I think that the idea that it is not a choice is left over from the days when being gay was entirely unexceptable. It is a choice, as most of the gay men I know are actually Bi. ((and I know quite a few, as I live in a place where it is accpeted without question)) The idea that it is not a choice is not only stupid, but not necessary. when I hear a gay man or woman say "It's not a choice, I was born this way", it reeks of making excuses. and my immediate mental jump is "For what?"
Goddamnit, this is America, not medievil europe, and its 2010, not 1010. If you want to be gay, or feel inclined to do so, then be gay. you don't have to make excuses or apologize for this shit. If you are not bringing harm to another person, you have a right to have sex with men, women, blowup dolls, sexy toys, or robots ((coming soon)). its not anyone elses damn business what your sex life is about. and if your friends or family do not like that, fuck em.
/Libertarian Rant