I am currently debating with my friend over this.
I am brutally honest. I always have been. Lying is against my core principles. So when someone asks me if they look fat, for instace, I will tell them the honest truth.
The way I see it is if I tell my hypothetical friend, we'll call her Marsha, she is not fat when she asks and she really is, then Marsha may go and hit on a guy she likes because of that false confidence only to be rejected. Then, not only is Marsha upset because she got rejected, she thinks she is not fat and therefore cannot take actions to do something about it.
And before you get all uppity, obviously if she is my friend enough to be asking me those questions, her weight is not an issue to me.
My IRL friend, we'll call her Jane, is now telling me that this is a bad thing because sometimes people need false confidence boosters. She argues that Marsha already knows she is fat, but is looking to me as her friend to give her a confidence booster because Marsha can't give it to herself.
Am I just a cold hearted bastard or is "Jane" wrong in her assertions?
(and no, Marsha is not a real person. she is just a hypothetical character for sake of argument)
EDIT: Captcha: isario (USAMRIID) <== what? haha
I am brutally honest. I always have been. Lying is against my core principles. So when someone asks me if they look fat, for instace, I will tell them the honest truth.
The way I see it is if I tell my hypothetical friend, we'll call her Marsha, she is not fat when she asks and she really is, then Marsha may go and hit on a guy she likes because of that false confidence only to be rejected. Then, not only is Marsha upset because she got rejected, she thinks she is not fat and therefore cannot take actions to do something about it.
And before you get all uppity, obviously if she is my friend enough to be asking me those questions, her weight is not an issue to me.
My IRL friend, we'll call her Jane, is now telling me that this is a bad thing because sometimes people need false confidence boosters. She argues that Marsha already knows she is fat, but is looking to me as her friend to give her a confidence booster because Marsha can't give it to herself.
Am I just a cold hearted bastard or is "Jane" wrong in her assertions?
(and no, Marsha is not a real person. she is just a hypothetical character for sake of argument)
EDIT: Captcha: isario (USAMRIID) <== what? haha