Poll: Is being shy bad?
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There's a hell of a lot more things that can actively hurt you out there, so it's an obstacle ...not a curse.
Perspective, guys. If you want to see the bright side of things, I've seen people black bagged for being a little too extroverted. Benefits to being quiet and living in the shadows of the world.
Perspective, guys. If you want to see the bright side of things, I've seen people black bagged for being a little too extroverted. Benefits to being quiet and living in the shadows of the world.
If you're a noisy arrogant twat-muffin in love with their own gas expulsions or an aggressive, over-bearing often into violent acts towards your fellow easy-going earthlings, then yes...shyness is very good for you; practice makes perfect, learned one...keep trying!
In most other cases I'd say no though if you prefer to have a healthier social life amongst other benefits.
In most other cases I'd say no though if you prefer to have a healthier social life amongst other benefits.
Introverted or quiet doesn't mean shy, however. Some people are just naturally laconic. Some people are contemplative, utterly uninvested, or as you say ... people are just not listening when they do speak which leads them to be uninvested in communication.Ezekiel said:
Honestly, some people are just 'listeners'. They don't mind people, but prefer instead to simply observe. I get it, personally. I mean if people are opening up about themselves freely, who am I to stop them potentially spilling dirt when it costs me none in reciprocation? That seems like a longshot in an intimate relationship. It sounds creepy, in all truthfulness.
Though if you've been living with someone for 6 months and you know nothing about them, then you're probably doing something incredibly wrong, or your life is somehow so incredibly exciting and constantly wondrous. But I doubt it...
Yeah. ...Did anybody say otherwise?Addendum_Forthcoming said:
I've known people whose extroversion creates problems for them. People who absolutely must carpool to work because being alone for the duration of a car ride is unimaginable torture. Don't ask about how they go to the bathroom. They still seem to be better off than those with crippling shyness, though.Addendum_Forthcoming said:
Anyone who isn't going out trying to make thirty new friends per day is probably a budding terrorist and should be locked up.
(I kid, I kid. I don't have shyness; I just hate dealing with people because people are imbeciles.)
(I kid, I kid. I don't have shyness; I just hate dealing with people because people are imbeciles.)
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Probably, I mean it caused me a lot of problems, but then again I was very much antisocial and aggressive on top of being shy, and I mean I'm still shy but it's not that much of a problem anymore as dealing with people now feels more like a nuisance now, instead of being incredibly stressful, I mean I remember when I fist started working, dealing with people was so stressful that I used to cry before sleeping because I felt really awful and now it's just annoying and people think I'm an ass, but that's fine.
I mean people that know me know I'm a bit of an asshole but I'm also the kind of person that goes out of their way to help anyone even if I show a terrible attitude when I do it, though that does sometimes land me in terrible situations such as the time I almost involuntarily had sex with a taxi driver because he was lonely and I didn't get that meant sex, but sometimes I manage to do good such as the time I coordinated a bunch of people to extinguish a fire, it's interesting in a situation of crisis people truly become sheep and if someone panics they'll panic but if someone starts helping they'll help too, and most surprised if someone starts issuing orders they'll follow them blindly, like imitating the actions of someone I get but the fact that they follow orders is surprising.
I mean people that know me know I'm a bit of an asshole but I'm also the kind of person that goes out of their way to help anyone even if I show a terrible attitude when I do it, though that does sometimes land me in terrible situations such as the time I almost involuntarily had sex with a taxi driver because he was lonely and I didn't get that meant sex, but sometimes I manage to do good such as the time I coordinated a bunch of people to extinguish a fire, it's interesting in a situation of crisis people truly become sheep and if someone panics they'll panic but if someone starts helping they'll help too, and most surprised if someone starts issuing orders they'll follow them blindly, like imitating the actions of someone I get but the fact that they follow orders is surprising.
Being explicitly introvert is a death sentence business-wise for multiple industries in the US. Try getting a job, not in the video game industry, and telling your interviewer that you're an introvert.
I can't really speak with broad strokes on this. There are times in which it would be an inhibition. However, it's ultimately likely that someone can tell me some good instances that I just don't personally know.
No, it's hot.
I'm kidding, sexually dead people like me don't recognize traits as attractive or unattractive.
I'm kidding, sexually dead people like me don't recognize traits as attractive or unattractive.
From my experience, it's bad. I was shy throughout all of High School and part of my adult life. I'm not pretty, so being shy puts the whole creepy label on me. It's also a terrible process to break from, as I've become the creepy guy to the weirdo who talks too much.
If it is, I'm a very bad boy.
It's not wrong, but it certainly makes finding friends harder. Looking back at my school years, I really wish I'd been more outgoing, even at the risk of being thought stupid.
It's not wrong, but it certainly makes finding friends harder. Looking back at my school years, I really wish I'd been more outgoing, even at the risk of being thought stupid.
Nope, it's not bad. It can be quite a big stumbling block when you are shy and you want to meet new people, but if anything it can facilitate some serious character building. Take it from someone who was shy as a kid / teen.
Sometime I wish I had of been less shy as a kid, but then I probably would have been the arsehole I was in my 20's when all the limitations came off. I think I found the sweet spot in my 30's.
Sometime I wish I had of been less shy as a kid, but then I probably would have been the arsehole I was in my 20's when all the limitations came off. I think I found the sweet spot in my 30's.
Shyness puts you at a tremendous disadvantage to be shy in society where confidence and outgoing natures are seen as supreme. It also potentially makes you quite resentful because it makes you feel like same society targets you for being shy.
Case in point, I'm a very shy, passive person at work and it tends to result in my needs being neglected and me getting to have to pick up a lot of people's work, because I'm the only one not loudly complaining about having work. I instinctively feel resentful that people don't notice the discrepancy, but I recognise that it is as much my fault for not speaking out as it is them not noticing I'm there.
Case in point, I'm a very shy, passive person at work and it tends to result in my needs being neglected and me getting to have to pick up a lot of people's work, because I'm the only one not loudly complaining about having work. I instinctively feel resentful that people don't notice the discrepancy, but I recognise that it is as much my fault for not speaking out as it is them not noticing I'm there.
Of course socially it is, people see you as a walking shoot spree or whatever in an instance. I would even say it would be worse for shy guys as the expectation of confidence and outgoing are damn near ubermench levels.
Me personally I had some issues but I think I found the a good enough act and decorum to make things easier and then enjoy me some solitude.
Me personally I had some issues but I think I found the a good enough act and decorum to make things easier and then enjoy me some solitude.
Left out a word in there "course". Lots of hypebole but I do remember in high school and in most media the quiet unassuming person in the corner is either one bad day away of breaking and going nuts. Two sides to how people see shy. A you will never get nothing in life and you deserve it or B You are pariah and will lash out in the worst way. Again speaking in extremes for point but yeah shy is bad.Pyrian said: