 24.

Yes. I'm a charismatic stallion.

/highfive, way to go bro.

Personally, I seriously doubt that I will find a girl that has all the qualities that I like that isn't also: already taken, not interested, can't deal with my personality, has some kind of weird quirk that makes them un-attractive (like an obsession with god for example), or the delightful one I've run into time and time again, lives a thousand miles away.

 

[Trent Kama]

Disregard females, fly aircraft.

Yeah, I can't complain.

 

[Master Kuja]

Happy enough, mainly because the last few times I could claim not to be single, it's been a fucking disaster.
Though I wouldn't say no if I knew that the person in question would actually make me happy.

 

[Greenstripe0]

Why do I always feel the desperate need to comment on these threads. I mean honestly what is wrong with me?

OT: I believe it's one of those situations where at one point I felt extraordinarily content with things (my ex had cut me loose after using me for the sake of satisfying her own desperate loneliness) but after...4 ish years of being basically alone it really does start to get to you. At least it did for me. Honestly, I really just think I need a girlfriend to give me some company. Not that I don't have friends to keep me company but honestly there's a certain difference (and I don't mean that way. Yes, that way. I know what you're thinking).

 

[Kriptonite]

I'm not unhappy being single. That's not to say that a relationship couldn't improve my situation, but that a relationship is not vital to that improvement.

 

[DanDeFool]

I once thought that being in a relationship would make me happier, but I've had enough vicarious experience with women and experience with women on a platonic level to realize that being in a relationship is, most of the time, not all it's cracked up to be.

You see, the thing you've got to realize is that women are people too (I know! Crazy, right?). What I mean by that, specifically, is that they're going to have their own wants, needs, dreams for the future, etc.; and frequently those wants/needs/desires/etc. will clash with yours. That, and you need a lot of face-time with most people before you discover their flaws. You might walk past your high-school crush every day on your way to your locker and say hi, but that's not going to tell you if she's got a gambling problem or a genetic susceptibility to alcoholism.

The corollary to that is that a lot of what most people consider "love" is based solely around stuff that's going on in their head, instead of the real world. I imagine we've all had the experience of "putting someone up on a pedestal", only to realize later on that you were just making shit up.

I think being in love can be as good as the hype, but the catch is you have to work really hard to attract them to you, keep them interested, and do those things in a way that doesn't drain all your mental and fiscal resources, make the relationship work, and find someone who is willing to work as hard as you are on those things. It's a difficult skill to learn, and for me, the expense (in time and energy) vs. reward is waaaaaay too lopsided for me to want to bother with it right now.

So, yeah. Happy being alone. At least for now.

 

[Adam Galli]

I hate being single. I need that close relationship.

 

[Zoomy]

After my last relationship, I'm taking a long deserved break from relationships so I can finish uni and also just do the things I want to do without having my every choice vetted and blocked by a foul succubus.