BGH122 said:
alinos said:
The woman =/= both parents. If both parents declare that they don't want the child then no actual living human's emotional or physical well being is harmed by aborting it. If the man declares that he wants the child and the woman says she doesn't then the man's emotional well being is harmed.
yes and im saying that forcing a woman to have a child because a man wants it is hurting the womans emotional well being
Plus if your into the whole positive negative influence a mother can have over the baby shes most likely gonna resent it for the entire birth which probably isnt good for it(really depends on your beliefs
BGH122 said:
The concept that there's no negative repercussions for the guy is just wrong. The guy has to give up nine months of his life to care for the mother. He's not going to do that if he just wants to put the baby up for adoption. But let's take a harder line, if you wish, let's say whichever parent wants the child has to raise it cannot put it up for adoption unless they're rendered incapable of caring for it.
So what your saying there is you want to force a person who for whateva reason has decided that the kids to much to handle or he made a mistake in deciding to keep the baby that he must look after it(again i dont actually have a problem with the woman putting it up for adoption she made the choice to go through pregnancy its fine..its the forced pregnancy i have an issue with)
Because thats plain not good for the child's emotional wellbeing in the future a parent who regards you as a mistake he cant get rid of isnt postive. and doesnt have to put it up for adoption really just abandon it somewhere
Yes women have a physical effect that guys don't have, but the chances of complications in pregnancy are low, and afaik, there's plenty of warning signs. This has been a very long thread, so I'll repeat what I said earlier, if there's any sign that the bearing the child will result in permanent damage to the mother then the child should be aborted. The mother's long-term physical well being is more important than emotions. Having stretch marks (which bio-oil can get rid of) or a caesarean scar (which can be lessened significantly, if the woman requests the surgeon take care to avoid scarring) isn't a valid reason to abort the pregnancy, since these things are part and parcel of being pregnant which was already consented to implicitly by having unprotected sex.
The concept that there's no negative repercussions for the guy is just wrong. The guy has to give up nine months of his life to care for the mother. He's not going to do that if he just wants to put the baby up for adoption. But let's take a harder line, if you wish, let's say whichever parent wants the child
has to raise it cannot put it up for adoption unless they're rendered incapable of caring for it.
BGH122 said:
Both guys and girls can sabotage protected sex "I'm on the pill (no I'm not)", the fact of the matter is that steps were taken to protect the sex so there's clearly an indication that neither parent wished for the 'child' consequence of sex as they've taken measure to prevent it. If both partners willingly engage in unprotected sex, knowing that this is far likelier to produce a child, then it is implicit that they are fine with that consequence. Obviously, if either partner has explicitly stated that this isn't the case then that overrides the implicit acceptance and, in that case, neither partner may force the other to help birth the child.
yeah there fine with the consequences but im pretty sure neither is asking the other before sex if i knock you up can i keep the baby
so the woman might think oh well there the morning after pill or if she forgot for some reason she can abort it then the clinic turns around and says we need the fathers permission we go get dear old dad and he goes w8 your pregnant i want the child
BGH122 said:
The man can't have a relationship whilst the woman is pregnant since he cannot fulfil his duties to both his girlfriend and the woman. The very vague 'some stuff might happen because of the pregnancy' is applicable to both parties. The mother losing earning potential because of the pregnancy forcing her out of work isn't a problem these days, it's illegal (certainly in the UK) to discriminate against women who've taken time off work for maternity leave and I could just as easily argue that the man's looking after the woman could disrupt his work and prevent him from achieving on that front. Lastly, why can't the woman have a relationship after the pregnancy? Because men don't want to be saddled with someone else's child? Nonsense, four of my friends have step-fathers. You seem to have a very 1950's view of gender, no offence.
what if anyone has a 1950s view of gender its you. your world is man has dominion the act of being able to make a woman have a baby for you is a a sign of this
as for the man not being able to have 2 relationships thats simple stuff
the fact that you think a woman needs help from a man during pregnancy is wrong. she can get by just fine by herself. the fact that you think she cant do this without a man to support her is again your 1950's view
what i meant when i said mother cant have another relationship is that while pregnant she most likely is not gonna find a guy who says yeah im cool with the fact youve got another dudes baby in your stomach and that hes gonna take it away when your done
i never said anything about a relationship after pregnancy tho one could argue the physical aftereffects...(u know where thats going)
and just because something is illegal doesnt mean it doesnt happen grow up
BGH122 said:
If I drink and then get into a car it isn't 100% certain that I'll kill someone, but I can still be arrested and morally abhorred for doing so since it increases the likelihood that I'll kill someone. Furthermore, if I do kill someone whilst drunk, I can't say "Hey! It's not my fault, I didn't set out to kill anyone!" I have to take responsibility for my actions. I increased the likelihood that I'd kill someone and I must bear the negative repercussions.
again tho your not Punishing the Father in any tangible way as compared to what the mother has to go through