Poll: If you were spanked as a child, do you think it made you a better person?
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I think we're already getting people who are saying "It wouldn't have changed me even if I was", frankly you have no way of knowing that.
I know I wouldn't have been alive without some of the telling offs I got.
I know I wouldn't have been alive without some of the telling offs I got.
So, no correlation between the rapid increase in suicides then?poiumty said:
I was, though not consistently and as such I grew up kind of spoiled. See my dad was always the guy to hand out punishment, so from the age of 6 to 12 I guess you could say I feared and respected my dad for the authority he commanded in the house. I didn't dare pull anything if I knew he was home.
On the other hand my mother is quite a softie. She'd never confront me when I'd done wrong and even when she did it wasn't severe. So I knew if my dad wasn't in I could get away with murder.
I reckon this constant back and forth between the two is probably what encouraged my very nihilistic teenage years, a time when I respected no-one and authority was a source of fun rather than cause for worry. It wasn't until I got older that I began to understand that things aren't as black and white as punish or mollycoddle.
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I think the times when my dad would hit me made me a stronger person. It was my first understanding of authority, even if it was through fear. Looking back it kept me from doing stupid things, like hanging out the bathroom window and sneaking out of a hole in the fence out in our back garden. Needless to say I never did either again.
On the other hand my mother is quite a softie. She'd never confront me when I'd done wrong and even when she did it wasn't severe. So I knew if my dad wasn't in I could get away with murder.
I reckon this constant back and forth between the two is probably what encouraged my very nihilistic teenage years, a time when I respected no-one and authority was a source of fun rather than cause for worry. It wasn't until I got older that I began to understand that things aren't as black and white as punish or mollycoddle.
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I think the times when my dad would hit me made me a stronger person. It was my first understanding of authority, even if it was through fear. Looking back it kept me from doing stupid things, like hanging out the bathroom window and sneaking out of a hole in the fence out in our back garden. Needless to say I never did either again.
It's not an attempt to do that at all. If you read the OP:Blitzwing said:
It's just to combat a point I believe you yourself made. I believe the majority will be on behalf of this community.
Yes, I believe spanking your child could help them be a better person. When I was a child my parents spanked me and I ended up being their best child. My siblings were not spanked and thet tend to get in trouble a lot.
I miss the poll option: "I was spanked, but I still support it."
I didn't get beaten into a bloody pulp or something, but whenever I did something majorly wrong, I got a few hits on the bum. Did it make me better? No. Did it make me worse? No. It did however show me where the boundaries are. And I like to think that I turned out alright.
I didn't get beaten into a bloody pulp or something, but whenever I did something majorly wrong, I got a few hits on the bum. Did it make me better? No. Did it make me worse? No. It did however show me where the boundaries are. And I like to think that I turned out alright.
By a better person, you mean "I won't spank my children if i had any" then yes.
I remember being young and being spanked for the smallest of things like shoving my brother out of the bathroom because i needed to pee eventhough all my brother was doing was brushing his teeth, or being smacked for stealing back a game off a sibling that i got on MY BIRTHDAY, because "I don't share", really they act all high and mighty and smack ME? back then i wasn't allowed out except for when i had school, the dentists or for clothes because i have Asbergers and some sexist father who slaps his children and screams at his wife because the coffee was too hot?
If anything, the one main thing im thankful for is learning how not to be a tyrant who lies to the goverment for getting out of paying for a window being smashed by the oldest brother and dad blaming it on me just because of my Asbergers, i learned how not to be a sexist slob who treats their other like garbage...
And besides, you can't really share a game like Pokemon can you?
I remember being young and being spanked for the smallest of things like shoving my brother out of the bathroom because i needed to pee eventhough all my brother was doing was brushing his teeth, or being smacked for stealing back a game off a sibling that i got on MY BIRTHDAY, because "I don't share", really they act all high and mighty and smack ME? back then i wasn't allowed out except for when i had school, the dentists or for clothes because i have Asbergers and some sexist father who slaps his children and screams at his wife because the coffee was too hot?
If anything, the one main thing im thankful for is learning how not to be a tyrant who lies to the goverment for getting out of paying for a window being smashed by the oldest brother and dad blaming it on me just because of my Asbergers, i learned how not to be a sexist slob who treats their other like garbage...
And besides, you can't really share a game like Pokemon can you?
Hell yeah!
I was doing mighty crazy shit when i was a kid WITH the beatings i got
Id hate to think what horrors i wouldve done if i was not put in my place X_X
I was doing mighty crazy shit when i was a kid WITH the beatings i got
Id hate to think what horrors i wouldve done if i was not put in my place X_X
...hold on, didn't i already make a post saying that corporal punishment is actually detremental just half an hour ago? Why the hell have three of these threads all popped up at once?
...that's almost as disturbing as the poll results...
NO! I was spanked, i'm not a good person. Good people DON'T end up here. All it did was further contribute to my utter loathing of my parents and cement my feelings as a cynical misanthropic bastard whose obsession with logic is the only thing keeping him from committing mass murder. Spanking does not magically fix a problem, it just makes the child feel pain when they take a crap.
...that's almost as disturbing as the poll results...
NO! I was spanked, i'm not a good person. Good people DON'T end up here. All it did was further contribute to my utter loathing of my parents and cement my feelings as a cynical misanthropic bastard whose obsession with logic is the only thing keeping him from committing mass murder. Spanking does not magically fix a problem, it just makes the child feel pain when they take a crap.
How do you know where their mental stretching point is?poiumty said:
I don't think anyone wants their child to die, but the pouring on of psychological pressure tends to be the major cause of self-harm.
And what's your point? Anecdotal evidence or not; it's what the OP is asking for. You seem to have nothing of value to contribute to this thread so why are you here?Blitzwing said:
For those strongly opposed to the punishment I pose a silly question.
Say a midget raises a child and punishes it in the manner discussed is it less unacceptably horrific when it's technically a fair fight?
Say a midget raises a child and punishes it in the manner discussed is it less unacceptably horrific when it's technically a fair fight?
I was smacked as a child yeah (spanked as a word bugs me >_>) but only when I was young (under 5). And yeah, it made me realise early on what not to do around other people etc.
I believe it is an effective way to communicate to young children who otherwise lack the mental capacity of rationality and reasoning the basic do's and don't's of life.
When children start gaining more of a knoweldge aboout the world around them, switch to punishments such as grounding ect. which will give them time to reflect on why they were wrong. there's nothing like a good old guilt trip!
TL;DR. Yes and yes.
I believe it is an effective way to communicate to young children who otherwise lack the mental capacity of rationality and reasoning the basic do's and don't's of life.
When children start gaining more of a knoweldge aboout the world around them, switch to punishments such as grounding ect. which will give them time to reflect on why they were wrong. there's nothing like a good old guilt trip!
TL;DR. Yes and yes.
More or less this. The few times I do remember getting spanked, it definitely straightened me out and helped me grow into a better person.Stasisesque said:
Depends on the parent really. Some go all out in beatings and the child thinks that the beatings are sankings, or the parent's spank for stupid arbitrary reasons. It also depends on the child, and whether or not they understand what they did wrong. I fully support the act. Even though my dad beat on me to the point where my other relatives were afraid of leaving me alone with him, it built me character. Taught me fear, and how to behave. You can spank a child when they deserve it but don't beat on the poor bastard, that's the line as I see it. And to someone who said you can't hit your animals, you can if it's minor and an act of discipline. A few people in here appear to be mixing the terms beating and Spanking. Also I think mental or emotional disciplining is worse. Getting a bruise? That'll go away. Getting some kind of complex? Not so much, but hey everyone's different.
not "spanked" per se, more sweeping brush across the shins or the occasional slap across the back of the head
to summarise it absolutely made me a better person, children are idiots and using pain as a negative influence triggers a natural reluctancy to commit bad again
to summarise it absolutely made me a better person, children are idiots and using pain as a negative influence triggers a natural reluctancy to commit bad again