Poll: Is it possible to be friends with your ex?

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Skoldpadda

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I don't have anything profound to say about this, except: yes, but it's hard.

I know I've tried, some of those girls are great people, but it most often really is better to just let them go.

I'm not saying it's impossible, but it really is one of the hardest things I've ever tried.

Hold on, I haven't even read the OP yet.
brb

ADDED: wow, long distance ey? Well, it sounds as if you've given it as much of a try as you're going to get something out of. Let her go. If she's long distance, this shouldn't be difficult, you won't meet her unexpectedly or anything.

Just send her a message telling her you're convinced it's better this way, say something sweet, and ask her not to answer, because you won't. She'll get over it. And you'll move on with your life. You gotta keep movin', man. Taking only the most essential bagage with you.
 

Zero=Interrupt

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"Can we still be friends?" is a salve for their ego. It's what they use to assure themselves that they're not mean, bad people for ditching you. The real question is, are they mean, bad people? If yes, then.... yeah, go cold turkey. If they're loving, caring friends who just wanna be near you but not NEAR-near you, then try to live with it.

They broke up with you and moved on? Then you move on, too. Carrying a torch is an easy way to burn your hand, among other things.
 

SextusMaximus

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Yeah, but I end up fancying the Exs I#ve had all over again... so I mainly try and forget about them.
 

dragonslayer32

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I am friendly with all of my exes, but I wouldn't call them friends. I tried being friends with a few but it got weird if one of us was going out with someone else and the other was still single.
 

Proverbial Jon

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One girlfriend I cut all ties with after she dumped me at college for like a million other guys. She's a real ***** now so friendship is a total no no.

Another relationship kinda just broke down and ended slowly and so it was more of a mutal ending so even though I don't really keep in touch, we're civil when we do talk and yeah I'd have no problems being friends because she is great.

Another, well it just ended and frankly it was a good job too. I could be friends, I wouldn't have a problem, but I think she might. Besides, I just don't want to, we really had very little in common.

So in answer to the original question:

No
Yes
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No, forget her and stop wasting your time
 

randomrob

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Well I only have one ex and we became really good friends after the relationship ended. It took us a while though. And then we started going out again. And we're still together now. :D
 

Shemming

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Yes its possible, never happened to me with my small list of ex's but. my freind and his ex have beeen freinds awhile,and then together again, and then apart ,and then together and they split up again yesterday.

so it works, sort of but they always remain freinds.
 

MajorKris

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In my case no, because he turned out to be a sadistic sociopath. (Awww, young love.)

But I do believe it is possible. I certainly can't speak for everyone. But..I simply don't see why you would want to. For one, it opens old wounds, and second it just seems so...awkward and bizarre to me.

I guess it just simply depends on the friendship you had before and during the relationship.
 

Colour Scientist

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Marter said:
I believe you can, but only after any romantic feelings are gone. You still could be friends, but you'll have to suppress them at that point, and that isn't really healthy, so it's usually not even worth the effort. Once you no longer feel for your ex, then you should try to be just friends.

That's how I think it should work anyway.:)
You are wise beyond your years, well perhaps not but I've always wanted to say that.

This is completely right, it's really difficult though. I've been trying to be friends with my ex of a year and a half for eight months now even though we've both moved on. Right now we're on worse terms than we were just after the break up.
So give it alot of time, alot.
 

AstylahAthrys

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It can happen. I have one ex where we are pretty close friends, another where we were able to keep on relatively good terms, and the final and most recent one I will never speak to again. So it varies, really, mostly on the civility of the break-up. The one I'm friends with was an honest one, the second was honest with a few hard feelings, and the last was nasty and painful.
 

Chechosaurus

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I voted for that it was possible and can lead to a strong relationship - This much is true. However, it won't last. Give a few months and you'll be at each others throats. I broke up with an ex because we just squabbled all the time. We became friends after a while and then after a few months it started again and now we don't really talk unless it's to give pass-aggressive remarks. Unless you're going to try REALLY hard, I wouldn't bother.
 

noeggsforyou

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yeah it's possible but it can be a problem if the people still care about eachother
but if you think it'll work then go for it
good luck
 

Lust

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I guess so.

Wish I could be friends with my ex. She avoid me like the flu, though. Oh well.
 

darthzew

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I don't think it's possible. I came close, so close to having a good frienship with my ex-girlfriend. The more we spent time together after that, the more it all fell apart.
 

JanatUrlich

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blindthrall said:
JanatUrlich said:
Yeah I'm really good friends with one of my ex's! I think it depends on how you ended it. We ended it on alright terms, even if she did sleep with a guy a week after we broke up haha!
If you believe that was the first time they hooked up, I've got some awesome land in Florida to sell you.
Well I was sleeping with her when they were still together, then she left him and got with me and then I slept with him and then we broke up and she slept with him again.

So to be honest, it was all fair play haha