Poll: If your significant other had an STD

[cairocat]

How would you feel about this, and how would it affect you? I tried to make a more precise poll, but there are too many options possible to collect accurate statistics. Therefor, I am leaving it rather vague. Would you only engage in protected sex, or do you already. Would it cause you to stop having sex, or is that even relevant? Would it cause you to end the relationship?

By the way, the specifics of how they contracted it are not relevant to my question. Please leave that out.

 

[A random person]

If it's curable, take her to a doctor and get the appropriate treatments, also getting myself checked to be safe. I'd be more concerned over how she got it. To be honest, though, I'd get leery if it were something incurable.

Regardless of STD's, I'd use protection, because unwanted pregnancy's are bad.

 

[blackbobcat]

it depends on the STD...

if its something as simple as Chlymadia or Gonorrohea then dont worry about... get it treated and get him/her retested and if its all sweet your good to go however you like... protected unprotected etc etc etc.... these STD's are just basic Bacterial infections... i believe the Clap is just a Variation of streplacoccous or strep throat... same as gettng a sore throat from a cold...


Herpies, genital warts and HIV/AIDS are viruses and cannot be treated. do not engage in unprotected sex with the person... protected is fine...

really a STD shouldnt affect a relationship too much... the means of contraction could but you said not to worry about that so i wouldnt worry about it too much... if it is a virus you just need to be careful....

you wouldnt break up with him/her if they got food poisoning so a basic STD is no different really...

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

I'm nonsexual, so it doesn't really matter to me...
Sure, if it is curable, cure it, if not, probably protected, but why not use protection anyway?

 

[Lem0nade Inlay]

Well, I'd probably ask her to go to a doctor or something, if it was something "simple".

But if it was an HIV or Herpies...it would probably end our relationship.

 

[Hellz_Barz]

If she got it while dating me then I'd dump her. If I'd just started dating her and she told me before hand, I'd probably just wear a rubber.

 

[BonsaiK]

It wouldn't affect much for me. I always tend to work on the assumption that anyone I'm currently sleeping with is hideously infected because in the circles I move in such an assumption is a reasonably safe bet. All STDs are manageable with a little thought, the real problem comes when people lie about not having them.

 

[Isolda Sage]

I don't know about the specifics of how but the specifics of when they contracted the STD would certainly matter. If he brought an STD into an established relationship that would end the relationship and quite possibly his life. If I was told ahead of time "by the way I have this STD" ~ Wow! I don't know; maybe if I knew that this person was "the one" (as much as one could know). I think true love is rare, so maybe.

 

[Astoria]

Well, we always use protection so it wouldn't really effect anything. I'd just do the usual, take him to the doctors, look after him until he's better again. Even if it's uncurable I wouldn't break up with him over it, just doesn't seem like a big enough problem.

 

[lemiel14n3]

I suppose the major question is "is the disease curable". I don't know if I'm not so shallow that I'll stick around if my health is at risk with any attempt to procreate. If even the attempt to have kids would give me an incurable disease, I don't know if I could handle that.

 

[RicoADF]

How would you feel about this, and how would it affect you? I tried to make a more precise poll, but there are too many options possible to collect accurate statistics. Therefor, I am leaving it rather vague. Would you only engage in protected sex, or do you already. Would it cause you to stop having sex, or is that even relevant? Would it cause you to end the relationship?

By the way, the specifics of how they contracted it are not relevant to my question. Please leave that out.

If my gf had an STD/STI it wouldn't matter whatever it was, tho ofcourse some would need extra precautions.

 

[Kakashi on crack]

Wait, are we talking STDs, or STIs? I'm assuming we're just referring to both as STDs...

It depends really, I probably wouldn't make a big deal about it. I'd get checked out, have her checked out at the clinic, if she had something cureable, then alright, take some medication and don't do any of those under-the-cover things, problem solved. Besides, I'd use protection so my chances would be slighly lower if nothing else.

If they had an STD though, like, legit STD and not an infection, then I'd have to think about it...

If we were dating, they had recently become my significant other, etc. Than I would probably tell them "hey, I like you and all, but this isn't a risk I'm willing to take." because I wouldn't want to risk a LIFE-LONG DISEASE on someone who it may or may not work out with.

On the other hand, I'd be willing to stay with them if we were, for instance in a very serious relation status, or married. I could probably deal with it, as the majority are preventable if treated carefully and such.

HIV/AIDs though... I'm really not sure. I would stay with them, but I wouldn't even want to risk infection. (Yeah, I know the only real ways to get infected is blood transer and "naughty acts" since you have to get a large amount of the virus to infect yourself.) I'd make it work out, but I wouldn't have sex, and I'd be super-cautious about cleaning a wound. It wouldn't matter how much I loved them, I just wouldn't be able to risk sacrificing my own life for something as trivial as sex, or some kind of symbol to show I would go there and risk my own life like that. (again, don't get me wrong, I'd jump into burning buildings to save people, but diseases that slowly kill me off? no thanks.)

 

[DJ Railgun]

If I loved them with my entire body and soul, I would knowingly, and willfully, share their fate.

 

[Wade-DeadPool]

Well if she told med from the start and all it would be okay and we could get some pill's for it. If it is the deadlykind... hard too say.

 

[NathLines]

You give me an std; I force you to stay with me.

Seriously though, I'd go with the answer the others mentioned. Cure it if it's possible, use protection if not.

 

[Soxafloppin]

I wouldnt have sex with anything that had warts on it, ewwwww.

Suppose it comes down to if it was love <3.

 

[s0m3th1ng]

Well, nearly everyone has herpies, "Cold sores"...so no problems there.
I get a flare up every couple years.

 

[smithy_2045]

We don't have sex til she gets it treated.

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

I would drop the sexing, besides one can fumble around without effectively having sex and still get affected.

 

[captaincabbage]

It would rock the boat a lot for me.

It depends if it was treatable or not, but either way I would stay with her. My girlfriend is the most important person in my life, so there's no way I could just throw that away. I would of course do whatever I could to help.