Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?

[Zack Alklazaris]

I used to be like this. The freedom of being able to do pretty much whatever you want is wonderful. But it can get dull. There are 3 things I hate most.

Failing
Being Lonely
and Dying without Comfort

So I am married. To a geeky girl of all things. We share our opinions on video games (shes an ex WoW God I think she played with a group called Trillian or something) We share our love for Star Trek. She understands the importance of me seeing Star Wars in 3D, even if she doesn't care for the movies. Though she does admit she would love the games. And it goes on...

Point is you need as much a friend as you do a relationship. Believe me video games, movies, and porn used to be my circle of life and it was grand. But now its Video games, love, and sex. Those things are pretty damn good too.

Oh and crab legs are yummy.

 

[Captain_Fantastic]

well im not happy with it but i am content, my location being the big problem. living in a small isolated town(150 km from the nearest other town,200 from the nearest city) I never really had many options for meeting people with mutual interests.
And i will not do long distance so im basically "BONED"

but oh well, not much i can do about it so I may as well make the best of it.

 

[LordXel]

I'm happy, I would like to get into a relationship one day, but right now, I'm not rushing into anything. I'm young, I've got time.

 

[SenseOfTumour]

From Viz:
TOP TIP - Single men! Look like you're in a relationship by standing around in a mall with a dozen carrier bags, occasionally looking at your watch and sighing.

I'm kind of torn, I'd like to be loved, at the same time, I love the freedom being single gives me.

 

[Stormz]

Not really happy. Usually it's not a big deal for me but I'm currently infatuated with someone which sucks so much. I'm angsty about enough shit I don't need that extra layer. Man, crushes suck.

 

[PinochetIsMyBro]

Not single right now, but I certainly do miss all that spare money ;_;

 

[thirion1850]

I was happy, until I realized how sad I was from constantly lying to my self on the matter.

 

[Vault101]

I dont like the OP's thing where he is essentially saying that single people arnt really happy

I AM

I like to be able to do my own thing and not worry about somone else, I mean mostof the stuff i Like to do is solitary, also romantic crap pisses me off to no end (what is it with holding hands? its stuoid and awkward and makes you look stupid in public)

though there are times I wish I could make that kind of conection with somone..but I wonder if thats what I really want, its not somthing Im worred or freaking out over, I'm fine right now

[sub] though this sex drive thing is getting hard to ignore [/sub]

Look into prostitution. Assuming you're straight; male prostitutes tend to be quite cheap.

Also, as a female it's easy to get casual sex.

0.o....I uh..didnt think male prostitues for women were really a "thing"......(and no I dont think so )

I guess, but to be honest Im really not the kind of person who would do that, Im too self concious and I wouldnt want some stranger in my house or end up at a strangers house randomly

 

[StBishop]

I dont like the OP's thing where he is essentially saying that single people arnt really happy

I AM

I like to be able to do my own thing and not worry about somone else, I mean mostof the stuff i Like to do is solitary, also romantic crap pisses me off to no end (what is it with holding hands? its stuoid and awkward and makes you look stupid in public)

though there are times I wish I could make that kind of conection with somone..but I wonder if thats what I really want, its not somthing Im worred or freaking out over, I'm fine right now

[sub] though this sex drive thing is getting hard to ignore [/sub]

Look into prostitution. Assuming you're straight; male prostitutes tend to be quite cheap.

Also, as a female it's easy to get casual sex.

0.o....I uh..didnt think male prostitues for women were really a "thing"......(and no I dont think so )

I guess, but to be honest Im really not the kind of person who would do that, Im too self concious and I wouldnt want some stranger in my house or end up at a strangers house randomly

Yeah, the services offered range from your bog standard "piece of meat" through to what's known as the "boy friend" experience. They take you out and make you feel special. Some times they don't even have sex with you.

But the boyfriend ones are more expensive.

I can understand feeling apprehensive about random people and places. Surely you have a mutual friend who you find sexually attractive? More women should be pro active with their sex lives. Women always control the frequency (including none at all) and choice of partners in a sexual relationship.

Use that control to your advantage.

 

[Vault101]

I dont like the OP's thing where he is essentially saying that single people arnt really happy

I AM

I like to be able to do my own thing and not worry about somone else, I mean mostof the stuff i Like to do is solitary, also romantic crap pisses me off to no end (what is it with holding hands? its stuoid and awkward and makes you look stupid in public)

though there are times I wish I could make that kind of conection with somone..but I wonder if thats what I really want, its not somthing Im worred or freaking out over, I'm fine right now

[sub] though this sex drive thing is getting hard to ignore [/sub]

Look into prostitution. Assuming you're straight; male prostitutes tend to be quite cheap.

Also, as a female it's easy to get casual sex.

0.o....I uh..didnt think male prostitues for women were really a "thing"......(and no I dont think so )

I guess, but to be honest Im really not the kind of person who would do that, Im too self concious and I wouldnt want some stranger in my house or end up at a strangers house randomly

Yeah, the services offered range from your bog standard "piece of meat" through to what's known as the "boy friend" experience. They take you out and make you feel special. Some times they don't even have sex with you.

But the boyfriend ones are more expensive.

I can understand feeling apprehensive about random people and places. Surely you have a mutual friend who you find sexually attractive? More women should be pro active with their sex lives. Women always control the frequency (including none at all) and choice of partners in a sexual relationship.

Use that control to your advantage.

....well....you learn somthing new everyday

I dunno..the "boyfreind experience" might end badly if the lady in question is willing to pay for it she may get emotionally attatched or somthing..interesting

I think I be ok with it if I were comfortable with the person..but yeah, Im not about to go hire a prostitute or ask to fuck a freind

but thanks for the info!

 

[Active Schizophrenic]

Im pretty cool about being single, but if i could get a relationship off the ground and get back to the gym I would go back on the dating scene.

 

[ksn0va]

I cry myself to sleep sometimes. I stab my pillow with a pen every night for every girl that turned me down. I dunno. Girls hate me. Sometimes I think I'm maybe destined to be gay or something.

 

[Julianking93]

I used to be quite angry when I was more of the loner type.
I still am but more so before out of spite rather than a natural urge to not be around anyone.
It got pretty bad at one point where I felt so alone that I wanted to kill myself.
Even tried but it backfired (in more ways than one) and was left, not with a physical ailment but just a sense of clarity that I should just keep going.
That one Winston Churchill quote comes to mind, even if a bit overly dramatic when my situation is taken into account.

However, I did eventually find someone not too long later. Around the time I became alright with being by myself and was more of a natural independent.
My girlfriend and I got together and we've been a couple for a little over a year now. Almost two years since I've known her, actually.
I love my girlfriend and am sometimes overly possessive of her even if she doesn't know it.
That's my only issue now. >.>

But the point is that one shouldn't depend on another for their own happiness.
Someone isn't going to make or break who you are. You have to learn to love yourself before anyone else can and I've learned that first hand.

 

[Julianking93]

Am I happy being single? A few years ago I would have said yes to this question without a second thought. Now I'm not so sure, allow me to explain you see when ever the subject of relationship, love or sex comes in to play, my reaction always varies. I can either be apathetic and try to ease my way through the conversation whilst being polite and normal as possible or I can be a really sarcastic and bitter dickhead towards the person who started the conversation. Not to mention the worse of all this, is that when I do go into this bitter state of mind I start to think to myself, how great it would be for this person to lose their happiness, why should they find love when I'm stuck with the curse of being single for the rest of my life. When I snap out of it I feel horrible as the people I direct these thoughts to are my friends.

However whilst I'm not happy with being single I can tolerate it and I'm pretty much contented with my life so far. That being said I would like to experience the companionship of a girlfriend at least once in my life, just so I can get the heavy burden of being single all my life of my back, because that's all it has ever been to me a fucking burden.

Sorry for the rant but this is just my feelings on this subject.

Also if they're any grammar mistakes I apologise in advance.

I mentioned this to someone earlier today (not in this thread or even online). He was in the same situation as you. A feeling of "content" but wanting to get out there and such. Only difference is that he had had a girlfriend earlier in his life but just didn't bother with it after but the feeling of being single started getting to him for whatever reason.
He decided to attempt to get back out in the scene or whatever but wasn't really sure how.
If you really want a relationship but aren't looking to find that "one true love" thing just yet; get out there and talk to people. It isn't difficult and you don't have to make great friends with someone to ask them out.

People ask strangers out all the time only because they find them interesting/hot/sexy or whatever. Strike up a conversation and at least ask for their number if the convo goes somewhere.
If they say no, move on, no big deal.
If they say yes, if nothing else at all, your confidence will be boosted OVER 9000% simply from completing that. Trust me, it works.

Also, nice seeing you again Jamie, haven't seen you in a while ^-^

 

[game-lover]

I'll say I'm all right.

Not quite happy. Not quite content even. But all right.

I'm not miserable or anything but there's nothing special about being single.

When you get right down to it, I'd like to meet someone who pretty much makes me feel that I was perfectly fine without them and I'd still be perfectly fine with them gone. But I'd be better, quite a lot better with them.

 

[Floggo]

My plans for this year. Get a car, get a girlfriend. I was content being single. Now I'm over it.

We think alike, my friend.

 

[Mittenz]

While I am coming up on a year in my current (happy!) relationship, I don't think I'd mind the single life all that much. Ah well, that day will come eventually, so I think I'll make the best of this one until I'm exhausted by the thought of starting a new one when things end with my current GF

 

[StormShaun]

Well I am happy with my life but I would be awesome to get a girlfriend this year, especially if its a girl I like.

Though I don't think that will happen this year. *sigh*

Oh well, I still love to hang out with my best friend and play games and stuff with him. (He just discovered he had a free month of Live...)

But I really would like to have someone to cuddle though. D:

 

[Spy_Guy]

I'm absolutely dissatisfied with being single. Actually, perhaps "single" isn't the way to describe myself; even the idea of a woman being romantically interested in me is a profound violation of logic and sense. If a woman ever engaged in a relationship with me, the universe would spontaneously collapse.

This, of course, is the fate of somebody who considers a nice, relaxing (!) weekend to involve installing and trying out Version 7 Unix on a PDP-11 simulator. Very few women consider this an endearing characteristic; none would put up with the full collection of my interests and hobbies.

Don't worry, there's probably a person for you.

I'm happily taken, despite my relaxing weekends involving long manuals and afternoons faithfully simulating Russian SAM systems. Alternatively playing study sims for various aircraft...
...or making fun programs for people I care about.

Nerd and proud!

 

[The Austin]

Being single sucks. I hate it; but seeing as I'm a cynical teenager I'm probably not going to find anyone special anytime soon.

I just need sombodyyyyy to loooove