Poll: Is it okay to...

[Mr. Google]

Do you think it's okay for your significant other to talk to an ex. Just a random question. Lets say that they ended on good terms. And try and explain your reason and if you have any stories of an ex thatd be cool I don't know something for discussion value.

Now here's a twist. What if your SO lost there v-card to the ex AND the ex still likes your SO

 

[FinalHeart95]

Doesn't matter. My whole thing is "Innocent until proven guilty", so unless they've earned my mistrust, I have no reason to worry.

 

[Good morning blues]

Unless they give you a reason not to trust them, this isn't a reasonable thing to get bent out of shape about.

 

[Yureina]

I'd rather they didn't... but that would only be in cases where I wasn't really sure how that conversation would turn out. Chances are though, considering how hard it is for me to trust people, I never would get into a relationship where I would feel uncomfortable about my SO and an ex talking.

 

[zombiesinc]

It does bother me if they talk frequently, but I wouldn't expect them to cut off all forms of communication simply because it makes me feel uncomfortable.

Still, there are certain lines, and if they're crossed I think I'd step in and say something.

 

[Berethond]

I don't care. It's not my business.

 

[Serenegoose]

I couldn't care less if my partners talk to their ex's. As long as it works for them, I'm happy with it. I'm not sure why I would feel otherwise.

 

[Admiral Stukov]

Not that I've been anywhere near the situation for the last five years, but I think I'd think it's okay.

 

[x0ny]

My gf doesn't have an ex muhahaha. But anyway, as long as they're not flirting with each other and trying to reignite something then that's ok with me.

 

[maddawg IAJI]

Don't see why not. If it's a friendly thing, then I wouldn't mind it.

 

[thylasos]

If you live in the same town it's an inevitability. I'm not condemning it. I don't expect much, as of recently. Especially not the cutting off of previous ties, so long as it doesn't involve carnal relations. At that point the whole thing goes down the toilet.

Don't let jealousy and suspicion take over your life. They're the two ugliest emotions known to man.

 

[vento 231]

No, I would prefer her to not speak to an ex.

 

[Numbert]

Well I talk with my ex's on a fairly regular basis, and I assure you there is nothing going on more than just remaining friends, so I would expect the same situation when I see my significant other talking with her ex's. Totally normal.

 

[Juggern4ut20]

It really has to do with the length and seriousness of the last relationship, since each past relationship anyone has is more or less unique you can't really make a blanket rule. I would not want them to only because i know i would attempt not to myself. Anyone who says its none of their business, i disagree, it is part of your business because you are in a relationship with them. But don't get overly jealous or suspicions because you will end up driving them away and making what you fear come true.

 

[klaynexas3]

you say it ended on good terms so in other words no one got hurt. yeah, i mean, things didn't work out as more than friends, why's it such a bad thing to be just friends? now if one didn't really take it well and is still in love with the other then no. it can be damaging and bring back old pains. i know that too well. anyway, it doesn't really matter if they're both cool with the break up

 

[Peteron]

It really shouldn't matter, it is only natural, seriously in many cases they are already friends.

 

[Imp Poster]

It all depends on what the situation is in my opinion. I was a in relationship with a girl for 4 years where she is really friendly person. She had like 3 exs she was friends with. I could tell she had no feelings for them. Kept their relationship on a friends basis. Always open with me with them. So I never felt intimidated or threaten by them.

My close friend has a girlfriend longer than I have known him (for 5 years). He always complained about her and her ex. One time, she told my friend that she was going to spend some time with him on New Year's. She ended up spending the night at her ex's place. She claims that nothing happened. Can you believe that? He can't and I can't but he just couldn't leave her.

So I guess it depends.