I was just wondering how long would seem appropriate. I know it varies from person to person, but I've grown curious about this as of late.
Poll: How long should a couple go out before moving in together?
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A set time is meaningless, it all depends on how serious the relationship is and how strongly they feel about each other. My parents didn't move in together until they were married, although to be fair that was because neither could afford to leave their parents' places until then (and they had literally nothing, cardboard boxes for furniture and stuff, and after all, it was a different time...). They've been happily married for over 20 years now.
Two of my flatmates from my first year at university (there were nine of us in the flat altogether) started dating when they were living together in student halls, though in seperate rooms. They then continued to live together (again in seperate rooms) the following year, when we all moved in together in another place. They're still together now, and still happily living together.
You understand my meaning in this post, right?
Two of my flatmates from my first year at university (there were nine of us in the flat altogether) started dating when they were living together in student halls, though in seperate rooms. They then continued to live together (again in seperate rooms) the following year, when we all moved in together in another place. They're still together now, and still happily living together.
You understand my meaning in this post, right?
I'm quite certain there are quite a lot more variables in play than just the age of the relationship. Reducing it to this would be an over simplification.
Also a quick google search reveals the intelligent insight that one should wait until after the initial hormone filled phase is over (so you can make the decision clear minded), which last about a year.
Granted I'm not speaking of experience, just spent 2 minutes of searching the web. (hint, hint)
Also a quick google search reveals the intelligent insight that one should wait until after the initial hormone filled phase is over (so you can make the decision clear minded), which last about a year.
Granted I'm not speaking of experience, just spent 2 minutes of searching the web. (hint, hint)
I think I got it. XDTrivun said:
Honestly the reason I brought this up is that my gf and I have been going out for about six months and have talked about moving in together sometime in the future, but economically speaking, doing it anytime soon wouldn't end well. My parents always said to date a year then live together for a year, mostly because by then you know if you want to put up living with them and then if you can do that, you can probably be OK when you're married. XD
My gf and I probably won't move in together for at least another year though when we can get jobs settled in a bit and a little more cellege out of the way. Although splitting rent with her and her friend might not be a bad move. I guess I'll see when the time comes. XD
That's why you sign short leases. Typically three to six months. We're both in college, so a three month lease would cover most of a term in case we broke up. XDkhaimera said:
"And the two shall become one"Swollen Goat said:
Such is why I don't date, in the way that many people date. I'm not religious, I haven't had a bad experience, I just don't think that giving so much to someone with out the motivation to go and take that step of becoming a single entity is a good thing.
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I know people who were roommate before dating. I know people who waited 4 years before moving in together. Finally I know people who waited as little as a day before moving it. It totally depends on the couple.
Note: all those couples I listed are still going strong.
Note: all those couples I listed are still going strong.
I've had girls move in fairly quickly and get along with me very well (a girl I dated a few years back moved in after 6 weeks---we were together for 3 years.)
I also had a girl move in on the second date, redecorate my house, drive me crazy, and led to me leaving her alone with a friend of mine who I knew would fuck anything that moved---sure enough, the message wasn't lost on him, he fucked the girl, and I had my excuse for breaking up with her.
(and she was a sort of Trojan horse for him, since a month later he dumped her for the same ultimate reason I did. Why'd I date her in the first place? Two words: Nice tits.)
I also had a girl move in on the second date, redecorate my house, drive me crazy, and led to me leaving her alone with a friend of mine who I knew would fuck anything that moved---sure enough, the message wasn't lost on him, he fucked the girl, and I had my excuse for breaking up with her.
(and she was a sort of Trojan horse for him, since a month later he dumped her for the same ultimate reason I did. Why'd I date her in the first place? Two words: Nice tits.)
I suppose you also don't believe in premarital sex?omicron1 said:
I'm a firm believer in cohabitation because you really don't know how you're going to do living with someone unless you try it. I lived with my ex-wife and a roommate for four months before I got married---and I'm really wishing that (1) I'd lived with her for longer and (2) I'd lived with her without the roommate so I could see that her domestic skills were a bit...well, lacking...compared to what I was looking for in a wife.
That is correct. Premarital sex == premarital kids, and that doesn't turn out well very often.SimuLord said:
Some of the best advice I've ever heard on the subject of knowing thy significant other is, look at the same-gendered parent, and especially their attitude towards their spouse. They're often a preview of how their child will act towards you.