Poll: Is it still true

[Wade-DeadPool]

If a women/girl has many sexual partners, she is a tramp/..streetwalker..(Finer word for something starting with W Or P) But if a guy does the same, he's a "hero"/ somebody to look up to?

I have both female and male friends how have had sex with.. 20-30 different persons. And I think that is just great, since I know they had this amount of sex, over a long period of time. 5-6 year maybe and not two weeks.

Well, I think it is like this: IF they only do it, to get sex, then both are tramps/streetwalkers. I mean.. If your only goal ever weekend it to score.. That's kind of sad.
But I'm not judging them. It's there life and they can do what ever they want.

But what do you all think?

 

[Hisshiss]

It all comes down to personal ideal's and just how concerned you are with STD's and unplanned pregnancy. As far as gender distinctions, double standards are almost never justified, and this is no exception.

I personally see no moral problem with "sleeping around" For either gender, to me the only concern is health factors.

As you said, it's their life, and if it doesn't hurt anyone but themselves, and they are okay with hurting themselves, there really isn't anything to complain about.

 

[Wade-DeadPool]

Well. My friends I did talk about. They are "bed-smart" and I know they use protection at all time.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

I honestly don't understand why someone would have a problem with one gender having casual sex and not the other, that's just stupid. As long as they're using protection and they're upfront about their intentions then I don't have any issue with people having casual sex.

 

[Wade-DeadPool]

I honestly don't understand why someone would have a problem with one gender having casual sex and not the other, that's just stupid. As long as they're using protection and they're upfront about their intentions then I don't have any issue with people having casual sex.

That is what I'm asking, since this was...sort of s standard or something before.
Just having a look it people still think so.

 

[Hisshiss]

I had such an awesome and overly nerdy addition to that post typed out, and when I finally finished it, I got a 404 error and it vanished. That make's me very sad.

But yeah, It's not really anybody's place but their own to decide if what they do is wrong as long as they don't endanger other people with it.

And in the case of being over promiscuous, I honestly can't think of any way to hurt anyone but the consenting party unless you just took to the streets to start $%@! slapping people.

(Yes i did just censor myself. I'm not sure where the escapist draws lines of profanity xD. Use your imagination.)

 

[Smooth Operator]

Hey it's up to the individual how they want to swing.

Why are women called sluts and men studs for it?
Because women play with cheats and we hate cheaters

 

[Wade-DeadPool]

Why are women called sluts and men studs for it?
Because women play with cheats and we hate cheaters

And guys don't cheat?

 

[Thaluikhain]

More or less, yeah, the stigma hasn't gone away. Admittedly, now, there are alot of people who are aware they shouldn't flat out say that, but the idea remains. Same as the people who feel the need to say "I'm not racist, but" before going on to say something racist.

It is, of course, a fucking stupid double standard, but then that's the point of double standards.

(Also, would have been better to have given some clue about what the thread was in the title.)

 

[catalyst8]

[EDIT] Deleted.

 

[Mikaze]

I doubt this double standard will ever really dissappear. For what it's worth, it's their body and their call what they do with it and who they do it with, just so long as they don't complain if they get themselves in trouble. That said, there is a (I think) quite amusing metaphor I've heard used to describe this before, "If a key opens many locks, it's a master key but if a lock is opened by many keys then it's just a shitty lock".

 

[Sectan]

Not my place to decide who can or can't have multiple sex partners. Either way is cool with me. I'm guessing people look at it as lock and key system. If you have a key that can open many locks it is a good key. If you have a lock that will open to any key it is not a very good lock.

 

[Jonluw]

So long as most women keep being as picky as they are about whom they will sleep with (or for as long as they are perceived to be this picky), men who have a lot of sex will be looked up to, while women who do the same will be looked down upon by society.

To me, it's not about what sex you are, it's about what sex you're interested in. A gay woman who lays a lot of girls, I would also call something along the lines of "stud". This is because getting to have sex with a woman is generally far harder than getting to have sex with a man (although this stereotype might not count for gay women? I dunno).
We look up to people who do impressive things (e.g. convincing lots of women to have sex with them), but we don't admire people who do easy things (e.g. convincing lots of men to have sex with them).
I dislike the fact that there are negative connotations to promiscuous women though. Sure, having sex with lots of men isn't impressive, but there's nothing negative about it, so long as they stay safe.

To put it like this: Noone's impressed with a man who's had sex with lots of prostitutes, and this man won't be called a stud.

Optimally, it should be equally hard/easy to "get some" for women and men, but this just isn't the case in today's society; therefore I have no problem at all haven't got much of a problem with people treating "studs" and "sluts" differently.

 

[honestdiscussioner]

Streetwalkers is a bit much. That's means prostitute. Sluts . . . well let's look at the definition: A slut is someone who is promiscuous. Promiscuity refers to undiscriminating casual sex with many sexual partners. The number isn't so much important here as the "undiscriminating" part. If this is the type of person that sleeps with someone on the first date as a rule of thumb, whether or not they want to see that person again, then they are a slut. Now if a person dates someone for a bit, gets to know them, likes them, and then has sex, but through the course of 6 years does that with 250 individuals, they are not sluts. They do discriminate who they sleep with.

Technically, the vast majority of men are sluts, because (especially if we're single) any girl that wants sex from us and isn't known to have a disease of sorts will likely get it. We're sorta designed to get as much as possible, since we can impregnate innumerable amount of women, whereas women can only get impregnated by one guy at a time.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

I think it's none of my damn business how much people fuck around. Sex feels good, and commitment shouldn't have to be some sort of tradeoff for it. Slut, stud, makes no difference to me. Someone who likes to fuck likes to fuck, and that's something I can get behind if she's into that.

Also, this is one of the most insightful things I've ever read on the matter.

So long as most women keep being as picky as they are about whom they will sleep with, men who have a lot of sex will be looked up to, while women who do the same will be looked down upon by society...We look up to people who do impressive things (e.g. convincing lots of women to have sex with them), but we don't admire people who do easy things (e.g. convincing lots of men to have sex with them).

There's your reason for the slut/stud stigmas, and a damn good one at that.

 

[rokkolpo]

So long as most women keep being as picky as they are about whom they will sleep with (or for as long as they are perceived to be this picky), men who have a lot of sex will be looked up to, while women who do the same will be looked down upon by society.

To me, it's not about what sex you are, it's about what sex you're interested in. A gay woman who lays a lot of girls, I would also call something along the lines of "stud". This is because getting to have sex with a woman is generally far harder than getting to have sex with a man (although this stereotype might not count for gay women? I dunno).
We look up to people who do impressive things (e.g. convincing lots of women to have sex with them), but we don't admire people who do easy things (e.g. convincing lots of men to have sex with them).
I dislike the fact that there are negative connotations to promiscuous women though. Sure, having sex with lots of men isn't impressive, but there's nothing negative about it, so long as they stay safe.

To put it like this: Noone's impressed with a man who's had sex with lots of prostitutes, and this man won't be called a stud.

Optimally, it should be equally hard/easy to "get some" for women and men, but this just isn't the case in today's society; therefore I have no problem at all with people treating "studs" and "sluts" differently.

We've got a winner.
I've never looked at it that way, but this will be new fuel for discussions everywhere around me.

 

[Andrecova]

So long as most women keep being as picky as they are about whom they will sleep with (or for as long as they are perceived to be this picky), men who have a lot of sex will be looked up to, while women who do the same will be looked down upon by society.

To me, it's not about what sex you are, it's about what sex you're interested in. A gay woman who lays a lot of girls, I would also call something along the lines of "stud". This is because getting to have sex with a woman is generally far harder than getting to have sex with a man (although this stereotype might not count for gay women? I dunno).
We look up to people who do impressive things (e.g. convincing lots of women to have sex with them), but we don't admire people who do easy things (e.g. convincing lots of men to have sex with them).
I dislike the fact that there are negative connotations to promiscuous women though. Sure, having sex with lots of men isn't impressive, but there's nothing negative about it, so long as they stay safe.

To put it like this: Noone's impressed with a man who's had sex with lots of prostitutes, and this man won't be called a stud.

Optimally, it should be equally hard/easy to "get some" for women and men, but this just isn't the case in today's society; therefore I have no problem at all with people treating "studs" and "sluts" differently.

Yeah, pretty much this.
I've always liked to put this metaphorically though: A key that opens many locks is a Master key. A lock that is opened by many keys, on the other hand, is just a bad lock.

 

[orangeban]

I don't think anyone (man, woman or other) should be called a slut, streetwalker, whore, whatever. I mean, it's their own life and they are enjoying it how they like. I'd advise them to use contraception so as to avoid nasty stuff and unwanted pregnancy but apart from that go crazy for all I care.