Poll: Is it OK to date your best friend's ex-girlfriend

[triggrhappy94]

My ex-girlfried, who broke up with me just over 3 weaks ago cause it was "too awkward" after two days, is trying to go after my best friend. We all hang out in the same group, we were all friends during, before, and after the relationship. Also my friend is in a relationship, 9 months strong.
Is it OK to date your best friend's (most recent, if that changes anything) ex-girlfriend?

 

[SimuLord]

What the fuck is wrong with boys today? Do guys not have fathers to teach them the goddamn man rules? No wonder society's so fucked up. Alright, listen up, kid. You may not have your daddy teachin' you the rules, but I'm probably old enough to be your father, so I'll have to do.

Watch some beer commercials or something, boy. It is NEVER OK to date a girl who broke it off with one of your buddies. Ever.

And the girl's a slut. Not only does she go right after your best friend, but she's trying to steal him from another girl. She's poison. Your buddy shouldn't date her ANYWAY.

 

[Actual]

The answer is no, it's not OK to date your friend's Ex's. However if you and her were only together for two days then the rules do not apply.

She sounds like a tart though, if that helps.

 

[Marter]

What the fuck is wrong with boys today? Do guys not have fathers to teach them the goddamn man rules?

No. Parents leave their children unattended for far too much of the time nowadays. I know my father never talked to me about "Man Rules". Although, I can only assume that most of them are common sense.

 

[The Austin]

Uhhh.... No.

No it's not.

It's a party rule.

 

[Hazy]

"4.If a girl falls into the following criteria, she is off limits forever until the end of time:
A. Was an ex-girlfriend.
B. Your Bro specifically told you he wanted her.
C. Is your Bro's sister.
However, if it's your Bro's cousin, well she's up for grabs, and you're welcome to rub it in his face for years to come."

The Bro Code has spoken!

[sub]/Tongue in cheek reply[/sub]

 

[Paulie92]

Will it hurt your friendship? If not go nuts, if so you have to ask yourself how much do I like her? vs. how much do I like him?

to the others why isn't it OK?

 

[Shards97]

"4.If a girl falls into the following criteria, she is off limits forever until the end of time:
A. Was an ex-girlfriend.
B. Your Bro specifically told you he wanted her.
C. Is you're Bro's sister.
However, if it's your Bro's cousin, well she's up for grabs, and you're welcome to rub it in his face for years to come."

The Bro Code has spoken!

Hmm... Nobody ever taught me part C. That could have stopped me from making about 3 stupid mistakes.

However, the answer to the original query is this:

She's a skank, hopefully your friend has more sense than that, if he doesn't have enough sense to avoid a skank who is trying to steal him from a real relationship, despite it being your ex, then I think you ought to consider yourself in need of a new bro.

 

[leviathanmisha]

If it was wrong, I would not be dating my current boyfriend, and we've been together for over 3 years. So honestly, it's really up to the person.

But on the topic of this girl in question, she sounds like a skank. Your best friend should avoid her at all costs.

 

[Druyn]

Its gonna be awkward as hell for the both of you, but I think its okay if you broke up on good terms. If it was a nasty, brutal separation, then no, not cool, not in the least.

The simple fact that your friend is already in a relationship shows that this is wrong. If shes going for men who are taken, then she definitely isn't in the right mindset. :/

And obviously this. Exs in general, yeah, okay. But I wouldnt let this one happen.

 

[Actual]

Will it hurt your friendship? If not go nuts, if so you have to ask yourself how much do I like her? vs. how much do I like him?

to the others why isn't it OK?

As much as we'd like the world to believe we sprang fully formed from the granite of the Earth, hard and cold as stone. Fact is we have feelings too. Women get to weep, watch rom-coms, hold hands, vent, PMS, cry some more, and keep a live journal. All we have to protect us is the rules.

Shame on any man who doesn't keep to them.

 

[Pimppeter2]

"Bros before hoes. Why? Because your bros are always there for you. They got your back after your ho rips your heart out for no good reason. And you were nothing but great to your ho, and you told her that she was the only ho for you. And that she was better than all the other hoes in the world. And then suddenly...she's not yo' ho no mo'."

 

[jeejbe]

Okay? Yes

Good idea? No

 

[chozo_hybrid]

This question is relevant: How old are you? If you're still in high school, I wouldn't really worry all too much about it.

Rest of your life ahead of you etc.

My Best mate knows I'm into his Ex, she's also one of my best friends. They broke up over a year ago and we all get along regardless. I may ask her out at some point, who knows.

EDIT: There's a lot more to my story and he has expressed he's cool with it. It really depends on the situation.

 

[PurplePox]

Do not date an ex. Ever. Especially if they went on multiple dates/had sex/were emotionally involved for a long time.

 

[Lullabye]

Depends if either of them are drama queens. Which they probably are.

 

[The Eggplant]

No! No! Not OK! Hear now, children, the wisdom of the elders...fine, so I'm 18, but mentally I was born at about 35, so I think I still qualify.

It's not OK. It will not be OK a month from now, two months from now, a year from now. The ONLY TIME it will become OK is if you grow up, stop associating with this guy, forget that he ever existed, and then by some remote cosmic miracle That Slut From Whatever Grade You're In finds her way back into his life and they get married. And even then, I wouldn't attend the wedding.