Poll: I have a question for the ladies

[Kedcom]

How come no one has mentioned "Good sense of humour" yet? Or is that included in "personality"? Although a good personality is quite broad and could include all kinds of things such as kindness, affection, loyalty, intelligence etc etc.

Somewhere I read someone say recently that yes, girls love a guy with a good sense of humour, which is often true, but its also true that guys love a girl with a good sense of humour. And by that we mean a girl who laughs at our jokes. So true....

 

[Taerdin]

Basically women are attracted to confidence. Whats the biggest way to exude that you may ask? Be a colossal jerk! I know it might sound like I'm setting you up for some kind of trap, but really... think about this for a minute. If you're a nice guy you probably spend far FAR too much time consoling your female friends about 'that guy' who treats her like shit... and yet they seem to keep going for 'that guy'. Seems like a no brainer to you right? If someone treats you like shit then leave them?

Apparently thats not how women's minds work. Chalk it up to primal instinct if you want, but women want to be submissive to that guy who treats her like shes not TRULY worth it to him. That nice guy who would give her the world but thinks shes so amazing that he has trouble even talking to her? Screw that guy! Chicks want a 'real man' who acts like hes the shit and possibly hits her.

All the rational people on this site will probably think I'm an idiot now, but I know my share of women who know women and most of the stories I hear are not good. I mostly cringe when I have to hear them talk about how stupid men are as a whole. Umm... maybe its not their fault? Maybe you just make STUPID CHOICES LADIES. Luckily my girlfriend is largely sane and we have a loving long lasting relationship. But as for one of her best friends... I think shes dated about 8 guys in the last year. Luckily I think only one or two actually hit her.

Your move ESCAPIST!

 

[Elexia]

I don't really care about looks. A couple of guys I mightn't've given a thought to turn out to be humerous, intelligent and witty. I like a guy who either shares my interests or at least enjoys sharing them with me. Unfortunately, finding a man who enjoys witicisms, athletics, old movies, old TV shows, computer games and theatre are in sparse supply...

Post your picture and buy me a ticket to Australia and it's possible you just found the love of yur life

PS: How old movies are we talking about?

Ah well... 50's and up, especially the post-war era movies that came out of Hollywood, like film noir etc... I DO like modern movies too, but you can never beat some classics.

 

[Lord George]

I go for looks in guys and intelligence in girls, as girls in my experience are better for long term relationships but guys are good to have some quick fun with.

 

[The Legendary Phoenix]

How come no one has mentioned "Good sense of humour" yet? Or is that included in "personality"? Although a good personality is quite broad and could include all kinds of things such as kindness, affection, loyalty, intelligence etc etc.

Somewhere I read someone say recently that yes, girls love a guy with a good sense of humour, which is often true, but its also true that guys love a girl with a good sense of humour. And by that we mean a girl who laughs at our jokes. So true....

Good one, I completly forgot about it. *The Legendary Phoenix is now a certified fool.*

 

[Dys]

Not a girl, so not sure if my opinion is valid on what girls want (especially as I seriouslyfail at anything after the first night), wouldn't most girls, or at least a sizable portion, not want powerful partners?
Might just be the girls I get roped with, but in my experience girls are very controlling, and surely a partner who is used of having a lot of power would not take well to be controlled?
I dunno, just a thought.

 

[Tonimata]

Like the one on your forehead? for the love of god, grow up and learn that not all women are sluts that only seek sex. Aside of the fact that an oversized penis is, as has been scientifically demonstrated many times, and indeed not an indicator of my own virility, an inconvenient. And stop pretending you know everything about others.

 

[bjj hero]

Girls like guys that are mean to them. Think Im lying? How many girls have you met who are with a guy whos a complete douche? Im not advocating being abusive, Ive never hit a woman. Im talking about mind games. Dont return their phone calls for a day or so, cancel arrangements at the last minute but be really nice, funny aand charming when you are together.

Its a bit like gambling. Its so addictive because it doesnt pay out every time, gives it that "one more go" feel.

Im sure there will be plenty of girls who will disagree, but theyll all remember that one guy who was a shit to them but they just couldnt let go of him.

Im reformed now, in a relationship with a woman I respect and love. But being a douche does work, just depends how much you care for her.

Being rich or attractive doesnt hurt either.

 

[Sevre]

Girls like guys that are mean to them. Think Im lying? How many girls have you met who are with a guy whos a complete douche?

That is so true, but it doesn't last too long. Most girls like someone down-to-Earth and honest.

 

[Elexia]

I don't really care about looks. A couple of guys I mightn't've given a thought to turn out to be humerous, intelligent and witty. I like a guy who either shares my interests or at least enjoys sharing them with me. Unfortunately, finding a man who enjoys witicisms, athletics, old movies, old TV shows, computer games and theatre are in sparse supply...

Post your picture and buy me a ticket to Australia and it's possible you just found the love of yur life

PS: How old movies are we talking about?

Ah well... 50's and up, especially the post-war era movies that came out of Hollywood, like film noir etc... I DO like modern movies too, but you can never beat some classics.

Cool, that's exactly what I like. I was afraid you mean mute movies like Nosferatu or something.

Back to the topic: The problem with me and girls saying that "they don't care about looks that much" is that I'm not bad looking (judge it yourself http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.103722?page=7#1727900), but short (170 cm) and that's way harder for girls to accept. To make things worse I prefer tall girls, so contary to the popular belief, I don't score every night

I don't mind hight in guys. I don't consider myself tall, but I am compared to my friends. I'm not model hight but I'm too tall to be a decent sprinter on the track. I'm 173cm. I think the thing that puts most guys off me is I'm independant, confident and not afraid to speak my mind... I'm also a softie but a lot of guys never see that quality in me cos they're too interested in the tanned blonde on the other side of the room or something. I also lift more weight than them at the gym which tends to freak guys out a lot. lol

 

[kyrikryptonite]

It's different for every woman.

Quite true.
I voted for mix of top 3 but brains more so than the other two. Smart guys ftw!
Looks, I think, genuinely don't matter if you get to know someone first.

 

[bjj hero]

Girls like guys that are mean to them. Think Im lying? How many girls have you met who are with a guy whos a complete douche?

That is so true, but it doesn't last too long. Most girls like someone down-to-Earth and honest.

It depends what youre looking for. It keeps girls interested but I wouldnt advise basing a long term relationship on being a douche.

 

[The Legendary Phoenix]

Girls like guys that are mean to them. Think Im lying? How many girls have you met who are with a guy whos a complete douche?

That is so true, but it doesn't last too long. Most girls like someone down-to-Earth and honest.

It depends what youre looking for. It keeps girls interested but I wouldnt advise basing a long term relationship on being a douche.

I think this brings us to masculinity. Some guys think women are only attracted to jerks.
Wrong! Their attracted to their masculine traits confidence, strength, etc.
So a guy may be a complete ass, but he may still get the girl.
I wouldn't advise it for long term relationships though... some women actually have respect for themselves you know. 0

 

[bjj hero]

some women actually have respect for themselves you know. 0

Unfortunately nowhere near enough do.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

I don't really care about looks. A couple of guys I mightn't've given a thought to turn out to be humerous, intelligent and witty. I like a guy who either shares my interests or at least enjoys sharing them with me. Unfortunately, finding a man who enjoys witicisms, athletics, old movies, old TV shows, computer games and theatre are in sparse supply...

Post your picture and buy me a ticket to Australia and it's possible you just found the love of yur life

PS: How old movies are we talking about?

Ah well... 50's and up, especially the post-war era movies that came out of Hollywood, like film noir etc... I DO like modern movies too, but you can never beat some classics.

Cool, that's exactly what I like. I was afraid you mean mute movies like Nosferatu or something.

Back to the topic: The problem with me and girls saying that "they don't care about looks that much" is that I'm not bad looking (judge it yourself http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.103722?page=7#1727900), but short (170 cm) and that's way harder for girls to accept. To make things worse I prefer tall girls, so contary to the popular belief, I don't score every night

I don't mind hight in guys. I don't consider myself tall, but I am compared to my friends. I'm not model hight but I'm too tall to be a decent sprinter on the track. I'm 173cm. I think the thing that puts most guys off me is I'm independant, confident and not afraid to speak my mind... I'm also a softie but a lot of guys never see that quality in me cos they're too interested in the tanned blonde on the other side of the room or something. I also lift more weight than them at the gym which tends to freak guys out a lot. lol

Waves Single flag around |>

Mostly in my area of Australia, Women here see it as their man MUST be Musculy (dont ask how to spell the correct word right. im tired), tall, Some sort of tattoo and drinks an excessive ammount. To the other side of it, they also complain how they (the women) must have long blonde hair, big boobs and a skinny posture to be attractive. I personally ain't muscle-bound but I can still defend myself, I dont need the sterotypical looks to be good, and I certainly wouldnt give a rat's arse what the girl looked like as long as she was both Hygenic (which 95% are anyway) and looked after herself (health wise)

I also prefer brunettes over the stereotypical "Blonde Bombshell"

 

[dwightsteel]

this thread is teh awesome.

The responses by the women are everything you'd possibly expect as not to sound shallow or vain, and the responses by the dudes are just nerdsponses by nerds who are saying what they think they know to be correct, but are really just as clueless as the person who asked the question.

You want to know the truth?

Just like with guys, different chicks like different things. Some chicks are shallow. Some chicks are genuinely attracted to funny guys with great personalities. Some like a mixture of both.

The question I have for the OP is who is the chick that is making you ask the question? Don't lie. No one asks this question unless they are either a) afraid to talk to a specific chick or b) got rejected by a specific chick

Awww...spring...love is in the air.

 

[Fairee]

Ok, here's my question

What do women search for in men?
Looks, Brains, Money, Power?

Personally, I look at good personality/sense of humour first, then attractive (to me, not just generally considered hot). Money and power don't mean anything, they wouldn't make me happy.

 

[_Janny_]

Personality, in my case. Sure, looks count too, but a dude that has a nice sense of humor and shares your addictions/things you love comes first.

I've noticed that I'm not the only one that is attracted to a guy with great sense of humor, I'm sure most of us have a soft spot for funny dudes.

 

[bodyklok]

To make things worse I prefer tall girls, so contary to the popular belief, I don't score every night

This has totally destroyed my world, excuse me while I go and rethink my entire life.

EDIT: I thought you were in to midgets (No offence intended) not giants.