Poll: How important is sex to you?

[mechashiva77]

(Don't care if it's been done before)

It seems a lot of people judge each other on how much sex they have, if at all. If you have a lot, then you are either a stud, a player (in the bad sense), a slut, or experienced. If you have to little then you are either pure, a loser, a prude, or terrible.

People of The Escapist, how important is having sex to you?

For those who are interested in my view: I don't think sex should be the end all be all to a person's character, but if they legally have it then I could not care less. What bugs me is that people who believe in such statements are like "He is a virgin, therefore he is a loser." or "He does not want sex constantly, therefore he must be a loser." and their opposites. While I enjoy it and sometimes crave it, I'm not the type that needs a new person in bed with me on a regular basis. I'd stick to boyfriends, and not random strangers.

 

[Master Kuja]

Irrelevant to me, I've never based a relationship around sex, it's never been necessary for me to make a relationship work and I still don't understand why people make a big deal about it. It's nice and everything, but it's not the be all, end all.

 

[DeadlyYellow]

Sex is only important if I'm the one getting it.

 

[Llil]

Not important at all. I'm quite happy being a loser.

 

[JWRosser]

I think it's a very important part of any relationship, personally (you know, above the age 15 or so or whenever you're ready). Although if my girlfriend didn't want to I would never force her.

 

[Rascarin]

As a sexually mature adult, sex is important in the sense that it is a fairly strong biological impulse. I get cranky if I go more than a week without getting any.

As for how important it is as part of someones character, it's not that important. Someone who whores around and isn't sensible (safe sex, getting checked etc) loses my respect just for being an idiot. But having lots of sex or none at all doesn't often reflect on the person that accurately.

 

[Zyntoxic]

others having sex is not important to me as long as they do not wish to speak of it or whine about it, I have on occations given friends advice on the subject and I have raged upon others for whining about not getting any.

as to sex for me, it varies, I have no constant craving for it and have my times of disinterest, but when I have to go without it for too long it happens that I rage on my boyfriend for not putting out more =P

no but seriously lust come and go but too little of it in a relationship can make one feel neglected and insufficient.

 

[HumpinHop]

I'll tell you when I get it.

Ahhh cha-cha-cha-cha...

I never judged anyone for being a virgin or from having too much sex primarily because I'm in the same boat as the former. The only ones who really judge against people who are either virgins or inexperienced are the lucky few who nailed it around middle school, lauding their superiority over everyone else.

 

[gabe12301]

I'm not old enough so I really don't care.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

Well, my sex life is very important to me, but I would never judge someone based on whether they were a virgin or had not had as much sex as me (or conversely if they had had more or had got started earlier than me)

In my opinion, when done right with the right person for the right reasons, sex is an integral part of all good relationships. However, sex for the sake of sex isn't worth it in the long term.

 

[atol]

The rational part of me doesn't care, whereas the rest cares far too much. It's kind of frustrating.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Y'know... I don't really know. I'd like to say 'quite', but this is coming from a straight guy whose last series of sexual encounters were more than a year ago with a lesbian (who had a girlfriend at the time, I might add) and it amounted to angry sex a few times a week.

In the relationships that meant something to me, or rather, the one sexual relationship that meant something to me... it was a damned good bonus, but as we were, we would've been 'fine' if we didn't have as much sex. Besides, I don't really think relationships are all that well defined by the frequency of the coitus.

 

[CM156_v1legacy]

I've never had it. Nor do I have a desire to, yet.

I'd rather wait, but I don't by any means judge those who chose to have it. It's fine by me.

 

[Akytalusia]

it's a mechanic that's overused and quite frankly i'm sick of it.

 

[Loop Stricken]

I've been 'going without it' for years now.

I'm so desperately lonely.

Given that I have never, will never and probably, because of my personality being diametrically opposed to that of pretty much any woman, cannot have sex, it deeply upsets me that being a virgin is such a badge of shame. The fact is that I would be an immeasurably more efficient and better person with the removal of my sex drive, and I have no idea why there haven't been more medical experiments designed with this in mind.

Probably for the same reason there's not been a concerted effort towards making decent non-alcoholic beer.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

To me, it's incredibly important. Then again I am a slut with borderline sex addiction problems, so...

 

[Zack84]

I haven't been in a relationship for nearly 3 years, and despite there being opportunities, I have only hooked up with a girl once since then, and she was basically a stranger I wasn't even attracted to. It confirmed my belief that I really am not that interested in having sex if it's going to be with someone I have no feelings for. I found the experience pretty unsatisfying.

As someone else pointed out, as an attention-gripping biological urge, I'd say it's fairly important. I'm not going to lie and say I don't feel lustful a lot of the time, but I'm okay with not getting any until someone I think I actually like comes along.

That said, I think I've been out of the game too long, and I feel my youth, decent looks, and passion are being wasted not sharing a pleasurable experience with a nubile young woman.


Yes, it's important. Our youth is the time to make the most of enjoying our bodies. But judging people based on how much sex they're getting is pretty stupid and petty.

 

[InterestingKiwi]

In my experience, I haven't really noticed much focus on people judging others on their sex life. I also tend to float throughout the many circles of gay life. I've been a club kid where yea I've taken home some guy I met that night and had sex. That wasn't really me though, and that phase only lasted a few months. (If I didn't discovering bringing a flask of 151 and ordering plain cokes I would have been broke after those few months.)

I've been the gay rights movement guy, fully fleshing out the stereotypical appearance of homosexuals. Again, not me. Not that I don't care about gay rights, I was at the capitol building in Albany, NY for the whole week of gay marriage protests, but I'm just really not that involved in the community.

Now, I'm just an average Joe, with in a committed monogamous relationship. My friends don't ever really talk about anyone else's sex life, or give a damn one way or another.

(I honestly thought this topic was going to be about how important sex is in relationships...I wasn't really disappointed after seeing, but I did have to think up a whole new response.)

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well it's like good food, always nice to get it but extremely rare, so usually I just whip up something on my own...

In a relationship however it is very important, if there is no sex then there are severe trust issues and it won't take long before it all comes crashing down.