Poll: If you die, do you want your Sig Other to find someone else?

[Johnny Novgorod]

Do I want my girlfriend to spend the rest of her life in a convent and/or a state of catatonia? No.

 

[BarkBarker]

I don't know if myself could, if it really was someone I wanted to marry I don't think even after death I could ever stop loving them. I want them to be happy after I leave for sure but it's not like the idea of them being with another is one I'm particularly happy about, just not exactly something that rubs me the right way whether I'm alive or dead, y'know?

 

[IamLEAM1983]

Umm... yes?

I mean, what else are they going to do? Stare mournfully at my portrait for the rest of their lives?

Seems like kind of a no-brainer.

Pretty much this. As much as Lil' Goth Me likes the idea of mournfully staring at a portrait of a departed loved one while standing next to an oversized and roaring fireplace, all the while nurturing Victorian sideburns and a deathly pallor - that's just no way to live.

Anybody who'd ask me to mourn "forever" under the threat of, I don't know, haunting me or cursing my name if I don't, would be what you'd call a toxic and abusive person. If my S.O. forbids me to look elsewhere once they've kicked the bucket, they don't deserve to be my S.O.

It's gothic, romantic and Byronic and hell, sure - but also psychologically damaging. So no. If they love me, they'll wish me the best. That includes continued happiness after their demise. And really, you can keep loving someone after their demise while still loving new people. Western culture buys into the "forevers and evers" part a bit too much, and fails to understand that a lot of spouses actually ask their own S.O. to avoid being attached to them after their death. Finding someone else is perfectly natural.

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

It's funny. When I was in my 20's I would have answered "hell no". Now I'm staring down the barrel of 40, I would say "yes". I love my wife and I want her to be happy, and if that's with someone else so be it. It may be a bit fatalistic, but it is incredibly freeing when you realise their world doesn't start and end with you.

 

[Dragonlayer]

Crap, accidentally voted "Yes".

I don't have a significant other, but if I dead and I kicked the bucket, I would expect her to leap onto my funeral pyre, Skellige style.