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SilentCom

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Ok, most of us here seem to be in our mid to late teens so I would assume that there might be some level of teenage angst and hurt emotions when it comes to one's parents. How is everyone's relationship with their parents here? Are you guys friends with your parents, mad at them, or just sort of don't care? I ask this because I was thinking about how we gain our genes from them and I realized I don't want to be like them. My relationship with them isn't really bad but frankly I just want to leave. I don't want to be around my parents anymore and am surprised that I even came from them. I'm assuming such thoughts are common however I do not harbor hate or extreme resent toward them out of angst, I just can't grasp how I came from them...

Also, have you guys thought what your kids would think about you once (or if) you have kids? Do you worry you would become like your parents?

I'm curious to know everyone's opinion and reasons for their relationships.

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Marter

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Mother/stepfather - Bad, still living with them. They are alcoholics.

Father - Neutral, still living with him. It's okay, I suppose. Wish some things would change though.
 

Tanis

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I hate my family...
They tend to be neo-conservative christian bigots.


Worst part?
Most of my family is "mixed race" - Native-American.
>_<
 

Blood Countess

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both my parents are dead but bad relationship when they were alive due to abuse from physical, mental and emotional.They were extreme christian and I am a lesbian pagan, need I say more
 

Safaia

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I'm in the process of moving out but my parents are pretty cool considering how hyper religious they are. I got a good laugh this morning at my mother's hangover.
 

SilentCom

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tanis1lionheart said:
I hate my family...
They tend to be neo-conservative christian bigots.


Worst part?
Most of my family is "mixed race" - Native-American.
>_<
Why is it so bad to have mixed race? I'm mixed, you're going to make me feel like something is wrong with me >_<

Edit: Nvm, I see what you did there. You mean the worst part is that your mixed racial family is also bigotted. It's getting late and my brain is falling asleep.
 

brucelee13245

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Rents are good, love em and more appreciative of them since i went to school and moved out. little sister is an all start synchronized skater too. Things are good, moneys tight, but that's life.
 

MasterOfWorlds

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Well, I'm 20, and I live with my dad. Mom passed away three weeks ago, and my relationship with her was much better than with him. Things aren't too bad though, we're learning to deal with each other.

The deal was that if I went to college, I could live at home and not have to pay rent and whatnot, which is pretty sweet, and I can save money in the mean time so that I don't end up drowning in debt like most college students.
 

Dags90

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I guess it's sort of neutral. My mom isn't a great person (and a worse parent) but I've sort of come to terms with that. She provides financially, which is an advantage I'm grateful for. My dad has some serious skeletons, but my relationship with him is pretty good. We're pretty similar people.

It could be worse. During my "wild" teenage years it was sort of nice that everyone I was friends with came from families with varying dysfunctions. Now that I'm meeting new people it's kind of awkward introducing people to my mom, especially people with "conventional" parents.
 

CM156_v1legacy

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Good-neutral, but I am in the process of moving out.

The only bad part is that my younger sister (By less than 2 years) is a shreaking harpy who is rather abusive, and my parents have refused to do anything about it, because I will take the abuse, but if they make her change, she will make their lives worse.
 

SilentCom

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MasterOfWorlds said:
Well, I'm 20, and I live with my dad. Mom passed away three weeks ago, and my relationship with her was much better than with him. Things aren't too bad though, we're learning to deal with each other.

The deal was that if I went to college, I could live at home and not have to pay rent and whatnot, which is pretty sweet, and I can save money in the mean time so that I don't end up drowning in debt like most college students.
Sorry to hear about your mom. I hope everything will be fine between you and your dad. Also, it is nice to be able to stay with your parents during college. That's the reason why I'm not in debt.
 

WolfThomas

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It's strange but I always feel guilty in things like this about how well I get along with my parents.

My parents are divorced, Dad's remarried and Mum has a longterm partner, they live very close in the same town (within 3km). I usually stay at my Mum's because it's bigger and I crash the guest room, whereas I'll be sleeping on an (ableit quite comfortable) couch at Dad's.

My Dad had really strict methodist parents and while they're good people they're not particularly warm people. As a result my father endeavoured to make sure we always knew how much he loved us, to this day I still end phone calls with "love you" much to my friends teasing. He also worked a shit-load while we were growing up so there was periods it felt like we never saw him and on rare ocaisons he could be particularly strict man and as a kid I had trouble reconciling this with the above. Regardless of that, to this day I still don't know how I'm ever going to match his parenting.

I can't really say much about my mother, simply because I don't know where to start. She was the one we spent the most time with as kids and I think we took her a bit for granted. She's one of the most grounded people I know, which is odd because her side of the family are all crazy. I don't talk to her as often as my father, which more because of her personality, like myself she never calls anyone unless there's a purpose, whereas my Dad just rings to chat (an odd gender reversal).

Both of their partners are very nice, except Mum's boyfriend is a communist hippie pinko, but I guess it takes all types. The step-siblings and de-facto siblings are all nice.

Overall I'm not worried about turning into my parents.
 

Neverhoodian

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I've always been on good terms with my parents. Sure we've had our share of disagreements and hardships, but we never lose sight of the big picture and what we mean to each other. I live on my own now, but I still regard them as friends and visit them frequently.
 

Tanis

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SilentCom said:
tanis1lionheart said:
I hate my family...They tend to be neo-conservative christian bigots.
Worst part? Most of my family is "mixed race" - Native-American. >_<
Why is it so bad to have mixed race? I'm mixed, you're going to make me feel like something is wrong with me >_<
Edit: Nvm, I see what you did there. You mean the worst part is that your mixed racial family is also bigotted. It's getting late and my brain is falling asleep.
You caught it.

How can you go around hating 'mud races' when you're AT LEAST in the 10 percent, some even over 50 percent, Native-American.
Plus there's some black/African mixed in there.

It's full on retard, and you NEVA go full on retard.
 

JUMBO PALACE

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I'm 19 and still living at home. Commuting to college.

I love my family. My sister and I are incredibly close and my parents and I get along great.
 

Knusper

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Neutral - My parents aren't bad people, it's just that they are bad parents.
 

similar.squirrel

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I moved back home last year. And they're pretty great people despite a few idiosyncrasies like my mother chain-smoking indoors and ignoring housework. But I don't mind keeping the house presentable; it's like rent, I suppose.

I still can't wait to move out again next September, though. It's not good to be 20 and living at home.
 

M4A1Sopmod

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I am no longer living with my parents. I wasn't always close, but as most people will tell you: separation makes it alot easier to be friends with them.
 

PhunkyPhazon

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"Annoying" comes to mind. They argue, yell, and bicker over the dumbest, most trivial things imaginable. And while they don't know this, I'm almost their opposite when it comes to political affiliations.

Also, my Dad is a walking contradiction. He's smart enough to land himself a job as an engineer for a major major major company, but he doesn't have a shred of common sense. I'm not being an angsty teenager or anything (Which would be hard considering I'm not a teenager), I could go on for days about the stupid things he's said and done. ("What's cheese bread?")
 

Chemical Alia

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I love my parents, and I'd visit them every day if I could. Unfortunately they're in Pennsylvania and I now live in Texas, so I only get to see them a few times a year. :(

I was especially close to my mom when I still lived at home in college, we would go out and do activities all the time.