Poll: How important is sex to you?

[Carbonyl]

I've been with the same man for four years, and the majority of the time has been long distance. While talking and emotions are important and fulfilling, when I do get to see the man I can barely wait five minutes to jump his very sexy bones. Sex is important, not just because it feels incredible, but it's also an expression of love and a need for physical closeness. Meaningless sex is just meaningless, but making love mind-blowing. Literally. Good gorram gracious me.

 

[Antitonic]

Well, I'm asexual, so the closest option is "I don't want to have lots of sex." Drop the "lots of", and that would be better.

 

[Vandy]

While I don't think labels such as 'Stud' or 'Slut' or 'Virgin' or 'Whore' are important, I do think sexuality is an important part of ones personal development and everyone owes it to themselves to at least explore that identity (even if that identity is 'Non')
There's a lot of stigma placed on what turns us on as individuals and the labels we put on ourselves and each other often do more damage then what you actually do in the bed... or the bath... or on the kitchen counter... or in the dungeon club in the bowling alley's basement.

 

[The Funslinger]

I think it's a very important part of any relationship, personally (you know, above the age 15 or so or whenever you're ready). Although if my girlfriend didn't want to I would never force her.

This. It has a host of stress relieving/health benefits, it's damn enjoyable and we're humans. Might as well scratch that itch whenever you can and get on with life unfrustrated. That said, don't let it rule your life. Don't be sex's *****! XD

 

[The Funslinger]

While I don't think labels such as 'Stud' or 'Slut' or 'Virgin' or 'Whore' are important, I do think sexuality is an important part of ones personal development and everyone owes it to themselves to at least explore that identity (even if that identity is 'Non')
There's a lot of stigma placed on what turns us on as individuals and the labels we put on ourselves and each other often do more damage then what you actually do in the bed... or the bath... or on the kitchen counter... or in the dungeon club in the bowling alley's basement.

Or on a blanket beside the river. That's where I lost my virginity.

 

[Crazy Zaul]

Sex is indisputably the best form of weight loss.

 

[ElectroJosh]

It becomes more important the less you get of it...

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Sex is important to me if I'm in a relationship, but not as important as other types of physical intimacy (hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc.). I can take care of my own pleasure if need be, but snuggling up on the couch with a boyfriend is fifty billion times better than just sitting there with my cats.

 

[Gustavo S. Buschle]

I voted that for me, sexual intercourse is not so important, sexual pleasure on the other hand is really important for me.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

It's not really that important to me. It's nice obviously but if I loved someone who wasn't able to do it I wouldn't mind.

Obviously physical attraction and intimacy is important but sex itself isnt the be all and end all.

 

[Continuity]

It becomes more important the less you get of it...

This is true, and the reverse is also true... When you have it on tap it becomes perfunctory and you begin to wonder why you were so hung up on it in the first place.

 

[El_Chubba_Chubba]

I've never had it before...therefore very important.

 

[Doclector]

I personally don't have much drive for it. At least I don't want to. My sexual feelings will never be reciprocated, so they are useless to me, a distraction from what I can achieve. Arousal annoys me. At the same time, I know I must hurry. I am twenty, and going to uni soon. I have a planned cover story, but if people should find out i am actually a virgin, they will make my life a living hell. How does a nightmare creature such as me get laid? I have no idea.

So to summarise, personally I don't even want to want sex. But socially, I must have sex. I will be living with these people for three years, and I do not plan on spending those years fighting off attackers.

 

[Hollock]

Sometimes I have that song everyone else has had more sex than you run through my head when I look at people, but other than that I don't know, don't care, don't judge [sub]except when I hear people bragging about it ESPECIALLY if they're kids.[/sub]. But personally I've never had none, and won't until I meet more people, and maybe learn to talk.

 

[Zeetchmen]

Its too much of a pain for me to bother and get myself, but if I can get some its nice

 

[Gitty101]

It's quite enjoyable, but if that's all a relationship is based on then you have to ask yourself whether it's worth continuing. My partner and I are happy and healthy in that respect, but if things were to change I could easily live without it.

 

[Avistew]

I used to think as nice, but not too important, but then I was in a relationship with someone I was sexually incompatible with. At first we both were "oh well. Not everyone matches on everything, right?" and we thought we'd make it work anyways.
But man, it's incredible how many other problems started coming up as a result. In the end there was pretty much nothing going right, and a lot of it had to do with the fact that we resented each other due to bedroom stuff.
So now I think sexual compatibility is pretty important.

Okay, so that wasn't exactly your question. I also think of sex as important to me, in my life (although not specifically intercourse) and the only reason why I think I could have a relationship with an asexual person is because I'm poly.

About other people's sexual experience, I don't really care. I don't care at all if they're not a partner, because that's not something that affects me one way or the other, and if they are a partner it only affects me insofar as I want to know if they've had no experiences at all or very few so I can be kind of a guide or something and make sure it's a great experience for them.

I think the virgin = loser thing is because people who troll you will try and find something that hurts, and a lot of people aren't virgin because they want to be, but because they have lacked the confidence or opportunity to have sex. In such cases, because they wish they weren't a virgin, reminded them and calling them a loser for it is hurtful because it's reflecting how they feel about themselves.
As far as people who say, for instance "people who save themselves are stupid", well I can't say I understand why you'd care if you're not dating one.

I'm pretty sex-positive myself so I don't understand the insults towards people who have sex often either. Sure you can see it as indulging a pleasure and think it's wrong, but you rarely see the same kind of attitude towards people who eat a lot of cake or play a lot of videogames ("a lot" being defined by "as often as the person who has a lot of sex has sex, and for as long").

I mean, you can hear someone being called a slut because they had a single one-night stand. While excess can be bad with pretty much everything, with sex the excess sometimes seems to start really, really early in some people's minds.

 

[stefanbertramlee]

Im Asexual so not at all.

I didn't vote on the poll

 

[ChildofGallifrey]

It's definitely nice, but it's hardly vital. I currently live 1,200 miles away from my girlfriend, and she's more bothered by not being able to have sex than I am. Even when we're together we hardly do it every night. About every other night maybe, and not even that sometimes (and we're both 21! We're supposed to be hardwired to want sex 24/7).

 

[dstreet121]

Where's the "I have a hand for that" option?

But yeah, it's not that big of a deal for me.